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CerahWright · 5th Apr 2008, 10:16 AM

okay... so i a fan of the L word, which is a risque show to say the least. well my mom (who knows its about lesbians and has sex) has asked me if she could borrow the DVDs and watch it. Now if that isn't weird enough, she also made a comment about being in the army and showering with lesbians and she its not like she "doesn't know what lesbian is like"... i quickly changed the topic cuz i really didn't want to hear about my moms past "girly experiences." (fyi- my mom used to be a femi-nazi and my dad was her bitch, so...)

just needed to tell someone, cuz my straight friends would wig.

Louise · 5th Apr 2008, 10:25 AM

I think you mum is just trying to tell you, in a slightly inappropraite way maybe, that you can talk to her about anything. I don't think anyone wants to think of their parents as sexual beings but hey, we are!

If your mum starts up again just tell her that you feel uncomfortable talking to her about things like that, or that you don't want to hear intimate details of her life but that she mustn't worry if ever you needed to you would feel free to talk to her. That should calm her worries.

InaRut · 5th Apr 2008, 10:29 AM

(Ohhh I miss'd you Louise. Lol)

Haha my mom has done the same. Well along the lines of awkward. You know teling me that "Sex" is a beautiful thing or standing in blockbuster...
"Mom what movie are you looking for?"
"Brokeback mountain."
"Oh god no!"

^She didn't find it. Thank goodness. Just realize that in her way it's her telling you that she loves you and she wants to "Help" you even if you don't need help. It's the thought that counts really.

Just see it from her viewpoint and moms seem alot less crazy.

Xept Louise...

Tim · 5th Apr 2008, 10:30 AM

It sounds like she's just trying to get to know you better. My mom has expressed sadness I don't tell her everything, and our family friends know more about me then her, made me feel sad too. Because of this experience, it just sounds like she's trying to figure out more about you, as well as telling you that you can tell her anything, she's not going to judge you.

Louise · 5th Apr 2008, 10:32 AM

Are you saying that I'm crazy perchance?... don't worry, you are probably right!

CerahWright · 5th Apr 2008, 10:34 AM

thanks it just really threw me b/c it was only 5 months ago she didn't even want to think of me as gay.. now she's thinking of turning Democrat and has distanced herself from her really Churchy friends (which makes me kinda sad b/c i really don't want her to lose her faith in God, its been a great help to her through the years)

but on the brightside, atleast she's there for me- as awkardly as she possibly can be, but i'm lucky not many people have parents like i do. like my dad bought me shirts that say "_____sexual" and "heterosexually challenged" it was just weird and i need to tell someone

Louise · 5th Apr 2008, 10:38 AM

It is not because she has distanced herself from her churchy friends that she has lost her faith, she is probably just moving away from prejudices that she no longer shares.

Those are for your mum, good for her, she has moved from denial to acceptance!

5th Apr 2008, 11:17 AM

I think its great that your moms making an attempt to connect with you

I didn't read every single post, so sorry if im asking a question you've answered, but did you give your mum the L word DVD's ?

And if so, what did she think of them?

CerahWright · 5th Apr 2008, 11:21 AM

i did, but yesterday, so i'm not sure if she's started watching them or not. I'll ask her when I go back to her house.

biisme · 5th Apr 2008, 08:14 PM

awwww....honey.

I guess it's the thought that counts!

5th Apr 2008, 10:16 AM	#1
CerahWright Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: around Cincinnati Age: 21 Posts: 141 Join Date: Jan 2008	Awkard conversation with mom okay... so i a fan of the L word, which is a risque show to say the least. well my mom (who knows its about lesbians and has sex) has asked me if she could borrow the DVDs and watch it. Now if that isn't weird enough, she also made a comment about being in the army and showering with lesbians and she its not like she "doesn't know what lesbian is like"... i quickly changed the topic cuz i really didn't want to hear about my moms past "girly experiences." (fyi- my mom used to be a femi-nazi and my dad was her bitch, so...) just needed to tell someone, cuz my straight friends would wig.

5th Apr 2008, 10:25 AM	#2
Louise EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight/open minded Location: France Age: 47 Posts: 2,120 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Awkard conversation with mom I think you mum is just trying to tell you, in a slightly inappropraite way maybe, that you can talk to her about anything. I don't think anyone wants to think of their parents as sexual beings but hey, we are! If your mum starts up again just tell her that you feel uncomfortable talking to her about things like that, or that you don't want to hear intimate details of her life but that she mustn't worry if ever you needed to you would feel free to talk to her. That should calm her worries. __________________ I'm a supporter of gay rights... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant. Paul Newman

5th Apr 2008, 10:29 AM	#3
InaRut EC's Nu-Disco Walrus Full Member Gender: IRL Yaoi Character Orientation: (｡◕‿◕。) Out Status: ㅎ_ㅎ Location: Montreal, Quebec, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 7,111 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Awkard conversation with mom (Ohhh I miss'd you Louise. Lol) Haha my mom has done the same. Well along the lines of awkward. You know teling me that "Sex" is a beautiful thing or standing in blockbuster... "Mom what movie are you looking for?" "Brokeback mountain." "Oh god no!" ^She didn't find it. Thank goodness. Just realize that in her way it's her telling you that she loves you and she wants to "Help" you even if you don't need help. It's the thought that counts really. Just see it from her viewpoint and moms seem alot less crazy. Xept Louise... __________________ "The first duty of every Starfleet Officer is to the truth. Whether it's scientific truth, historical truth, or personal truth. It is the guiding principle to which Starfleet is based. If you can't find it within yourself, to tell the truth about what happened, then you don't deserve to where that uniform."

5th Apr 2008, 10:30 AM	#4
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Awkard conversation with mom It sounds like she's just trying to get to know you better. My mom has expressed sadness I don't tell her everything, and our family friends know more about me then her, made me feel sad too. Because of this experience, it just sounds like she's trying to figure out more about you, as well as telling you that you can tell her anything, she's not going to judge you. __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

5th Apr 2008, 10:32 AM	#5
Louise EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight/open minded Location: France Age: 47 Posts: 2,120 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Awkard conversation with mom Are you saying that I'm crazy perchance?... don't worry, you are probably right! __________________ I'm a supporter of gay rights... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant. Paul Newman

5th Apr 2008, 10:34 AM	#6
CerahWright Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: around Cincinnati Age: 21 Posts: 141 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Awkard conversation with mom thanks it just really threw me b/c it was only 5 months ago she didn't even want to think of me as gay.. now she's thinking of turning Democrat and has distanced herself from her really Churchy friends (which makes me kinda sad b/c i really don't want her to lose her faith in God, its been a great help to her through the years) but on the brightside, atleast she's there for me- as awkardly as she possibly can be, but i'm lucky not many people have parents like i do. like my dad bought me shirts that say "_____sexual" and "heterosexually challenged" it was just weird and i need to tell someone

5th Apr 2008, 10:38 AM	#7
Louise EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight/open minded Location: France Age: 47 Posts: 2,120 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Awkard conversation with mom It is not because she has distanced herself from her churchy friends that she has lost her faith, she is probably just moving away from prejudices that she no longer shares. Those are for your mum, good for her, she has moved from denial to acceptance! __________________ I'm a supporter of gay rights... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant. Paul Newman

5th Apr 2008, 11:17 AM	#8
Ty Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Awkard conversation with mom I think its great that your moms making an attempt to connect with you I didn't read every single post, so sorry if im asking a question you've answered, but did you give your mum the L word DVD's ? And if so, what did she think of them?

5th Apr 2008, 11:21 AM	#9
CerahWright Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: around Cincinnati Age: 21 Posts: 141 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Awkard conversation with mom i did, but yesterday, so i'm not sure if she's started watching them or not. I'll ask her when I go back to her house.

5th Apr 2008, 08:14 PM	#10
biisme Call me Katie Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Ask me and I'll tell you. Location: Lincoln, Rhode Island Age: 20 Posts: 8,119 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Awkard conversation with mom awwww....honey. I guess it's the thought that counts! __________________ From BIG problems to little problems, from broken hearts to broken shoelaces, I really do care. Feel free to PM me anytime about anything. I want to know.

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