I came out to a few friends about 3 years ago as being Gay, afterwards I regretted it & Self Doubt crept in, I though I may have came out too quick. I then sat down & though to myself, I know I am not Straight, but perhaps I am Bi, I then convinced myself of this & went back to my friends & said "actually, I am Bi" which they accepted & made jokes about me having more of an option now. Now 3 years later, I have actually sat down & analyzed my life with a fine tooth comb & for the 1st time in my life, I finally came out to myself as Gay & it feels great Now my question that I want to ask, is this normal? is it possible to come out to other people 1st, without actually coming out to yourself?
:smilewave ---------- Post added 1st Apr 2013 at 05:02 PM ---------- I came out to a few friends about 3 years ago as being gay, afterwards i regretted it, and self doubt crept in, I though i may have came out too quick. I then sat down and though to myself, I know I am not straight, but perhaps I am bi, I then convinced myself of this and went back to my friends and said "actually, I am bi" which they accepted and made jokes about me having more of an option now. now 3 years later, I have actually sat down and analyzed my life with a fine tooth comb and for the first time in my life, I finally came out to myself as gay and it feels great now my question that i want to ask, is this normal? Is it possible to come out to other people first without actually coming out to yourself?
lol! I'll milk you In regards to the question (from what I can decipher), I think you can definitely come at as not straight before fully coming out to yourself. I mean I could have told people I wasn't straight about 5 years ago, but didn't because I wasn't sure exactly what my orientation was at the time. Not sure how this post will appear. If it's illegible, you might have to wait until the format changes back. Edit: apparently nothing changed in my post, woo!
