Have your parents ever asked you if you were gay?

Yeah, they've asked me before. Part of their endless and fruitless quest to make me feel loved.

 

Yep, my mom asked me last September and she wasn't pleased with the answer she got. Oh well at least she knows.

 

Well she can only blame herself. She shouldn't have asked if she didn't want to know.

 

Well not asked but insinuated, something weird like we were having a discussion about my hair and it's crazy thickness and my dad said "Your girlfriends or boyfriends are gonna love your hair!"

Which is pretty much why I haven't come out since I know he doesn't give a shit. (Same deal with my Mom but I'm fairly certain she doesn't know.)

 

Nope. Wish they would! It would make my life hell of a lot easier...

 

In a way, I guess. Me and my stepdad were having a serious discussion over whether or not my older brother was gay (which he is, I'm pretty sure, confused) and it was ironic because my stepdad just kept tearing gays down and was being awful and vulgar about it. All of a sudden I found myself defending gays (BIG mistake, I usually keep my opinion about pretty much everything to myself) and I was indirectly trying to make it clear I thought homosexuality wasn't a choice, and he gave me a funny look. He then looked me straight in the eye and was like "are YOU gay?" and I guess in the intensity of the moment I considered screaming "YES" but I just backed off and said no. UGH

 

Well, not about being gay, but about my gender identity. They didn't directly. After I came out, though, my mom told me that she tried. She would ask things like, "Is there something you want to tell me?"

I remember her asking this frequently, I never thought it was about me being a girl, though. I thought she thought I was in trouble with something. I dunno, but I didn't assume that she knew about my gender--she did, though.

 

My mom has a few times, but my dad never has. My dad doesn't like to pry; rather, he's the sort of person who'd rather let the other person tell him on his/her own terms. When he really wants to know what I'm thinking, he asks my mom to ask me and then tell him what I told her. I don't know if he's done this with regard to my sexual orientation, and if so, he's not let it on.

 

My father did ask me once when I was around 17 I think, which I denied.

 

My dad has never asked me. Whether it's because our relationship tends to be distant, or that he doesn't want to know, is anyone's guess. (I'm honestly wondering what to tell him, although a part of me thinks maybe I'll just wait until I meet Mr. Right. He's smart, and if he sees two men getting married, he'll be able to draw the lines connecting the dots. That will save both of us an awkward conversation.)

My mom never asked, either. Once the question did come up, but she said there was no way I was gay--I was too masculine.

 

When I was thirteen, my mom asked me if I was gay, then proceeded to tell me that it was okay if I was, and I immediately said no. She become a hypocrite when I tried to come out to her three years later, though.. My dad never asked.

 

This is funny. Mine knew or they assumed I was going through a "curious" phase because they caught me looking at porn....3 times.

1st Time: I was just coming into puberty and decided to print some pics of Gay Cowboys out and it was all going well until my sis kept rushing me to use the computer. In retrospect, there were like 50 pics overall so this was most likely doomed from the start. Anyways, I, not knowing how to work the print job at the time, quickly retrieved the pics I had thus far and turned the printer off. I went to my room hid the pics and thought I was all good until I heard a scream aka my sister shocked at the sight of a cowboy sucking another cowboy off, which is hilarious in retrospect. My father starts yelling at me and hitting me with it in my face saying something along the lines of: "YOU LIKE THIS SHIT?!" or "ARE YOU A FAGGOT?!" being 13 years old at the time I was terrified and I just cried as I kept answering no. So that ended with my mother "force-feeding" me the "correct" answer.

2nd Time: I was caught watching the porn movie of the pics I printed out. And I was so scared this time that before anyone could say anything to me, I left. I remember wandering the streets for awhile preparing myself for a repeat of the first incident and asking myself: "Well, Are you....Gay?" After a walk, I was greeted by my mother and taken into the computer room with her and my father. This time, it was more calm and I was more collected. Unfortunately, they didn't listen. I was trying to explain my feelings to them but my mother kept trying to console my father, whom was so upset he stormed out the room. This ended in them ignoring me and putting so many blocks on the computer, it took me a month or so to get around them. I went to my room and cried after this one because I was pretty sure at that point they hated me.

3rd Time: I was in high school and I fell asleep with my porn still on my laptop, which was on all night. So when my mother woke me up for a program I was doing over the weekend and I scrolled over, the screen popped up. She saw it and asked about it, I told her it was Bisexual porn. Once I got home from the program, I went to her and told her I might be Bi. She gave me that everyone goes through a curious phase speech before dropping it. The only thing I regret about this is using the word might when I knew I was, although I lean more towards Men.


Ironically enough, when I confronted them about my sexuality, the roles flipped. My father didn't care and not in a positive way. My mother was very aggressive and basically told me I had been dragged into it because I was lost and looking for "something to follow" which pissed me off because all of my life, i've always done MY own thing even when others were involved.

 

No, neither my mother or father has ever asked. If they did I'd always deny it
(my brother asked once...which was quickly answered with a 'no')

 

Yes, they've asked if I were a lesbian a year or so before I came out to them as being transgendered. All because I wear men's clothing...how stereotypical. :rolle:

 

Yes. XD My mom asked me once while we were walking to school and I was talking about how I didn't like any of the boys at my school. She said, "Are you a lesbian?" in a sort of judgmental tone, to which of course I answered no. I think she's on the verge of asking again soon - the other night I was talking about how the Dr Who fans think David Tennant is hot, and she asked if I did while giving me this odd, scrutinizing look. Lolwut?

She's also asked me if I'm trans, but in the most awkward way possible. We were at the dinner table and I was saying how I thought it would be easier if I had a penis because, you know, easier to pee. She said, "Do you feel this way often?"

Gawsh, I keep wondering how that dinner would've ended if I'd said yes. I doubt she would've reacted well, seeing as she calls crossdressers freaks when she sees them on TV. Probably would've ended in tears and awkwardness.

 

Um...kind of! I told my mother I was going to wear a tux to prom and her exact words were, "Do you want people to think you are a lesbian, or something?" I just shrugged and said "Well, I don't really care what other people think!" And when I told her my best friend Lane and I were going out for dinner and a movie for valentine's day, she said, "Are you like in a relationship with her, or something?" To which I replied, "Uh, eww! She is so not my type, mother!" She likes saying "or something", quite frequently. So, I never really told her I wasn't a lesbian, I just didn't say I was!

 

My mother has never asked me, though in the car a few years ago my brother did. I answered no (honestly, at the time, because at that point I didn't realize I was). I haven't spoken to my father since I was five, so he's never asked, but from what I know about him and his family, he'd probably flip his shit if he knew he'd spawned one of those horrible homosexuals (which wouldn't matter one whit to me, really -- he's my father only in the most base biological sense. Dude barely even paid child support; pretty sure he owes my mother something like $60000 or so, at least).

 

Yes just bc I had a trans bf that didn't transition yet

 

Yes, several times. Always said no and that I liked girls. Technically I've not lied to them yet ^_^.
Seriously though, if they ask again everything's going to be put on the table.