Do you feel more comfortable around guys or girls?

Well, I would say that girls approach me more easily than guys do. And this is probably the reason why I feel more comfortable around them (most of the times, at least). However, interestingly, when coming out I came out to my guy friends first and left the girls for last (with only one exception). I think for me it was more important to get their acceptance and to be able to hang out with them and bond with other males without any secrets.

I would say to a large degree being sometimes uncomfortable around guys has to do only with the fact that I feel they might reject me if they find out I am gay - this applying to people I just met somewhere or just started bonding with. So it's all in the head, otherwise I prefer the company of guys over girls, it's just so tiring overanalyzing everything with girls all the time...

 

I don't consider my friends differently by sex, but I'm definitely closer to my two best guy friends than my female friends. With people I've just met, I tend to get along with both guys and girls equally, but a lot more girls than guys seem to be around me (I think it's my anglicised accent that does that) when in large groups. But I'm equally comfortable around both guys and girls; it always comes down to the person.

 

Hmm. I guess there's certain guys and guys that I feel less and more comfortable around. It depends on their personality. Bitchy people are a huge no-no for me. I always see through people and just don't want to be around them.

 

I feel more comfortable, generally speaking, when I care less. I don't really care about what girls think of me, so it's easier. It's just that not caring also means that I usually don't find them interesting anyway. In any social situation, I'm more likely to prefer conversations with guys. I mean, I'm most comfortable talking to kids; that doesn't mean they are my preferred company.

 

Girls.
All the guys at my school are immature, assholes I'll pass on that.

 

I feel more comfortable around girls. They seem more open to friendship, and they don't feel threatened by my attraction to guys as well as girls.

 

Most of my friends are straight men and queer women, in about equal balance. That's not intentional by any means. Ever since I stopped going to my school's LGBT club, I just haven't been making gay male friends on my own. And it's not like I seek out lesbian/bi women; for some reason, a disproportionately large percentage of the women I befriend on the basis of us getting along well end up being lesbian or bisexual. Make of that what you will.

 

usually men. l don't last long with most girls. l had a female best friend for a few years but she didn't ask me for serious advice.

 

Agreed!

 

I'm not generally comfortable around people, but for the few that I let in my world, it doesn't matter if they're guys or girls. I do have more in common with other males though, so I might have a slight preference towards them in a non-romantic way.

 

I usually get along with girls better. I've never had many male friends and I don't talk to many guys. My closest friends have always been girls, except for one guy who I was really close with. I generally feel more comfortable among women. Guys confuse me, especially those guys that I find attractive.

 

Girls for sure. I don't really know how to talk to guys...I've had one guy friend and all the others were girls.

 

Slightly more comfortable around guys, things are simpler and more obvious with guys, girls always keep me guessing...

 

I can get along with both, surprisingly, but the relationship dynamics are completely different. With women, there's a lot more sharing of emotions, in-depth discussion of relationships, and the conversations usually last a lot longer. With men, although they seem a lot more superficial and surface level, there's this innate trust, like you know they'll have your back when something goes down. While the relationships with women appear a lot deeper, they're also much more volatile, there's more drama and hurt feelings, and for the stupidest reasons. With the men, there's really no strong investment in the lives of one another, and while it appears we're distant, the bonds are usually long lasting, and take something extreme to break for good. We usually drift apart without a word said. Some of my pet peeves are that women sometimes want to know everything that goes on in your life, and men sometimes treat anything as a competition. Of course, general rule, and there are plenty of men and women who fall near the center, or on the other side, completely.

 

i feel much more comfotable with guys , as it makes me feel more girly.

 

Get on with guys much better, I know a few girls but there not friends. All my friends are guys and I sometimes feel uncomfortable around girls for some reason.

 

For me, I guess I pretty much just feel comfortable around people in general. Very comfortable with girls because there's no pressure whatsoever, but I'm cool with guys, too. I mean, if there's a really hot gay guy, I might start to drool a little... Lol But my friends are really an even mix of guys and girls.

 

Mainly girls, depends if we can actually have a laugh and talk about stuff that we enjoy. I can see through fake personalities and those people are a certain no-no for me to be around.
I can get on well with only a couple of guys, and they seem to be the intelligent guys... :/

 

it does tend to be guys I get on with better with but sam at work she knows me inside out