Fear of anal sex. Not fear fear but disease wise

You can't get cut unless you're sticking something sharp in there. But you can tear the tissue easily.

 

Who are you planning to have sex with? How many people? Do you know them? Are you using condoms and lube?

If you are having sex with people that you've only just met and you're not using a condom, then your risk of catching something is high.
However if you've known your sex partners long enough to be able to tell that they are probably safe, and you're using condoms/lube, then the risk is low enough that you don't have to worry about it.

The most important thing for you to do is to not say to yourself "just this once" and go and screw some guy you just met without using protection. It only needs to happen once to catch something - it's not like you have to have unprotected sex for a while before you can get an STD.

 

Another thing to keep in mind: you can't trust it when a guy you don't know well says he is clean of STDs. He may have something he doesn't know about. He may even be lying. So assume the worst. And, as stated above, always use protection.

 

Protected sex with someone you know is safe. If you want to be an HIVaphobe worry about the people who handle your food accidentally bleeding into it.

 

Very accurate tests. I get tested every 6 months for HIV, and yearly for the rest including Hep b, c, syphlis, ghonerea just to be safe. First off you never know what your partner might bring back to you. It is just good to know! Early detection of these are best. Everyone is so worried about HIV and that is treatable these days, I was a teen when people would drop dead in 3 to 6 months from it. Hep c is way more scary and worse than that is the med resistant strains of syphlis, and ghonerea going around. Those two are easily caught, where as HIV and Hep are harder. June

 

We have these things called condoms. I dunno, it's science.

 

misinformed about condoms Alexandra it`s 99.9% safe when used properly as for bareback I had it a few times with my ex who id known a few months and then my friends made me get checked up after it .

 

All posters before me were right on. Nothing to add without being repetitive. You asked specifically about anal but as long as STDs are being discussed Herpes is worth mentioning. You can get genital Herpes from something as simple as oral sex with someone who has an active cold sore around their mouth.

 

always use condoms, u can never know what the other person has unless you trust him.
me and my partner used condoms at first and did HIV test and Hep test, we were both - and after 6 month we retested again to make sure of everything, then when we trusted each other, we did it bareback
as for getting cut or tearing tissues, be sure to use a good water based lube and have diet rich in fibers
having a cut or a tear increases the risk of contracting a disease (can also be painful) so if you have anal fissures or a cut, it's better not to have sex and wait till it's healed

 

The only problem I've ever heard with HIV tests is that it takes a while after getting the virus for the test to pick it up. The number I remember (but I may be wrong) is 3 months.

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I have heard that for anal intercourse some recommend extra strong condoms, and avoiding ultra thin. Not sure if this is necessary, but it may not be a bad idea, particularly with people whom you don't know well.

 

Nah there's no significant difference:An evaluation of a thicker versus a standard condom with gay men : AIDS Society

"Results: No significant differences were found between the two condom types with respect to either clinical or non-clinical definitions of failure (breakage and slippage). With instances of inappropriate use removed, failure rates for the standard and the thicker condom were low at 2.5 and 2.3%, respectively. User characteristics associated with breakage were lower educational achievement, lack of confidence in condom use, and a history of condom breakage. Behaviours associated with breakage were unrolling the condom before fitting to the penis, longer penis length, absence of additional lubricant, the use of inappropriate lubricant, and longer duration of intercourse."

 

Would it be rude or off putting to demand that anyone that you wish to engage in sexual activity with or wishes to with you pass a test for HIV and other STD's beforehand? Because that's what I'd do - people can lie.

 

This thread makes me appreciate having those good exciting times in the years before all these STDs became such an issue.

 

HIV can not be spread outside of a living environment for very long, the virus (like many) dies off and will not live outside of the body for more than 5 minuets or so.

Bacteria isn't super bad either, there's some stuff out there but it's not super common. Washing hands somewhat frequently is good but you don't need to go overkill most of the time (Hospitals and medical homes are an exception).

If sex is making you anxious then you don't have to do it, it shouldn't be something that you feel pressured to do or required to preform.

Don't worry about being "fat", your not and everybody gets it, it's totally normal and nobody really looks at someone and goes 'if only he was 25-30lbs lighter'.

Anal sex is one of those things you shouldn't rush into, it takes some time and effort to do right and it won't go smoothly all the time. Don't force yourself to do something that you aren't conformable with and injure yourself or have a bad time doing (You can never have enough lube ).

Some people just don't like it too, that's totally ok and there are other sex acts that are just as fun as anal, don't feel like you have to do it (Even though it's ok if you do).

 

I don't know the ins-and-outs of HIV, but everything I've heard says that the virus does not last very long outside the body. I can't say for sure, but I think if someone cut themselves and left enough blood to be a problem, you'd see it.

Like Convoy says, bacteria is mostly not a problem for healthy people. Basic steps like washing hands regularly (and doing a thorough job) will probably be enough for healthy people.