Can you take it when a straight person called you a fag?

I can't relate but I guess that's the way I'd feel, too.

 

Since I'm not super out, no one's ever really called me a faggot...

But I have a VERRRRRY out gay male friend, and he says it only bothers him, when they know the origin of the word "faggot", and are deliberately trying to be a dick. "Of course, there are times when I am actually being a faggot, so you know, whatever."

 

I would not have much of a problem with a friend a real friend saying most things. Fag i kind of resent though. I may have more difficulty with this term than most others.

 

dont have a grate problem being called gay or other words from my mates ''I know they just winding me up '' and I can & do give it back .

 

My brother does it all the time. He says 'fag' and 'queer' if I do something like pulling a limp wrist for a quick second. If you call them out on it, and throw something right back in their face, they'll stop for sure. I just haven't found a permanent solution.

 

I would tell them to fuck themselves, but it wouldn't really bother me that much more than any insult. I'm not any more sensitive to gay-specific insults than I would be to general-insults.

 

It all depends on context and intent. If someone says it to be rude and insulting, then it's offensive. If someone says it in a humorous or affectionate sort of way, then it's fine.

 

Agreed.

I've never been called a fag before (in offensive terms), but I'm usually called a dyke. That one really fucking irritates me though. No matter the 'context'. It bothers me because I know I'm not passing as male, and it's still an offensive term no matter how you use it.

I think if some guy called me a faggot though, like in an offensive way, I'd just say some witty reply like "I know that's what you and your dad are". But my friends joke around and we call each other fags and stuff, just in a joking manner. I can't explain it.

 

It's actually one of the few words I'll be offended by, no matter who really says it.

 

Depends on who's saying it, and how. If my family/friends say it in a friendly way, no problem.

Somebody I don't know or someone who doesn't like me says it? Yea, I take offense and just tune it out the best I can, because I'm not ashamed of who I am.

 

I no longer see queerness as offensive. It's as if somebody called me "tall" in an effort to insult me. Not that there are any good comebacks to shut them up, but it's ineffective if they're looking to hurt my feelings.

Doesn't mean they aren't complete dicks for saying so, but what are you gonna do? :/

 

I find it completely offensive, no matter who says it or the context. The word has a negative and hateful association, so why promote it by using it in a fun/joking manner?

 

If only.... :lol:

 

I have yet to gain the experience because of not being out of the closet, but in the future I hope I just have the sense to walk away and forget about it. Words can only really affect you when you allow them to.

 

I'm not out yet but some people have guessed and called me it, i just ignore it and think, im not hitting on you, im not hurting you so shut the hell up

 

And I always thought I was the only one :lol: I love it when my best friend offends me because I know that she's comfortable with my sexual orientation and that she really doesn't care who I fall in love with (and that really does mean the world to me)

 

if it is meant to hurt me, then i will be pissed of. But thats more in principle, to be hoenst i am very hard to offend and i dont give a crap if someone calls me something unless they were one of my friends.

 

It would depend on how it's said. I'm used to being respected, so it would hurt me if someone used it offensively. On the other hand, I hope I'll never hear it in such way from someone close to me. So, if it was used in an affectionate way or jokingly, I don't think there is anything someone could call me for me to be offended.

Also, I see that some of you here find the word offensive for its associations, which I'm not familiar with and will try to find out about. But, English is not my native language, so whatever anyone would use to call me would likely be in Croatian. With that in mind, the above stands.

 

If someone's being exceptionally confrontational and is calling me a faggot, I'm not going to take kindly to it. But generally, no, I don't get offended by it, and my friends call me a faggot all the time. It's sort of become a weird affectionate name, I suppose. The power of the word to me is in the context, not simply in its use.

That's not to say I go around calling people faggot, because I do recognize that it's a word a lot of people are offended by, like all slurs.