Did you choose?

I never chose. I simply realized that my attraction for men was significantly stronger for men than women. I identified as bisexual for a while because I was still hopeful that maybe I could get married or have children and make my parents happy.

But I started thinking, what would make ME happy? This was a process that took YEARS! Literally. Maybe I pushed myself to the gay side, but whatever. If it was a choice, then it was my choice, and a damn good one.

 

I chose to accept it, which is completely different to choosing your orientation but easily mistaken for it.

 

If I could have chosen, I would have chosen straight cis-male.

 

No, I believe I was born this way.

 

Couldn't have said it better!

 

I wouldn't have chosen this if I had the choice! I've been fighting it for years but my attractions for the ladies just get stronger and stronger...

 

I am always careful, when telling others, to say that I had decided to accept being gay. It's a really important distinction.

 

Me being attracted to both men and women is not a choice. Hell, if I could make a choice, I'd choose to only be attracted to one sex and stick with it, but then I would be living a lie, now wouldn't I.
Accepting my sexuality was a choice, however. It was a tough choice. But I just couldn't ignore the way I felt around certain women, as well as men.

 

Definitely not. Though it took quite awhile for me to realise my sexuality, just because I don't think my sex drive is as strong as many of my peers [which made it confusing to understand the distinction between simply being fond of or admiring others and feeling deeper attraction.]

 

Pretty much this.

Especially since it prevented me from entering a relationship with a girl I really liked.

 

I didn't at all choose to like guys as well as girls, but it didn't take long for me to embrace the idea fully.

 

Why would anyone choose to be trans. If I could've decided my fate before my birth, I would've definitely chosen the straight cis-male package, thankyou very much.

 

I would have chosen to be straight, Alas I'm not. It would have made a whole heck of things easier..

So yeah, being gay isn't really a choice but it's something I'm happy with all the same.

Pretty much this.

 

I really can't say for sure. I cannot recall having made a conscious choice. But, getting a little mystical for a moment, I remember one New Age guru saying that our spirits exist before conception, and we make choices based on the lessons we need to learn. A little too far out, perhaps...but I can't refute the possibility complete. And, at the same time, I know there are a lot of things I'm learning on this path that I would never have learned otherwise.

 

No but my interests definitely shifted.

When I was younger (6-7) I DEFINITELY had crushes on girls, I just didn't know that I had them. Later on (10-13) It was "I still like girls but dudes are good too, I don't think I'd date one." Then it became "Girls...OH those things clinging to the sides of all the cute guys I want to date!"

 

I chose to accept the offer when a guy hit on me. But I didn't choose the desire to accept the offer (if that makes sense).

Later, I concluded that I was gay based on the evidence to that point.

Todd

 

The only thing I really choose are my actions. I'd say I'm more turned on by women, at the moment, but that doesn't rule out how I choose to identify myself.

I've messed with guys and girls in my younger days. Then was predominantly interested in women. Didn't choose that either. Then more into a few guys, then into my gf's sister and tonight I began masturbating to a man taking me dressed as a woman and finished to banging my gf's sister... In an odd sort of way, I really didn't choose any of that. It's how I'm wired.

And if it confuses you, then welcome to my world.