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Would religious people date atheists/agnostics?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by musikk021, Feb 12, 2013.

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If you are religious, would you date an atheist/agnostic?

  1. Yes, it's not an issue.

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  2. No, it's a dealbreaker.

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  3. Neutral/don't know/depends.

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  1. musikk021

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    Just a question I've wondered about: if you are religious (especially devoutly so), would you date/consider dating someone who is agnostic/atheist?

    Personally, as an atheist, I would accept that someone I'm interested in has her own religious beliefs. However, I feel like if it were turned around, a religious person would not be so accepting of someone who doesn't believe in their god...or any god at all. Thoughts?
     
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    I'm Christian and I wouldn't mind dating an atheist. I would respect their beliefs and hope that they would respect mine.
     
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    Yes I would date/marry an atheist. I don't have very strong beliefs, but I guess I would say I am religious.
     
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    Dealbreaker for me.

    I have nothing against anybody who believes differently from me, but I want to be able to connect on every level with my partner including spiritually. Plus, if they didn't share my faith, I'm sure they would find my devout nature rather annoying after awhile lol
     
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    I have dated an atheist in the past and wouldn't mind doing so again. It really doesn't matter to me. For some reason, I seem to get along best with Atheists, Agnostics, and Pagans
     
  6. Hell yea! I've seen some cute atheist boys in my day!
     
  7. musikk021

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    I totally get that, which is why I posed this question. I know some people who are very religious and for whom it would be crucial to have a partner who shares the same beliefs. Your faith can be a huge part of who you are, so I can see that it'd be important to be able to connect on that level as well.
     
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    Yes. :slight_smile:
    I love to talk about religion and my faith and I wouldn't want to feel like I was making someone else (especially if they were my partner) uncomfortable by talking about it so much. I'd just feel like I'd have to censor myself.
     
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    As an atheist, I am more concerned about the ethical views of my partner than than his/her religion. I have been attracted to a Mormon woman and a man who follows Ásatrú.
     
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    Religion has rarely come up with my exs, so I don't think it'd matter much.
     
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    I couldn't date an atheist. I wouldn't mind dating someone who chose a different way to express their spirituality. I could not date someone who did not believe in a higher power.
     
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    I'm not sure if I qualify as religious, but I could date an atheist provided they didn't see religion as something inherently bad that needs to be eradicated. As a religious studies major I rather like religion.
     
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    Well said.
     
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    I believe in God, but I am by no means religious and really don't want anything to do with it anymore (due to my experience with it). The beliefs of someone wouldn't matter to me so long as I didn't have those beliefs being constantly shoved in my face or down my throat. I've gotten enough of that my entire life, and I refuse to deal with it again.
     
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    I'm atheist and I'm datingn a former jahovah whitness. So long as you both respect each other's religous beliefes it shouldn't be a problem.
     
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    I'm an atheist but I would date someone religious, as long as they aren't constantly shoving their religion in my face. That would be a dealbreaker. I respect their point of view and I expect them to respect mine.
     
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    i'm an atheist, but i'd happily date a religious person
     
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    I don't know. I'm religious and spiritualist, I wouldn't mind dating someone with a different religion. The problem would be if the person didn't respect my religion or belittle it, and I see it all the time.
    But I don't see problem with dating people with different religious since they respect mine.
     
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    Many atheist start off being religious or grow up in religious homes. I was a christian for most of my life and I have many christian friends. We talk about their beliefs sometimes and it is easy for me to follow and it really doesn't bother me. As long as they respect my choice to be an atheist, we have no problems. So give religious/atheist/agnostic people a chance, they might surprise you :wink:
     
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    I wouldn't mind dating a religious person, provided they held a fairly liberal interpretation of scripture and religious doctrine. Oh, and I don't want to be expected to attend church on Sunday morning. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    Religion can be terribly interesting, and I usually enjoy learning more about it, no matter which religion it is.