Came Out To..? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

SkyTears · 23rd Mar 2008, 08:39 AM

I was just wondering if you came out first to someone of the same sex as you are different sex because it always seems like guys can come out to girls easier. I don't know how that goes on the other side but it was easiest for me to come out to my guy friend first.

I wasn't sure if I should have put this in chit chat, coming out, or games.

**Owen** · 23rd Mar 2008, 08:43 AM

I came out to my mother first, so I guess that counts as different sex.

23rd Mar 2008, 08:45 AM

I first came out to a guy friend

sngl · 23rd Mar 2008, 08:54 AM

1st one was to a very close friend, same sex

23rd Mar 2008, 08:59 AM

Came out to two of my closest friends first, they're girls.
Haven't told any of my guy friends, though.

Hepcat · 23rd Mar 2008, 09:05 AM

For me it was a guy friend.

23rd Mar 2008, 09:18 AM

I first came out to my best friend, a girl.

Miaplacidus · 23rd Mar 2008, 09:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Emil

I first came out to my best friend, a girl.

Same.

lodiug · 23rd Mar 2008, 10:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Miaplacidus

Quote:

Originally Posted by Emil

I first came out to my best friend, a girl.

Same.

Me too!

heatqueen · 23rd Mar 2008, 10:53 AM

Same sex, my best friend.

jroakwood · 23rd Mar 2008, 11:13 AM

Opposite sex.

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 23rd Mar 2008, 12:57 PM

Same sex, three at once.

Kenko · 23rd Mar 2008, 01:10 PM

I came out to a guy, so I guess same. I came out to him because he was gay.

RobbIsFlyyy · 23rd Mar 2008, 01:31 PM

I like this poll.
:]
It's original.
I've came out to only about 9 or 10 people.
Both of various genders.
But more so to guys, than girls.
I figure they know already.
Ha.
;]

Peace&Love,
-Robb.

Tim · 23rd Mar 2008, 02:54 PM

Came out to my best friend, as she had a crush on me and didn't want to ruin our friendship, so opposite sex. The first guy who knew was my "bisexual" (Everyone knows he's gay -.-, he just doesn't like to admit that XD) friend, a few years later.

23rd Mar 2008, 04:35 PM

I came out to my friends first which were girls so opposite sex.

MonsieurGodiva · 23rd Mar 2008, 04:54 PM

Just like a few other people who posted, the first person I came out to was my best (female) friend.

Chamber of Life · 23rd Mar 2008, 06:00 PM

I came out to a different sex. To me it is easier to come out to girls. They arent that judgemental I guess. And they love gay guys.

sdc91 · 23rd Mar 2008, 07:32 PM

I came out to my parents first at the same time, so mixed.

Alexander · 23rd Mar 2008, 07:34 PM

I came out first to a transwoman

View Poll Results: Come Out To Which Sex?
Same sex	28	38.89%
Different sex	31	43.06%
Multiple	13	18.06%
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23rd Mar 2008, 08:39 AM	#1
SkyTears Head Thinking; Heart Bleeding Full Member Gender: Kyle XY Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty much everyone Location: Renton, WA Age: 22 Posts: 510 Join Date: Dec 2006	Came Out To..? I was just wondering if you came out first to someone of the same sex as you are different sex because it always seems like guys can come out to girls easier. I don't know how that goes on the other side but it was easiest for me to come out to my guy friend first. I wasn't sure if I should have put this in chit chat, coming out, or games. __________________ "Time carries us away from all the places we have come to love; just wishing we could stay. But maybe that's not the point. What makes this all so god damn beautiful is knowing that its bound to fade in time." The Rain-FOREVERINMOTION

23rd Mar 2008, 08:43 AM	#2
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,873 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Came Out To..? I came out to my mother first, so I guess that counts as different sex. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

23rd Mar 2008, 08:45 AM	#3
Urman Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Came Out To..? I first came out to a guy friend

23rd Mar 2008, 08:54 AM	#4
sngl Trance Fan #1 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Romania Age: 25 Posts: 784 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Came Out To..? 1st one was to a very close friend, same sex __________________

23rd Mar 2008, 08:59 AM	#5
GunStarre Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Came Out To..? Came out to two of my closest friends first, they're girls. Haven't told any of my guy friends, though.

23rd Mar 2008, 09:05 AM	#6
Hepcat EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: New Zealand Age: 22 Posts: 314 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Came Out To..? For me it was a guy friend.

23rd Mar 2008, 09:18 AM	#7
Emile Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Came Out To..? I first came out to my best friend, a girl.

23rd Mar 2008, 10:53 AM	#10
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,707 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Came Out To..? Same sex, my best friend. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

23rd Mar 2008, 11:13 AM	#11
jroakwood You're My Indian Summer. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Minnesota Age: 21 Posts: 671 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: Came Out To..? Opposite sex. __________________ "EVERYBODY SHOULD BE PRO LOVE." -BRITNEY SPEARS

23rd Mar 2008, 12:57 PM	#12
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Came Out To..? Same sex, three at once. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

23rd Mar 2008, 01:10 PM	#13
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Came Out To..? I came out to a guy, so I guess same. I came out to him because he was gay.

23rd Mar 2008, 01:31 PM	#14
RobbIsFlyyy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 10 people. Location: Kentucky. Age: 20 Posts: 309 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Came Out To..? I like this poll. :] It's original. I've came out to only about 9 or 10 people. Both of various genders. But more so to guys, than girls. I figure they know already. Ha. ;] Peace&Love, -Robb. __________________ Peace&Love, -Robb.

23rd Mar 2008, 02:54 PM	#15
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Came Out To..? Came out to my best friend, as she had a crush on me and didn't want to ruin our friendship, so opposite sex. The first guy who knew was my "bisexual" (Everyone knows he's gay -.-, he just doesn't like to admit that XD) friend, a few years later. __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

23rd Mar 2008, 04:35 PM	#16
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Came Out To..? I came out to my friends first which were girls so opposite sex.

23rd Mar 2008, 04:54 PM	#17
MonsieurGodiva Charles Full Member Gender: Queer Orientation: Queer Out Status: All but family Location: Paris Age: 21 Posts: 428 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Came Out To..? Just like a few other people who posted, the first person I came out to was my best (female) friend. __________________ She linger'd, looking like a summer moon / Half-dipt in cloud: anon she shook her head, / And shower'd the rippled ringlets to her knee. --“Godiva” by Alfred, Lord Tennyson

23rd Mar 2008, 06:00 PM	#18
Chamber of Life In my Naughty Tree!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends. Location: Ohio, USA Age: 21 Posts: 288 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Came Out To..? I came out to a different sex. To me it is easier to come out to girls. They arent that judgemental I guess. And they love gay guys.

23rd Mar 2008, 07:32 PM	#19
sdc91 Coop d'état Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Berlin, Germany Age: 21 Posts: 1,607 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Came Out To..? I came out to my parents first at the same time, so mixed. __________________

23rd Mar 2008, 07:34 PM	#20
Alexander EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Red Hook NY Age: 19 Posts: 2,736 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Came Out To..? I came out first to a transwoman