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What was your first time like?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Gazza123, Mar 9, 2013.

  1. Gazza123

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    It's probably been asked before in here but my curious nature is getting the better of me.

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    What was your first time like? And of course what I mean is sex just incase it wasn't clear.

    So you can go into as much or as little detail as you want just nothing too, well graphic, I dunno if that's the right word to use but I'm going with it.

    So....
     
  2. DanD

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    Still waiting to find out
     
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    I felt sick and did not attend school for a week. I didn't even get an erection at all, except when I thought about it after. I was twelve.
     
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    There was a group of 3 of us in about the seventh grade. We would go to the house of one guy and put on his older sister's underwear. One guy lost interest but then there were two of us left. We progressed to regular oral sex, stopping just short of cumming in each others mouths, and did simulated anal sex by rubbing our cocks in each others ass crack. That went on for a while until he also lost interest. I never lost interest and sought out other guys all through high school, also dating girls occasionally, eventually going "all the way" at 18. By that time I had sex with several guys. I don't remember the first time exactly but I do know I always enjoyed all sex. It didn't matter if it was John, Jane, Rosie Palm or any combination of them.
     
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    It wasn't bad, but not as much fun as later experiences for various reasons that will probably be obvious.

    I was 19, in college and part of a Taekwondo club that met a couple times a week. At the time we were meeting in an on-campus 'multi-purpose space' that had a small locker/shower room in the basement. After class the instructor, a couple of senior students and myself would go down there to shower before going to class or work. There were sometimes 1-2 other people there from other things going on in the building at the same time, including this one guy who was apparently in a dance class (he was built like a dancer and I saw him in the class a couple times when our club was leaving the building some days).

    So, the showers were all just an open space along two walls, no partitions or anything. The other club members and myself would shower and talk as guys do in a locker room and this guy would shower right next to me. Except that his version of showering seemed to involve a lot of cleaning of his crotch and sometimes he seemed to be getting aroused. No one else seemed to notice and at first I pretty much just went 'well, whatever dude' and ignored him. Except that he seemed to be get more and more blatant (in every way you can think of) each time we were showering and seemed to be sort of throwing glances my way as he did it. Which I tried to ignore but also found myself not ignoring...

    Thinking back on it, this guy was perhaps not being the brightest bulb in the box here given that he was showering with three guys who each knew maybe a dozen ways to kill a man with their bare hands and maybe twice that many ways to just break bones or damage organs without killing. Plus myself, and even at my basic level of skill at the time, I probably knew a half dozen ways to cause major damage and 1-2 tricks that would theoretically be lethal if I ever applied em. And I'm a pretty good size guy just on general principles. And he had to have NO idea what the reaction would be if anyone figured out what he was doing or decided to get pissed about it. The things people will do for...lust.

    This probably went on for about 2-3 weeks before the light bulb finally went off that this guy was *hitting* on me, not just being strange (or in addition to being strange). At this point in my life the idea that anyone (of any gender) could be attracted to me simply did not exist in my conceptual universe so I was more than a bit slow on the uptake. The thing that kind of tripped the switch was that he came up to me at the water fountain after we were done showering and dressing one day and said he would be waiting outside for me and then left. I kind of went 'Um, Ok' and then shook my head and left by another door, thoroughly confused as to why he would tell me that. I think it was within the next hour that that light-bulb finally went off...

    Anyway, to make a long story short (Too late!! says the audience), the next week after showers I followed him into the bathroom that was next to the locker room and one thing led to another and here we are. As far as what it was like: It felt good, but was awkward and nerve wracking (someone could have walked in at any point, fortunately the building was pretty deserted at that hour) and I had no clue what I was doing beyond general notions imparted from straight porn. We hooked up (oral and hands only) maybe 3-4 more times over the next months, the last at my apartment since I was living off campus by that point. After that I put a stop to it, because while the notion of being into guys didn't bother me one bit, the idea of even the possibility of any sort of serious intimacy or feeling toward another human being scared the crap out of me and was NOT something I felt I could deal with just then.

    I basically spent the next year or so, until I was 21, working through a lot of different things in my life, such that shortly after my 21st birthday I went out and initiated a hookup with a guy, followed by figuring out/concluding I was gay (rather than just experimenting or bi or the like), followed by starting to come out and date a bit. I also ran into my 'friend' a couple more times before reaching a point where I was looking for more serious relationships. I never knew his name (neither of us ever asked or volunteered and we were both fine with that), but I still think of this fondly and wish him well wherever he is.

    Todd
     
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    I was 18 (freshman in college) and had been dating her about a week and invited her to my marching band banquet as my date. I needed to go home and get a dress to wear. My family went to Orlando, FL that week without me so I asked her to come with. I live an hour and a half away from school so I didn't really plan on just running home, grabbing the dress, and coming back. I figured I'd stay for the weekend and enjoy sleeping in my own bed again without a roommate.

    We went into my sister's room (because it was the cleanest) and...yeah. It was great. Definitely not what I had anticipated it would feel like with someone else.

    The next day, we went shopping for a vibrator for me, haha. I've been with the same girl ever since.
     
  8. Gazza123

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    This is partly the reason im curious


    Thanks everyone for your responses so far
     
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    well the first time, i was scared and feeling guilty, i took time out until the second time, then again felt guilty and took time out, slowly over the years, the guilt and the ashamedness vanished
     
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    Watching a movie lying on my girlfriend's bed, turned into making out, and went from there.
     
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    I didn't get what all the hype was about. It hurt and was really boring. Of course, that was with a man, and I've since figures out why it bored me so much...lol. Still waiting to be with a woman...
     
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    I'm pretty sure a thread about this already exists

    I'm still a virgin, but two weeks ago, a guy I've only met for a few hours offered the proposal of taking my virginity through the Internet. At first I was really excited, and we talked dirty and exchanged pictures. However, I soon realized that he's a complete pervert, and it would be hard to meet up with him without getting my family suspicious. So we stopped talking, but I can resume his plan anytime that I want. Any advice here? I'm in a big crossroad now.
     
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    Stay away!!!! Really! You'll regret doing it this way down the road. No, no, no...for that and so many personal safety reasons.
     
  14. Gazza123

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    I second this. It's a bad idea
     
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    just turned 17 and we met a few times for coffee he was bi I know he wanted something a bit more physical so I asked him if we could go to his place he was bottom we met a few more times till his GF got pregnant
     
  16. caadam

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    Pretty horrifying, to be perfectly honest. It wasn't enjoyable, it was boring, and on the way
    home the guy told me if I wanted a relationship with him, I would have to lose weight. It left me
    feeling used and unwanted.

    Needless to say, I'm a bit jealous of people whose first times were more pleasant, lol. But I'm
    also happy for them—I wouldn't want them to go through what I did.
     
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    Could you explain what you mean by a complete pervert?

    Or at least meet him and kick his nuts XD
     
  18. Kidd

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    I guess it depends on what you use to describe "virginity." I technically lost my virginity with another boy my age before I could really even ejaculate, because I was so young. I don't know if you can count that or not. It went on for a while, it wasn't a one time thing. I don't think we even really knew what we were doing, only that it felt good.

    I didn't do much of anything beyond that until about six months ago. I had a one-night-stand with a professor after a late class. We went back to his house. I was drunk. I had smuggled wine into my class in a thermus, and finished the bottle when I got to his place. Things moved pretty quickly and about halfway through it, I got stone cold sober in about 2.2 seconds and I wanted it to be over. If it hadn't ended when it did I would have cried during it. I felt very used and dirty and upset about it for a few days afterward, but I think it was very sexually empowering now in retrospect. I feel much more in control of my body, and proud of it. Since then...I've been a bit of a nympho. I've had a football player, a second flootball player, a cop, a theater major, and a bisexual guy.

    None of the following experiences after the professor were bad.
     
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    It was when I was 13. There was three of us giving eachother handjobs but one lost interest. So it was just me and him but is escalated from there. It was kinda fun the first time but it started to hurt after a while.
     
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    I separate between my first girlsex and malesex experience. My first time with a man was frustrating as hell, because we had to try a few times before we got it right. When we finally did get it right I was drunk, and it was on some fancy hotel somewhere on a business trip which I got to come along. It wasn`t very memorable.

    First girlsex experience? Drunk as a skunk on a party. She tried to get me to bed all night, I was kind of searching for a relationship, not a one night stand, so I held off, until some time late in the night when her efforts finally paid off and I surrendered. Not very memorable either, if it hadn`t been my first, and if the frustration over not knowing if she faked it or not afterwards :frowning2:

    Ah well, first times are overrated, lol!