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Chamber of Life · 16th Mar 2008, 06:05 PM

Well I have a problem... well I dont know if it's a problem.

So I have a friend who is a girl and we're really close. But I think mentally I'm attracted to her. Physical, no because I'm gay. It seems really weird. Like if her mind was in a male's body I would totally be so flipping excited. Mentally I'm soooo attrached to her and I dont know what to do? So, have you guys ever been attrached the opposite sex.

Jace · 21st Mar 2008, 11:41 PM

Like that, yes lots of times, I guess I just haven't found the right GUY yet, hell I haven't even found a GAY guy yet lol, a gay guy would be great haha

Several · 22nd Mar 2008, 12:21 AM

I've experience that one time. I know, it's sooo weird. I mean, i AM gay so I should be attracted to girls, but this particular girl was cute and more! I've even asked her out on a friend-date.

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 22nd Mar 2008, 03:28 AM

When I was at primary school (aged about 8) I had a friend-boy who I really liked. I had a sort of boy-crush on him. People used to say that we were going out and stuff (like little kids do). I suppose I would say i had a mental crush on him. He was fun

**Owen** · 22nd Mar 2008, 04:47 AM

That's happened to me before, too. There was this girl who I was a peer mentor for when she came to our school, and after we got to know each other, I became mentally attracted to her. Then it got complicated, and it slowly faded away.

22nd Mar 2008, 04:49 AM

This is called being "homoflexible", perfectly normal.

crystaltriforce · 13th Dec 2008, 08:57 PM

it could be sexual tension.

16th Mar 2008, 06:05 PM	#1
Chamber of Life In my Naughty Tree!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends. Location: Ohio, USA Age: 21 Posts: 288 Join Date: Feb 2008	gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally Well I have a problem... well I dont know if it's a problem. So I have a friend who is a girl and we're really close. But I think mentally I'm attracted to her. Physical, no because I'm gay. It seems really weird. Like if her mind was in a male's body I would totally be so flipping excited. Mentally I'm soooo attrached to her and I dont know what to do? So, have you guys ever been attrached the opposite sex. Last edited by Chamber of Life; 16th Mar 2008 at 06:14 PM..

21st Mar 2008, 11:41 PM	#2
Jace EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone except non-imediate family. Location: texaass Age: 18 Posts: 429 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally Like that, yes lots of times, I guess I just haven't found the right GUY yet, hell I haven't even found a GAY guy yet lol, a gay guy would be great haha

22nd Mar 2008, 12:21 AM	#3
Several Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay, but not fem Posts: 16 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally I've experience that one time. I know, it's sooo weird. I mean, i AM gay so I should be attracted to girls, but this particular girl was cute and more! I've even asked her out on a friend-date.

22nd Mar 2008, 03:28 AM	#4
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally When I was at primary school (aged about 8) I had a friend-boy who I really liked. I had a sort of boy-crush on him. People used to say that we were going out and stuff (like little kids do). I suppose I would say i had a mental crush on him. He was fun __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

22nd Mar 2008, 04:47 AM	#5
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,873 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally That's happened to me before, too. There was this girl who I was a peer mentor for when she came to our school, and after we got to know each other, I became mentally attracted to her. Then it got complicated, and it slowly faded away. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

22nd Mar 2008, 04:49 AM	#6
Connor Guest Posts: n/a	Re: gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally This is called being "homoflexible", perfectly normal.

13th Dec 2008, 08:57 PM	#7
crystaltriforce raised by nintendo and sega Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: all but extended family Location: outside of Philadelphia Age: 21 Posts: 1,825 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: gay or lesbian but attracted to the opposite sex mentally it could be sexual tension. __________________ we need masculinity....PUT ON THE "FUZZY FUZZY CUTE CUTE" SONG!!!

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