Did you go through an "unsure" phase?

I still feel a bit unsure. Although over the last few months I've become more and more aware of how much I am attracted to girls, it's still not cut and dry. And I still get this feeling like the whole thing is some bad joke and one day I'll wake up and be the normal straight me again. Or like I've convinced myself of this whole thing. But, these feelings won't go away. :S I hate this unsure feeling. Damn lucky straights!

 

Ever since I was a teenager I felt always attracted to many of my male friends but only told a couple of them. Even now I sometimes feel unsure what even though I feel more attracted to other guys.

 

I went through a denial phase lasting about 10 years which I think counts as the same thing.

 

same here

 

Uncertain? Yup. Like Paul - I'd call it denial. I probably should have clued in or at least considered the possibility when I was 19. But instead I didn't come to that conclusion until I was 35.

 

I was uncertain for about six and a half years. It's definitely not the way to spend a childhood.

 

I was never unsure. I realised pretty quickly I was gay when I was about 13/14

 

Oh yes. I spent about a year not knowing. I had suddenly realized that I was turned on by the thought of having sex with guys (rather than just the sight of guys). I decided it was probably a phase, and resolved to ride it out. After about a year, I realized this phase wasn't going away anytime soon.

Lex

 

Noope. Being gay fell on me 2 years ago. It sucked. but then it rocked.

 

Hmm, about a year ago I accepted myself, but then went into relapse and denial due to
religious influences. Then I slowly warmed back up to the idea and then
when I found ec it only affirmed it (I had already had a b/f before) and
it only gets stronger. But yeah, i'd say before all that I had doubts
if I was "curious" or whatnot. Actually, I lost a best friend because I didn't
know what I was doing and ended up making him feel uncomfortable.

 

Although I went through trying to deny it, I knew what I was and that I couldn't change. So, never was unsure, just unaccepting.

 

Same here. I knew since elementary school that I was a part of that group everyone was mocking, but I refused to accept that or admit it to myself. I spent two years trying to convince myself I was wrong, change my feelings, and as a last-ditch effort, just ignore the subject of sexuality for as long as possible. So I've always known, I just didn't always like it.

 

Well I'm pretty much the same, although I still feel there's a lot in here waiting to go back and forth :icon_bigg So, my choice is 'still unsure'
Oh well, what's the rush.

 

Me too.