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Sex Drives!

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by myheartincheck, Apr 2, 2013.

  1. myheartincheck

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    Would you rather date someone with a higher sex drive than you, or a lower sex drive? If you're asexual, would you date someone who found sex important in a relationship or would it be a dealbreaker?

    I personally feel there are pros and cons to both, but I think I'd prefer a partner with a higher sex drive as long as it wasn't TOO much higher.

    Curious to see responses. :slight_smile:
     
  2. Oddish

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    As someone who falls somewhere on the asexual spectrum, I'd much prefer to date another asexual, but someone with a low sex drive is fine too. If I dated someone with a sex drive, I wouldn't completely rid myself of sexual contact.. I'd be willing.

    I could never date someone with a high sex drive though. It would never work. :dead:
     
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    Thanks for your answer!

    Since I'm Demisexual I could really date someone with a lower or higher sex drive but I'd love to see responses to this! :slight_smile:
     
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    The higher the better.
     
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    I'd prefer someone with a slightly higher sex drive than me. I don't like to be the one to 'initiate' such things
     
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    how about SAME?
     
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    Agreed.

    I don't want to be the to initiate it all the time.

    And I initiate it all the time.
     
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    I have very little sex drive, and I think I fall SOMEWHERE on the asexual scale. In terms of dating someone, maybe he could have an average sex drive, where he would have the confidence to initiate such a thing, but we wouldn't do it everyday. Just cuddling and holding each other is enough for me.

    Dating an actual asexual would be pretty cool. They seem pretty rare to me, as well. It would be so romantically intimate, I would just lose control from the kawaiiness. :3
     
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    Higher for sure! Just not nimfo high! He MUST like to get BJs regularly or it's a dealbreaker!!! That is my favorite part of sex!!! June
     
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    I want to say higher... but i think i might be embarrassed that I wouldn't be able to keep up. D:

    Okay, so, probably either one. As long as it wasn't too much of a difference.
     
  11. Tetraquark

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    I'm gray-asexual but have a high sex drive. It just isn't directed at other people (or anything else, for that matter). As such, I would prefer to date someone who was the same or lower in order to minimize awkward situations.
     
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    Darn, I was hoping this thread would be an attempt to discuss what your own sex drive was - since I'm personally confused as to what that should mean.



    Boy, it's hard for me to pick a preference..... as fun as sex can be, I think I'd prefer someone with a very low sex drive. Romance > Sex. For me, anyways.
     
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    I've got a pretty high sex drive, having a partner that was pretty close or had a higher drive would be fine with me.

    No sex would drive me crazy, and I couldn't survive in a relationship without a good amount of physical intimacy. I'm just being honest, if your not really that into it it's fine; it's just how I am.
     
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    Mine is pretty high (though not as high as a year or so ago), so ideally someone with a sex drive similar to mine.
     
  16. higher, so long as it wasn't ridiculously so.
     
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    Higher.

    I have a flexible sex drive. Meaning I can keep up with someone of a high sex drive, but mine isnt so overbearing were I would need it often.
     
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    Lower most defiantly. I think I would prefer it if my partner were an asexual or a gray-a. Sex can be such a bother sometimes. I'd much rather play videos games or read a book.
     
  19. stuffiscool

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    haha you folks and your monogamy (&&&)
     
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    probably higher...