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Psychedelic Bookmarks · 9th Mar 2008, 01:41 PM

Inspired by the recent Stephen Fry video.

Personally, I can be attracted to people similar to myself.

SadConfusedBandGeek · 9th Mar 2008, 01:56 PM

Haha same here, because i dress and try to look like, what i would find attractive. So theoretically, if someoen looked like me, i would find them attractive hehe

Hugh · 9th Mar 2008, 01:58 PM

WHAT????? I'd have to be nuts!!!

9th Mar 2008, 01:59 PM

I myself, my personality and looks etc isn't what I find attractive in a partner which makes me a bit self conscious because i'd like to BE what I desire if you know what I mean... bleh

sngl · 9th Mar 2008, 02:07 PM

Lol, absolutely not!

I don't think I would go out with myself

But still, I'd like to be something similar to what I desire though

9th Mar 2008, 02:16 PM

It sounds wierd but yes I am.

Hepcat · 9th Mar 2008, 03:42 PM

Nope, not at all. I would never go out with anyone who looked like me. I hate the way I look.

jroakwood · 9th Mar 2008, 04:20 PM

i dunno, i always see the guys i like as better than me, so if i see a guy the way i see myself.
i'd have to say no.

**Owen** · 9th Mar 2008, 05:51 PM

It actually happened to me before. There's a guy at my school who looks almost exactly like me, and I thought he was cute.

sdc91 · 9th Mar 2008, 06:18 PM

Hm, well I'm not my type at all, so no.

lol it kind of hurts self-esteem a little bit.

MonsieurGodiva · 9th Mar 2008, 06:29 PM

I'd say that as often as not, I'm attracted to people like me.

9th Mar 2008, 06:31 PM

Yep, most times.

sexyalex · 9th Mar 2008, 06:36 PM

please, so not the drama

where is the fun in that?

i rather different style, different culture different backgrounds...etc. that way i am never bored in or out the bedroom.

divadarya · 9th Mar 2008, 07:49 PM

If he was as tall or taller, had a nice face and was smart, yes! I'm still turned on by some tall women, too..

gentlegiant4 · 9th Mar 2008, 07:50 PM

Hahah, when my niece and i went to disneyland, there was this gay couple and, looking back on it, they did look similar. My niece (10 years old) was like "why do all gay couples look alike?" I though it was just her being silly but, apparently this is somewhat well-thought??

It's kind of weird, I'm really attracted to lean/muscly latino guys.. but it's kind of hard to imagine myself in a relationship with one. Not that I dislike them, but it's just easier to see myself with a skinny white guy (like me), who I am normally lukewarm-attracted to.

I doubt that made any sense, but ,.,.yeah

SadConfusedBandGeek · 9th Mar 2008, 07:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gentlegiant4

Hahah, when my niece and i went to disneyland, there was this gay couple and, looking back on it, they did look similar. My niece (10 years old) was like "why do all gay couples look alike?" I though it was just her being silly but, apparently this is somewhat well-thought??

It's kind of weird, I'm really attracted to lean/muscly latino guys.. but it's kind of hard to imagine myself in a relationship with one. Not that I dislike them, but it's just easier to see myself with a skinny white guy (like me), who I am normally lukewarm-attracted to.

I doubt that made any sense, but ,.,.yeah

hahaha that made me laugh =D dont know why lol

Zec24 · 9th Mar 2008, 08:53 PM

No, I don't think I'd like to date someone like myself. I would want my girlfriend to be laid-back like me and open-minded, but that's about all. I tend to like girls that don't look like me and are girly (I tend to be more masculine). I'd also like someone who is funny and can off set my seriousness, you know, compliment me.

Words · 9th Mar 2008, 08:58 PM

Yeah I sorta get this sometimes.

But personality wise, no way! They'd need to be different, yet alike.

Chamber of Life · 9th Mar 2008, 09:05 PM

NO WAY,
I wouldnt be attracted to my self. First off I wouldnt like my personality nor the way I dressed. I like the way I dress but not who I date. It would also be strange dating some one like myself. So I would have to say no.

10th Mar 2008, 12:03 AM

i wouldnt mind having a relationship with a clone of myself.

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Yes, sometimes	149	61.07%
No, I'm not attracted to my own style	27	11.07%
No, being with someone the same as me is a turn off	29	11.89%
No, because both of the above ^	39	15.98%
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9th Mar 2008, 01:41 PM	#1
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Are you attracted to people who look like you? Inspired by the recent Stephen Fry video. Personally, I can be attracted to people similar to myself. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

9th Mar 2008, 01:56 PM	#2
SadConfusedBandGeek Band Geek Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay or Bi?? Out Status: Everyone but parents Location: Canada Age: 19 Posts: 1,129 Join Date: May 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Haha same here, because i dress and try to look like, what i would find attractive. So theoretically, if someoen looked like me, i would find them attractive hehe __________________ When In Doubt, Pull Out!!! Hahaha Dirty Band Jokes

9th Mar 2008, 01:58 PM	#3
Hugh Member Regular Member Gender: 50% male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Bedfordshire, UK Posts: 70 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? WHAT????? I'd have to be nuts!!!

9th Mar 2008, 01:59 PM	#4
Ty Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? I myself, my personality and looks etc isn't what I find attractive in a partner which makes me a bit self conscious because i'd like to BE what I desire if you know what I mean... bleh

9th Mar 2008, 02:07 PM	#5
sngl Trance Fan #1 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Romania Age: 25 Posts: 784 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Lol, absolutely not! I don't think I would go out with myself But still, I'd like to be something similar to what I desire though __________________

9th Mar 2008, 02:16 PM	#6
IHeartDisney Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? It sounds wierd but yes I am.

9th Mar 2008, 03:42 PM	#7
Hepcat EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: New Zealand Age: 22 Posts: 314 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Nope, not at all. I would never go out with anyone who looked like me. I hate the way I look.

9th Mar 2008, 04:20 PM	#8
jroakwood You're My Indian Summer. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Minnesota Age: 21 Posts: 671 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? i dunno, i always see the guys i like as better than me, so if i see a guy the way i see myself. i'd have to say no. __________________ "EVERYBODY SHOULD BE PRO LOVE." -BRITNEY SPEARS

9th Mar 2008, 05:51 PM	#9
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,873 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? It actually happened to me before. There's a guy at my school who looks almost exactly like me, and I thought he was cute. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

9th Mar 2008, 06:18 PM	#10
sdc91 Coop d'état Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Berlin, Germany Age: 21 Posts: 1,607 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Hm, well I'm not my type at all, so no. lol it kind of hurts self-esteem a little bit. __________________

9th Mar 2008, 06:29 PM	#11
MonsieurGodiva Charles Full Member Gender: Queer Orientation: Queer Out Status: All but family Location: Paris Age: 21 Posts: 428 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? I'd say that as often as not, I'm attracted to people like me. __________________ She linger'd, looking like a summer moon / Half-dipt in cloud: anon she shook her head, / And shower'd the rippled ringlets to her knee. --“Godiva” by Alfred, Lord Tennyson

9th Mar 2008, 06:31 PM	#12
Defender Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Yep, most times.

9th Mar 2008, 06:36 PM	#13
sexyalex Fame Monster copy No.2 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to anyone sexy Out Status: only my friends know. Location: Kingston Age: 20 Posts: 1,410 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? please, so not the drama where is the fun in that? i rather different style, different culture different backgrounds...etc. that way i am never bored in or out the bedroom. __________________ I know that we are young and I know that you may love me, but I just can't be with you like this anymore. Alejandro.

9th Mar 2008, 07:49 PM	#14
divadarya Warrior Princess Full Member Gender: MTF Transsexual Orientation: Trans/heteroish(I like men) Out Status: Some people Location: Native Los Angeleno, California Age: 60 Posts: 321 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? If he was as tall or taller, had a nice face and was smart, yes! I'm still turned on by some tall women, too.. __________________ "I was as pure as the driven snow, but I drifted...." Mae West I am more than my Gender, or the clothes that I wear....

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9th Mar 2008, 07:50 PM	#15
gentlegiant4 Well Known Regular Member Gender: XY Orientation: i like d00dz Out Status: Out to everyone Location: az Posts: 163 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Hahah, when my niece and i went to disneyland, there was this gay couple and, looking back on it, they did look similar. My niece (10 years old) was like "why do all gay couples look alike?" I though it was just her being silly but, apparently this is somewhat well-thought?? It's kind of weird, I'm really attracted to lean/muscly latino guys.. but it's kind of hard to imagine myself in a relationship with one. Not that I dislike them, but it's just easier to see myself with a skinny white guy (like me), who I am normally lukewarm-attracted to. I doubt that made any sense, but ,.,.yeah

9th Mar 2008, 08:53 PM	#17
Zec24 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 434 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? No, I don't think I'd like to date someone like myself. I would want my girlfriend to be laid-back like me and open-minded, but that's about all. I tend to like girls that don't look like me and are girly (I tend to be more masculine). I'd also like someone who is funny and can off set my seriousness, you know, compliment me. __________________ ~Not all who wander are lost~

9th Mar 2008, 08:58 PM	#18
Words Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends and my Parents, and Facebook. Location: Hangzhou, China Age: 21 Posts: 117 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? Yeah I sorta get this sometimes. But personality wise, no way! They'd need to be different, yet alike.

9th Mar 2008, 09:05 PM	#19
Chamber of Life In my Naughty Tree!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends. Location: Ohio, USA Age: 21 Posts: 288 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? NO WAY, I wouldnt be attracted to my self. First off I wouldnt like my personality nor the way I dressed. I like the way I dress but not who I date. It would also be strange dating some one like myself. So I would have to say no.

10th Mar 2008, 12:03 AM	#20
smilealways Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Are you attracted to people who look like you? i wouldnt mind having a relationship with a clone of myself.