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SamAlex728 · 13th Mar 2008, 12:17 AM

im not ready to come out to my parents yet and they are always pushing concepts like "we know you like her" "you think shes hot" "youd like to have her in bed" IM 13!!!!!!!!

they should see the signs that im gay
every time i see a hot guy take his shirt off on tv i have this look in my eyes and i just melt
i avoid the "girls" subject

my older brother has always thought i was gay up until i put on a "straight" face
sorry bad pun

they're always telling dirty jokes and i have the most sick-minded family on earth

they push the straight things and make fun of gays (at least my dad and brother)

STOP PUSHING IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tadms1 · 13th Mar 2008, 01:05 AM

Im Sorry Buddy .. Thats Messed Up .. But I Do The Same At A Hot Guy On The Tv Hahah =] Dont Worry ... You Can Talk To Me About Anything .. Ok =]

heatqueen · 13th Mar 2008, 01:21 AM

No offence but your parents must have some serious issues if you're 13 and they want you to hop into bed with some chick...

I think you should just tell then that you're not ready for that kind of thing, and that most people don't even *think* about relationships, let alone hopping into bed, until they're much older.

13th Mar 2008, 01:21 AM

I was living with my relatives one time and was watching Coronation Street. This gay person tried to kiss the other guy and when I saw that I went all red lol.
anyway they sort of said things like what your parents said and yea, i just change subject when they say stuff.

CrimsonThunder · 13th Mar 2008, 11:05 AM

Personally I'd like to have parents like that, would suit my personality.

However, for you that is a bad thing. Especially considering your age. If you think you have enough courage to stick up for yourself you should tell them that you are only 13 and its going to be a long time till you have a relationship with someone.

Tim · 13th Mar 2008, 11:58 AM

Reminds me of my mom *sigh* she even tried to set me up at one point... beware, ur parents might do that >_<

VomAnderenUfer · 13th Mar 2008, 12:26 PM

My mother does that. She points out guys my age she thinks are "cute" and trys to girltalk with me. I don't even want to go into her sex talks. :::shudder::: If there were ever a chance that I could have been straight, it evaporated right then and there. Both of my parents have been trying to hook me up with one of my brother's friends.

She started when I was about 16 though, so you have a leg up on me there. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I know how it feels when you get the feeling that your own family doesn't accept you for who you are (I think here we've all experienced that a little though). You might not feel ready to come out to them yet, so just tell them that their comments make you uncomfortable because you're young and not yet ready for dating.

stanglvr89 · 13th Mar 2008, 01:47 PM

I know what you mean...my dad does things like that sometimes, and has for the past 3+ years. Every time he brings up a topic like that, I just ignore him...but yea, you should tell your parents that you're still young and dont want a relationship yet, if you dont want to come out to them.

beckyg · 13th Mar 2008, 01:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by heatqueen

No offence but your parents must have some serious issues if you're 13 and they want you to hop into bed with some chick...

I think you should just tell then that you're not ready for that kind of thing, and that most people don't even *think* about relationships, let alone hopping into bed, until they're much older.

I totally agree! What kind of parent encourages their child to have sex at 13? Geez!

13th Mar 2008, 06:36 PM

maybe you parents already know that you are gay

anyway, noones perfect and we all have to deal with different people.
some people just dont learn or change. like me grandad

but you can always try to change them

**lostinthought9** · 13th Mar 2008, 07:00 PM

sorry to hear that, but don't worry, i go through the same thing with my dad, and when he starts with that i just look at him and laugh and turn away, then change the subject...good luck though!

SamAlex728 · 14th Mar 2008, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by beckyg

Quote:

Originally Posted by heatqueen

No offence but your parents must have some serious issues if you're 13 and they want you to hop into bed with some chick...

I think you should just tell then that you're not ready for that kind of thing, and that most people don't even *think* about relationships, let alone hopping into bed, until they're much older.

I totally agree! What kind of parent encourages their child to have sex at 13? Geez!

they werent encouraging but more like trying to read my mind
all my brother thinks about is sex
they probably thought i was like him

13th Mar 2008, 12:17 AM	#1
SamAlex728 EC Addict Full Member Gender: I'm a real boy! Orientation: Expert Cockgazer Out Status: Open Flame Location: Hippieville, Oregon Age: 16 Posts: 2,842 Join Date: Feb 2008	stop pushing it im not ready to come out to my parents yet and they are always pushing concepts like "we know you like her" "you think shes hot" "youd like to have her in bed" IM 13!!!!!!!! they should see the signs that im gay every time i see a hot guy take his shirt off on tv i have this look in my eyes and i just melt i avoid the "girls" subject my older brother has always thought i was gay up until i put on a "straight" face sorry bad pun they're always telling dirty jokes and i have the most sick-minded family on earth they push the straight things and make fun of gays (at least my dad and brother) STOP PUSHING IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

13th Mar 2008, 01:05 AM	#2
Tadms1 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Elko Posts: 10 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: stop pushing it Im Sorry Buddy .. Thats Messed Up .. But I Do The Same At A Hot Guy On The Tv Hahah =] Dont Worry ... You Can Talk To Me About Anything .. Ok =] __________________ TORY

13th Mar 2008, 01:21 AM	#3
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,707 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: stop pushing it No offence but your parents must have some serious issues if you're 13 and they want you to hop into bed with some chick... I think you should just tell then that you're not ready for that kind of thing, and that most people don't even think about relationships, let alone hopping into bed, until they're much older. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

13th Mar 2008, 01:21 AM	#4
smilealways Guest Posts: n/a	Re: stop pushing it I was living with my relatives one time and was watching Coronation Street. This gay person tried to kiss the other guy and when I saw that I went all red lol. anyway they sort of said things like what your parents said and yea, i just change subject when they say stuff.

13th Mar 2008, 11:05 AM	#5
CrimsonThunder Seventh Son of a Seventh Son Full Member Gender: Boy Orientation: Bi Out Status: Friends, Work, Whoever knows Location: South Australian! Posts: 3,536 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: stop pushing it Personally I'd like to have parents like that, would suit my personality. However, for you that is a bad thing. Especially considering your age. If you think you have enough courage to stick up for yourself you should tell them that you are only 13 and its going to be a long time till you have a relationship with someone. __________________ Biggest car buff around.

13th Mar 2008, 11:58 AM	#6
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: stop pushing it Reminds me of my mom sigh she even tried to set me up at one point... beware, ur parents might do that >_<

13th Mar 2008, 12:26 PM	#7
VomAnderenUfer Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out :-) Location: Germany Age: 24 Posts: 63 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: stop pushing it My mother does that. She points out guys my age she thinks are "cute" and trys to girltalk with me. I don't even want to go into her sex talks. :::shudder::: If there were ever a chance that I could have been straight, it evaporated right then and there. Both of my parents have been trying to hook me up with one of my brother's friends. She started when I was about 16 though, so you have a leg up on me there. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I know how it feels when you get the feeling that your own family doesn't accept you for who you are (I think here we've all experienced that a little though). You might not feel ready to come out to them yet, so just tell them that their comments make you uncomfortable because you're young and not yet ready for dating.

13th Mar 2008, 01:47 PM	#8
stanglvr89 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% Gay Out Status: 1 person Location: Washington PA Age: 22 Posts: 35 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: stop pushing it I know what you mean...my dad does things like that sometimes, and has for the past 3+ years. Every time he brings up a topic like that, I just ignore him...but yea, you should tell your parents that you're still young and dont want a relationship yet, if you dont want to come out to them.

13th Mar 2008, 06:36 PM	#10
smilealways Guest Posts: n/a	Re: stop pushing it maybe you parents already know that you are gay anyway, noones perfect and we all have to deal with different people. some people just dont learn or change. like me grandad but you can always try to change them

13th Mar 2008, 07:00 PM	#11
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,059 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: stop pushing it sorry to hear that, but don't worry, i go through the same thing with my dad, and when he starts with that i just look at him and laugh and turn away, then change the subject...good luck though! __________________

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