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Dating a transperson

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Hexagon, Apr 4, 2013.

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Would you date a transperson?

  1. Yes, and I'm gay

    47 vote(s)
    29.6%
  2. Yes, and I'm straight

    2 vote(s)
    1.3%
  3. Yes, and I'm bisexual

    35 vote(s)
    22.0%
  4. Yes, and I'm pansexual

    17 vote(s)
    10.7%
  5. Yes, and I'm asexual

    2 vote(s)
    1.3%
  6. No

    48 vote(s)
    30.2%
  7. Other

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    5.0%
  1. Hexagon

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    Would you date a transperson? Please answer the poll as such: if you would date a transwoman, but not a transman, vote 'yes'. Also, feel free to expand on your answers in the comments. The purpose of this poll is because I'm interested, and because it gives me and other transpeople an idea of our dating prospects.
     
  2. Fiddledeedee

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    Hm. I'm bisexual and reckon I would be happy to date a transperson, but if they were closeted and pre-transition (being stealth, if that's the right word, would be fine, being not closeted and at any point in transition would be fine), I might have reservations, sorry. I feel like it could add so many complications -- but then again, (a) every relationship has its complications, (b) complications can be gotten over or around, and (c) nothing to say that the complications would be too much. So I guess it would depend and there's no way I can really know at the moment.
     
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    I don't think I could.. I have Nothing against Trans* people, it's just that I need a penis to be involved in the lovemaking...Sorry:/
     
  4. Hexagon

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    Thanks for your answers. fiddledeedee, being stealth is actually the term used to describe having transitioned, or partially transitioned, and living as a cisgendered person without telling anyone you're trans, rather than the pre-transition closet phase.

    P.S, don't feel the need to apologise for your preferences anyone, I don't want anyone to feel bad about answering here.
     
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    Since gender is pretty much non-existent in my list of dating requirements I cannot see why, should circumstances arise where a transperson and I were at the point of considering dating, their being trans would be an issue.
     
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    The only relationship I've ever had was with a guy - so I sort of thought I was straight. Now I don't think gender really matters to me. I think if the person is right, that's what will be right for me.
     
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    I am in a relationship, but if I wasn´t, I would. Why not?
     
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    Cis/Trans*/Genderqueer makes no difference to me.
     
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    I'd date anyone who was lovely :slight_smile:
     
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    Hexagon: Yup, that's what I was intending to use it as.
     
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    oh. lol. I must have misunderstood.
     
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    I would actually find it preferable to date another transperson. Not that I wouldn't ever date a cis person on that basis, but there'd be much more common ground I feel.
     
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    Of course I would. I am gay, if a trangender (ftm) asked me out I would not see it an issue, they are a boy just like me, and well I like Boys lol
     
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    I'd date another FTM. We'd have one major thing in common at least. So there would be no difficulties there. :slight_smile:
     
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    No problem with trans* for me. FTM or MTF it would just depend on the person, themselves :slight_smile:
     
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    No way. I want a man with a penis. Not a woman with a penis or a man with a vagina.
     
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    Definetly would. Genitalia doesn't quite bother me, as long as the person is cool.
     
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    Yes.

    I'd be open to dating and having a relationship with a transman. While I would prefer a penis, what concerns me more is whether or not I feel deep attraction to a guy. And his cuddability. :grin:
     
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    What if they were post-op?
     
  20. Oddish

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    Yes. I'd definitely date a transwoman, maybe an FTM, though I'm more into women.
    All in all, I don't care if a person is genderqueer, cis, trans*, what have you. Gender isn't a priority to me.

    With that said, I'm in a relationship with a cis-female, and when we first got together, I identified as my birth sex so it started out as a homosexual relationship. After I found myself, and figured that I'm really trans*, it shifted to a heterosexual relationship. She accepts me and views me as her boyfriend, all that good stuff. I'm very lucky. :grin: