sex with the opposite sex?

To answer your question, if I, hypothetically speaking, was gay, I would probably not have sex with a girl.

Yes, I'm gay, and no, I would not have sex with a girl. In addition yes, I'm a virgin, yes, I'm at college, and no, I don't see you having sex with a girl having any benefits. So, your friend has had many girlfriends in high school. Chances are good that he will also have many girlfriends in college. Is sexual activity something you are going to be striving for in college? You do realize that there will be other virgins with you at college, right? Being a virgin isn't necessarily a bad thing. It all depends on your personality.

I believe that if you're a gay virgin attempting to have sex with a girl, the only thing I see it being is incredibly awkward. Having sex with a girl "just to see what it's like?" Loosing your virginity is a big thing. At least loose it on something a little more significant...

So what is your personal view on this, exactly?

No, I wouldn't do it. There are other, safer ways to 'test your sexuality,' if that's all you really want to do.

 

I've had a similar situation as well with one of my cousins. He asked me if I had ever done anything with a girl before, and I said no. And then he asked me how I knew I was gay if I've never done anything with a girl.

I then replied to him if he had ever done anything with a guy, he of course said no, and then I asked him how he knew he wasn't gay if he had never done anything with a guy.

He still didn't seem to get it though...oh and to answer the question...no I would never have sex with a girl to "secure" my sexuality.

 

I chose "other" because i was going to vote "no, because it's wrong" but the wording "wrong" wasn't quite what i meant to say.

I think experementing like this would not only have psycological reprocussions on you but also on the partner in sex. The factor of regret could prove to be higher than anticipated for the both of you and among other things, i think sex is just a huge leap from a much simpler measure that won't require such....dramatic measures.

A kiss maybe? Almost just as if not possibly more intimate than sex. HOWEVER, you have to be comfortable kissing your previously chosen 'prefered gender', otherwise your going to be uncomfortable kissing anyway. But if you have kissed, intimately with the same sex....then do so with the opposite, just to test how strong the line is between heterosexuality and you.

If you feel something, an intimate connection as you do or probably more or an intimate connection than with the same sex, maybe your sexuality needs a little more thought because this could be a sign of bi/heterosexuality.

OR

The made-infamous expression by heterosexuals (now re-worded)

Gay but curious. (100% possible)

 

Well, I don't think I would go out and try to find some female to have sex w/, just to "see what it's like." But I also hope I wouldn't stop myself from having sex w/ a female just b/c I've already defined myself as a gay man. If the moment felt right, and I felt like we were on that wavelength together, I think I might go for it.

 

Yeah, I'm pretty much with BaciListConstridium, right now I don't think I would (or maybe even could) have sex with a woman, but you never know, unforseen circumstances might come around, and, if I ever did fall in love with a woman and want to have sex with her, I wouldn't reject it because I define myself as gay.

In fact, it might even be a bit of a relief to be straight for a little while.

 

I've already tried sex with a man. I didn't enjoy it. So, my answer is: other. I wouldn't do it again because it was kinda gross.

 

I DID proposition a female once, but not to test my sexuality. It was a female friend of mine. Her sexual experiences had been...well, "lackluster" hardly describes it. She had had only one sex partner - a boyfriend for three years - who had managed to give her precisely one orgasm during that time. I told her "Look, if you ever want to try for a second, I'm game. I can't promise I'll give you one, but it won't he for lack of trying." She found this offer really sweet (weirdly enough), and she mulled it over, but she decided against it.

She's now married with five kids. This guy is MUCH better at it.

So I answered "no" as that doesn't fit the premise. I was a virgin even after colllege, but I think I turned out OK. Do I wish I could've had more sex earlier on? Sure. I also wish I could fly over the traffic jams, but I don't let it keep me up nights.

Lex

 

I believe if I considered seriously the possibility of being gay before I was with the opposite sex, I would not have needed to 'try' the opposite sex to prove to myself that I was gay. Anyone who knows they are gay early is lucky.

I went through a long detour trying to be bisexual, and whilst I don't regret it, I would have preferred to have been spared all the trouble of wondering why things don't work for me.

If you know your sexuality you don't need to 'try'- you know it anyway.
If you don't know your sexuality, no amount of 'trying' will help you figure it out, because you can always trick yourself into thinking that 'only if you found the right person, maybe it would be ok'.

 

No, I already know I'm 100% Gay...And nothing about a woman sexually arouses me, so I won't be able to get hard anyway...

 

No, I would never. I'm pretty damn sure of who I am, so being with someone I'm not attracted to will just cause guilt and disgust. Plus, men run the risk of pregnancy and serious STD's.

 

This thread is freaking 9 years old!!! There are children who were only a sperm 9 years ago and are now halfway primary school!

 

If I was gay I wouldn't have sex with a girl.

In real, I wouldn't have sex with a guy who doesn't look like a girl.

 

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