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neverover · 16th Mar 2008, 12:48 PM

im not. i love being legalized on paper as married to a guy. but i found out that many gays are marriage-phobics (i dont know what to call that one

). maybe i wanna be married because my family is happy when theyre married. even tho its just a status, i would love one. but if i cant, im wouldnt throw a tantrum.

sngl · 16th Mar 2008, 12:59 PM

While I was still in denial and thinking that I'm straight, I had always imagined that eventually I would get married to a woman and have kids. Though I never really wanted to do that...I just thought that I probably would, because everybody does that

And I'm quite terrible with kids, but maybe I still want some with a partner who's better with them...but I don't know, I'm not really concerned with this right now.

And about marriage with another guy: I'm not really scared of it, but it's not like one of my biggest dreams or anything. I'll just wait and see what the futute holds lol

16th Mar 2008, 01:06 PM

Haha I'm not gonna lie I am kind of afraid of marriage. Idk I think there's so many people out there I wouldn't even think about settling down for a long long time.

16th Mar 2008, 01:46 PM

i can't say I'm affraid of it, I haven't actually given it much thought but I think I'd quite like to settle down with a guy at some point.

**Jim1454** · 16th Mar 2008, 02:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sngl

While I was still in denial and thinking that I'm straight, I had always imagined that eventually I would get married to a woman and have kids. Though I never really wanted to do that...I just thought that I probably would, because everybody does that

And I'm quite terrible with kids, but maybe I still want some with a partner who's better with them...but I don't know, I'm not really concerned with this right now.

And about marriage with another guy: I'm not really scared of it, but it's not like one of my biggest dreams or anything. I'll just wait and see what the futute holds lol

Been there, done that. I got married to a woman. I'm not sure I really need to be married to a man.

**Martin** · 16th Mar 2008, 03:43 PM

I'm not afraid of them, but I am not really mad about the idea of them either. If whoever i was with wanted it then i wouldn't say no, but it wouldn't be a priority for me to get married.

jroakwood · 16th Mar 2008, 10:23 PM

hahah. gay marriage in the USA?
doesnt exist, so im not afraid. heheh.

but i would love to get married someday. :]
gotta love the romance of it all.

16th Mar 2008, 10:53 PM

ooh im scared of marriage. its an evil thing

lol obviously not.

Thatsit · 16th Mar 2008, 11:35 PM

hmm, well I'm not really afraid of it, but I feel like I wouldn't want to be "married" to a guy, idk...
If a guy I was with for a long time wanted one, I guess I would do it but, meh
I would just like settling with someone, I guess I don't really feel the need to be married

ok455 · 17th Mar 2008, 01:15 AM

I'm more scared of being single for the rest of my life then anything.

But the thought of being in a serious relationship does scare me. I never had a boyfriend before just a special friend. So when i do find a boyfriend im just scared about impressing him and stuff. Not to be annoying stuff like that

Aries · 17th Mar 2008, 01:34 AM

I am constantly telling myself that I am not afraid to get married but honestly I think I truly am.
I don't know I mean just the thought becomes exciting, the thought of belonging to someone and having someone belong to me, it just makes me feel all happy and special..
But seeing some of my friends married parents and stuff, them being all unhappy, it just scares me in a way.
But I will be in denial about that until the day I die.. I really want to get married!! Hehe

Vampyrecat · 17th Mar 2008, 02:04 AM

I think that marriage is a beautiful thing which should be able to be celebrated by any two people who are in love with each other. Even if that marriage does not last, it is still the joining of two people's love which I think is one of the most important things that a human can do.

17th Mar 2008, 03:20 AM

Well one of my future plans is to adopt , so marrige/domestic partnership is a must before im adopting.

Tim · 17th Mar 2008, 06:08 AM

The only thing I'm "Scared" of is the fact it's still illegal in 90% of the USA >_<

Alexander · 17th Mar 2008, 08:19 AM

I'm definitely not scared of marriage to a guy. I think that marriage really brings together a relationship - it really seals the deal. Plus it's uber romantic

sdc91 · 17th Mar 2008, 08:32 AM

No, I'm going to get married some day.

If not for the romantic aspect, then for those bajillion rights I get.

17th Mar 2008, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mrrolemodel

hahah. gay marriage in the USA?
doesnt exist, so im not afraid. heheh.

but i would love to get married someday. :]
gotta love the romance of it all.

lol. So true.
But if gay marriage isn't looked down on, I'd be scared as hell.
Commitment is just a scary thought for me. Why couldn't we just be, you know, "friends with benefits?"

pirateninja · 17th Mar 2008, 10:05 AM

I definitely want to get married to a lovely woman one day. I know my family would feel better about it too, half of them think that being gay = no marriage at all, so it might quell some of their qualms.

Oooh... alliteration.

Orion · 17th Mar 2008, 12:35 PM

Of course not! Marriage can seem frightening when it challenges you single-ness freedom. But if I were with someone I loved, then marriage would mean the ultimate step in our relationship.

To be able to stablish ourselves in front of society, in front of everyone, is like a dream come true. Plus it's effing romantic

16th Mar 2008, 12:48 PM	#1
neverover I Got Your Display of Affection Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I Kiss Men With Lust Out Status: I'm Afraid If I Tell You I Have to Kill You Location: jakarta, indonesia Age: 21 Posts: 829 Join Date: Sep 2007	are u scared of marriage? im not. i love being legalized on paper as married to a guy. but i found out that many gays are marriage-phobics (i dont know what to call that one). maybe i wanna be married because my family is happy when theyre married. even tho its just a status, i would love one. but if i cant, im wouldnt throw a tantrum. __________________ I have met myself. He is quite a gentleman. But I'm too scared to get to know him. Nah, maybe we should just forget about this. You know what? I wanna do another quantum leap. After all, we're just molecules that can talk.

16th Mar 2008, 12:59 PM	#2
sngl Trance Fan #1 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Romania Age: 25 Posts: 784 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: are u scared of marriage? While I was still in denial and thinking that I'm straight, I had always imagined that eventually I would get married to a woman and have kids. Though I never really wanted to do that...I just thought that I probably would, because everybody does that And I'm quite terrible with kids, but maybe I still want some with a partner who's better with them...but I don't know, I'm not really concerned with this right now. And about marriage with another guy: I'm not really scared of it, but it's not like one of my biggest dreams or anything. I'll just wait and see what the futute holds lol __________________

16th Mar 2008, 01:06 PM	#3
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: are u scared of marriage? Haha I'm not gonna lie I am kind of afraid of marriage. Idk I think there's so many people out there I wouldn't even think about settling down for a long long time.

16th Mar 2008, 01:46 PM	#4
JWAD Guest Posts: n/a	Re: are u scared of marriage? i can't say I'm affraid of it, I haven't actually given it much thought but I think I'd quite like to settle down with a guy at some point.

16th Mar 2008, 03:43 PM	#6
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,047 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: are u scared of marriage? I'm not afraid of them, but I am not really mad about the idea of them either. If whoever i was with wanted it then i wouldn't say no, but it wouldn't be a priority for me to get married. __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?

16th Mar 2008, 10:23 PM	#7
jroakwood You're My Indian Summer. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Minnesota Age: 21 Posts: 671 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: are u scared of marriage? hahah. gay marriage in the USA? doesnt exist, so im not afraid. heheh. but i would love to get married someday. :] gotta love the romance of it all. __________________ "EVERYBODY SHOULD BE PRO LOVE." -BRITNEY SPEARS

16th Mar 2008, 10:53 PM	#8
smilealways Guest Posts: n/a	Re: are u scared of marriage? ooh im scared of marriage. its an evil thing lol obviously not.

16th Mar 2008, 11:35 PM	#9
Thatsit aka RyanMan (or Ryan) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: The friends I care to tell. Family'll come later Location: Champaign, Illinois Age: 21 Posts: 259 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: are u scared of marriage? hmm, well I'm not really afraid of it, but I feel like I wouldn't want to be "married" to a guy, idk... If a guy I was with for a long time wanted one, I guess I would do it but, meh I would just like settling with someone, I guess I don't really feel the need to be married

17th Mar 2008, 01:15 AM	#10
ok455 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Can't tell L!O!L Age: 24 Posts: 437 Join Date: May 2005	Re: are u scared of marriage? I'm more scared of being single for the rest of my life then anything. But the thought of being in a serious relationship does scare me. I never had a boyfriend before just a special friend. So when i do find a boyfriend im just scared about impressing him and stuff. Not to be annoying stuff like that __________________ http://209.50.252.116/smile.gif

17th Mar 2008, 01:34 AM	#11
Aries Wish I Was A Cupcake O.o Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Everyone Who Cares! O.o Location: Riverside, California Age: 24 Posts: 112 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: are u scared of marriage? I am constantly telling myself that I am not afraid to get married but honestly I think I truly am. I don't know I mean just the thought becomes exciting, the thought of belonging to someone and having someone belong to me, it just makes me feel all happy and special.. But seeing some of my friends married parents and stuff, them being all unhappy, it just scares me in a way. But I will be in denial about that until the day I die.. I really want to get married!! Hehe __________________

17th Mar 2008, 02:04 AM	#12
Vampyrecat "Meow" Said the Cat. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Everybody who Matters to me. Location: 1 hour east of Portland, Vic. Age: 20 Posts: 1,622 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: are u scared of marriage? I think that marriage is a beautiful thing which should be able to be celebrated by any two people who are in love with each other. Even if that marriage does not last, it is still the joining of two people's love which I think is one of the most important things that a human can do. __________________ Call me Tess. Hey lets all eat chocolate!!!!!!!!!! Nom nom nom. Is the EC Gf of Heatqueen. Telly forever

17th Mar 2008, 03:20 AM	#13
Bader Guest Posts: n/a	Re: are u scared of marriage? Well one of my future plans is to adopt , so marrige/domestic partnership is a must before im adopting.

17th Mar 2008, 06:08 AM	#14
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: are u scared of marriage? The only thing I'm "Scared" of is the fact it's still illegal in 90% of the USA >_< __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

17th Mar 2008, 08:19 AM	#15
Alexander EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Red Hook NY Age: 19 Posts: 2,736 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: are u scared of marriage? I'm definitely not scared of marriage to a guy. I think that marriage really brings together a relationship - it really seals the deal. Plus it's uber romantic

17th Mar 2008, 08:32 AM	#16
sdc91 Coop d'état Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Berlin, Germany Age: 21 Posts: 1,607 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: are u scared of marriage? No, I'm going to get married some day. If not for the romantic aspect, then for those bajillion rights I get. __________________

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Orion The Sparkling Constellation Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: One. Who remembers it after all :p Location: Argentina Age: 22 Posts: 272 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: are u scared of marriage? Of course not! Marriage can seem frightening when it challenges you single-ness freedom. But if I were with someone I loved, then marriage would mean the ultimate step in our relationship. To be able to stablish ourselves in front of society, in front of everyone, is like a dream come true. Plus it's effing romantic __________________ "It's like all of my life, everyone has always told me: You're a shoe!. You're a shoe! You're a shoe! You're a shoe! And actually I've just stopped and I said: What If I don't wanna be shoe? What if I want to be a purse? Or a hat?" Rachel Greene - Friends 1x01 (The First One)