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What Constitutes A True Sexual Fantasy?

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  1. OMGWTFBBQ

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    I don't think I've ever had one.

    Maybe thoughts, But...is it like, actually feeling like you're experiencing it while playing it in your mind?

    I don't know if I've ever had a fantasy of any kind TBH. just intermittent space outs, maybe while looking at someone's goods.

    For reference I am super horny :slight_smile:
     
  2. myheartincheck

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    Uuuum thoughts that make you horny are sexual fantasies right??? @_@ I'm not sure I should say anything because my fantasies are usually in dream form.
     
  3. OMGWTFBBQ

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    yeah that's what I mean. I can daydream but they aren't really...vivid, i guess.
     
  4. Owen

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    I've only once had a fantasy where it actually felt like I was experiencing it while playing it in my mind, to borrow your language. If that's your definition of a sexual fantasy, then they're probably really, really rare, if not nonexistent, in everyone. (It was kind of a cruel experience, actually, because it really felt like I was getting physical with this guy I really cared about, and then it just ended... but that's another story.)

    Have you ever fantasized while masturbating? (Rhetorical question; you don't have to answer it if you don't want to.) If you have, those fantasies probably count as sexual fantasies; they're sexual for you, after all. :slight_smile:
     
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    Yeah I daydream too but it never gets too detailed really. It's weird putting myself in a sexual situation in my head vividly because I don't have any experiences with women lol
     
  6. OMGWTFBBQ

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    heh I see.

    yes, I have. But it's either replaying a past experience or just using porn. l really have a hard time just conjuring up something like how people describe "and then the naughty nurse touched my _____ and said, "_______"...", etc.

    l'm not a hugely visual person aside from enjoying the look of a woman's body IRL and in photos. It might have something to do with it.
     
  7. Owen

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    Hmm... in that case, maybe you really haven't had one. But hey, different strokes for different folks, as they say.
     
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    I have them all the time by daydreaming. I have a very vivid imagination. Sometimes I'll even daydream while I'm driving and wonder how I got home safely. o-o
     
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    Easy. Fantasy + sex = Sexual fantasy :grin:

    Not sure what you mean about true sexual fantasy, but if you are thinking, and those thoughts contain sex in a scenario that you haven`t experienced, but just imagining, then you`re having a sexual fantasy. If you picture yourself having sex on the bus, or watching strangers have sex on a bus, then you`re having a sexual fantasy about sex on a bus.

    If you are thinking about masturbation, then it`s not a sexual fantasy. If you are picturing yourself masturbating while someone is helping or watching, and you are not remembering something that has happened, then it`s a sexual fantasy. It can be when you are awake, and just drifting into thought, or actively picturing it, or you can have it in your sleep, more like a wet dream :wink:
     
  10. LoveMusicPoetry

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    Anything that involves my crush is a sexual fantasy. Sitting in lectures, trying to concentrate on pretty indepth literary theory is quite difficult with her sitting opposite me. If anybody has any special magic that can make a straight girl fall maddly in love with me, can they please send me some. Even an illicit encounter round the back of the bike sheds will do.
     
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    Me too. I always fantasize when masturbating, usually in the shower. I'm showering with the gay son of a good friend. Sometimes there's three of us and I'm the meat in the sandwich. Works every t:icon_biggime!
     
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    Straight girls are easy when they`re drunk and on a party, but that is about as far as I know about magical solutions. Especially straight girls with a boyfriend for some reason :dry: Maybe their guys aren`t doing a good enough job in that area :lol:

    I used to, back in my younger days, pretty much have a career in seducing straight girls. Never took it further than make-out sessions, but boy where they easier than the gay girls. All you had to do was make a confused frown and comment on how you keep losing track of the conversation because they are so damned beautiful, and they`re like bees around a glass of lemonade. I don`t think straight girls get enough compliments from the guys they hang around. Or maybe gay girls deliver the lines better :lol: But yeah, make them feel like the hottest chick in the room, and it works miracles. Where on lesbians, who actually know the tricks, you have to be good at playing the game instead, and that`s where I struggle. I am lousy with chick games :lol:
     
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    Really? Cheers FemCasanova, I'm gonna get her drunk. I love her, I can say nice things to her. Does it ever work when they aren't drunk, or would I just get punched in the face?
     
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    Hm, if she`s a friend, then it`s trickier :wink: You might have a big problem the day after!

    Oh, and a moral disclaimer; it`s not so bad to take a bit of advantage of the alcohol if they`re just a bit intoxicated, but if they are down-right drunk then it crosses the border into not so nice, and I would not do it. They might really regret it when they are sober. It`s only okay to take advantage of it if they are sober enough to tell you they are really usually straight, but for you they`ll make an exception :wink: Not okay if they are so drunk they forget that they`re straight or have trouble walking in a straight line :lol:

    But straight girls really like to make out with lesbians when they`ve been drinking, for some reason :dry:
     
  15. LoveMusicPoetry

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    Hell no, I'd never take advantage of somebody who was absolutely wasted. Plus I wouldn't want to hurt her, she's lovely and I really like her. I know I've got no chance really, it's just a silly fantasy. :tears:
     
  16. stuffiscool

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    o____O Sex fantasies are rare? I mean, I don't know what I dream about at night, but I have many during the day.
     
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    Me.

    Really though, I always thought the true definition of a fantasy is something that you really reeeeaaaaalllyyyy like or want. Anything. Which is why most of them are unrealistic or are unrealistically going to happen to you. That's the power of imagination! Can be anything from the best sex to just your crush telling you they love you. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    ohhh i never thought of it this way. l interpreted it like a literal situation in which things that aren't real happen lol.

    I have had a very brief fantasy then.
     
  19. jeanie

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    I've always had really detailed sexual fantasies. I'm a writer so I'm always imagining characters and scenarios. Most of my characters lead very active and pornographic sex lives lol.
     
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    something You would love to happen.
    example being my supervisor at work call him D anyway hes straight but he`s what I would call ''Fit As Fuck'' He`s engaged to a co worker sam who am close to. she knows
    how I feel :slight_smile: