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Asexuality?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by LoveMusicPoetry, Mar 22, 2013.

  1. LoveMusicPoetry

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    Ok, I might be being very ignorant here, so this is why I'm asking, so I can become less so.

    Asexuals: Do you just feel no sexual feelings at all, or just not towards anyone else? Let me explain. Because I have been living the wrong orientation for years, there was a time when I wondered if I was asexual. I felt turned on and wanted sex etc, but never felt sexually attracted to men. I just needed sex and the straight way was the way I knew. When I got it, it never satisfied me and it just felt wrong. Do you think this was just the fact that I was having sex with the wrong sex if you get my meaning? Or was it something more.I feel sexual attraction towards women now I allow myself, but somewhere deep inside my idiot brain, I'm scared that I might just end up feeling the same way when I'm actually in bed with one.

    This might be a bit personal, but if you are asexual, would you feel aroused and be able to masturbate? Or is there just no desire there at all for anything? The answer to this particular question might clear things up.
     
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    There are asexuals with and without sex drives. l can't say for sure but l imagine when a lesbian asexual fantasizes about a woman she's thinking about emotionally based things. Ir a the very least, has never seen a random woman on the street and thought about her sexually, there would be some kind of build up to it.

    l think if you ever fantasize about some straight up p*ssy while thinking about women you'd probably be able to get into it whilst in the sack xD

    Try it outline first maybe :wink:
     
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    As far as I know, I almost completely lack a sex drive, and I've only been attracted to people on an emotional level.
     
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    Asexual means that someone does not experience sexual attraction to anyone. Some Asexuals masturbate, and some have sex, whilst some don't want any of that.
     
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    I can't say I've ever felt a sexual attraction towards someone; but I have thought of the idea of sex. At the same time though, I believe my dysphoria is what is creating my asexual tendencies, because I am not comfortable doing any of that as long as I'm in a female body.
     
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    For me? No sexual feelings at all. I can't even masturbate - if I do the same actions that other women describe doing to masturbate, it doesn't feel any different from rubbing my arm or playing with my lip or something. Twirling my hair gives me a more pleasant sensation than masturbating does.

    There are other people who identify as asexual and do feel sexual feelings, but not directed at other people. Personally, I think a better term for that would be autosexual, because they don't have a complete absence of sexuality.
     
  7. Oddish

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    I barely have any sex drive. I don't masturbate, watch porn, and rarely have any sexual thoughts whatsoever. I consider myself grey-a, because sometimes I can feel 'turned on', but it's not much to act upon.

    Same case for me too. I might have a different approach to sex if I were male-bodied and felt comfortable.