Did you go through an "unsure" phase?

Did you go through any time when you were unsure of your sexuality?

I personally never felt like this, one day I just knew I was attracted to men and I was gay - I believe it's because I found Andrew from Desperate Housewives especially attractive.

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

I still feel a bit unsure. Although over the last few months I've become more and more aware of how much I am attracted to girls, it's still not cut and dry. And I still get this feeling like the whole thing is some bad joke and one day I'll wake up and be the normal straight me again. Or like I've convinced myself of this whole thing. But, these feelings won't go away. :S I hate this unsure feeling. Damn lucky straights!

I never went through the unsure phase as I was doing things since primary school days and then when I was around 12, I learnt the meaning of gay.

[mike67]

Ever since I was a teenager I felt always attracted to many of my male friends but only told a couple of them. Even now I sometimes feel unsure what even though I feel more attracted to other guys.

In a word: hell yeah. Without going into details (that's for later ), I let all three years of middle school SUCK royally because I didn't take the time to figure out what the hell I was and accept it.

[Paul_UK]

I went through a denial phase lasting about 10 years which I think counts as the same thing.

[sngl]

Originally Posted by Paul_UK

I went through a denial phase lasting about 10 years which I think counts as the same thing.

same here

[Jim1454]

Uncertain? Yup. Like Paul - I'd call it denial. I probably should have clued in or at least considered the possibility when I was 19. But instead I didn't come to that conclusion until I was 35.

I went through the unsure phase after denial. I denied it for like 6 years then was like ok I like men. Then I was like wait, I'm not turned off by women. And it went back and forth until I finally realized I was bi.

[Owen]

I was uncertain for about six and a half years. It's definitely not the way to spend a childhood.

[Hepcat]

I was never unsure. I realised pretty quickly I was gay when I was about 13/14

[Lexington]

Oh yes. I spent about a year not knowing. I had suddenly realized that I was turned on by the thought of having sex with guys (rather than just the sight of guys). I decided it was probably a phase, and resolved to ride it out. After about a year, I realized this phase wasn't going away anytime soon.

Lex

[Alexander]

Noope. Being gay fell on me 2 years ago. It sucked. but then it rocked.

[Fiorino]

Hmm, about a year ago I accepted myself, but then went into relapse and denial due to
religious influences. Then I slowly warmed back up to the idea and then
when I found ec it only affirmed it (I had already had a b/f before) and
it only gets stronger. But yeah, i'd say before all that I had doubts
if I was "curious" or whatnot. Actually, I lost a best friend because I didn't
know what I was doing and ended up making him feel uncomfortable.

[Jerr]

Although I went through trying to deny it, I knew what I was and that I couldn't change. So, never was unsure, just unaccepting.

Yeah, I went through SEVERAL unsure phases. I thought I was bi, then straight, then bi again, then I realized I'm pretty much totally gay. Like 95% gay.

[Wander]

Same here. I knew since elementary school that I was a part of that group everyone was mocking, but I refused to accept that or admit it to myself. I spent two years trying to convince myself I was wrong, change my feelings, and as a last-ditch effort, just ignore the subject of sexuality for as long as possible. So I've always known, I just didn't always like it.

[MonsieurGodiva]

I went through an unsure phase in my early teens that lasted for a year or so and denial came shortly after.

[Orion]

Originally Posted by EmperorDJT

I went through the unsure phase after denial. I denied it for like 6 years then was like ok I like men. Then I was like wait, I'm not turned off by women. And it went back and forth until I finally realized I was bi.

Well I'm pretty much the same, although I still feel there's a lot in here waiting to go back and forth So, my choice is 'still unsure'
Oh well, what's the rush.

[Zak]

Originally Posted by smilealways

I never went through the unsure phase as I was doing things since primary school days and then when I was around 12, I learnt the meaning of gay.

Me too.