Ok this is about my friend/roommate. Im 24 he is 25. Im bi (not out to most people) and he straight (???) Here is the scoop... We have lived together for 6 years. We know most everything about eachother, think married couple. Now I was never 100% attracted to him because I dont get that way with friends (never ends well IMO). He is damn hot though lol. Anyway, so our bond has gotten stronger and stronger. I tell him I love him (which I mean), and he says the same in return. He is an introvert to the max and im the only one he talks to and who he feels close to (his words). He give me hugs everyday cause he knows I love hugs from anybody. But something new is happening, so please try to analyze with me. It was my birthday this past April and I had a bunch of friends over, one of which came from a 7 hour drive north so she stayed with us in our spare den. I bought her a airmattess so she would be comfortable and now that she is gone the mattress is still setup because it is pretty damn comfortable. Sometimes when Im reading my kindle I lay on it and sometimes I take naps. He promplty comes home at 3:30pm, does his routine and then he will come in and hug me and talk for a bit. BUT...it went from me getting up to give him a hug to him laying down and hugging me....then to him laying fully on me and hugging me...then he started to sleep on top of me....then just yesterday, I got aroused and couldnt control it. My best friend said that if I feel he would be into it I should just "let it fly". So I did and he didnt say anything till he shifted and noticed it. He chuckled but still stayed there. So I was brave and moved his hand (like in a damn porno) right to my junk and had him feel it. At first it was a two second thing then he moved his hand away. A few minutes later I did it again and had to kind of direct him on touching it. Then I asked if he was hard and he said a little, so I touched his and he was. Then as I rubbed him a little more and he rubbed me he suddenly said "enough" not in a mad way though and got up to take his shower and stuff. But he was fine and hasnt said a thing about it. (Im testing the waters again today):lol: Am i nuts to think he is bi? I mean no straight guy would do what he did and be hard too. But after some snooping today with my bff we found only lesbian porn on his computer (seriously be careful about what you watch cause deleting history doesnt do shit lol) SO PLEASE PEOPLE: GIVE ME YOUR THOUGHTS. Ill add more details if need be.
I will try to give you advice. I once had a friend in school who was straight. We had sleepovers and he knew i was gay because i told him. One sleepover i went and slowly touched him. He was getting hard and he let me finish the job. We did this loads of times. He said it was a change from him doing it all the time. He could of been bi i don`t know. Your mate could be bi or they might be another reason. You need to have a chat about it really. Ask him questions but don`t just blurt out a question build it up towards asking the question you want to ask. Hopefully you get answers.
Thanks I still find it odd though. The other thing I forgot to mention is he is a virgin, dont know if that changes things. To me, what you did with your friend makes him sound bi. My straight friends would never do that with me or any guy. I just dont want to ask him, too many variables. Our friendship could be ruined if we get into it. I mean Ive gone this long with unrequited love, and Id rather have him with me for life as a friend. We have deep conversations all the time. I remember one in which I said something to the effect of "I think everone is somewhat bi" and he agreed. Idk, Im just freaking out over this whole thing. On the one hand Id love to see where it goes but on the other Im afraid of losing him. Ive lost alot of people in my life and true friends are hard to come by. I just wish this game didnt have to be played.
I can understand that you don`t want to lose him. Just break it to him slowly one step at a time. See how things go in a few days time before you ask him anything. Try to have fun at the moment and see where that leads. I mean going out to have fun. It might give you a clue.
We go out all the time, my radar is still offline when it comes to friends lol. I still have fun with him, its when he gets up close and personal that my problems start. Nothing is worse than trying to contain myself when all I want to do is kiss him. The guy is on top of me for godsake. :/ I have plenty of clues, but what is real and what is in my head? Thats the tough part. Is he just not sure of the whole thing? Is he just messing with my head? Or does he actually like me that way but he is afraid just like me?
Hmm, that is a good question. He could be bi, or he could just be very open-minded, very comfortable with you (even saying "I love you" in a platonic way), and very horny. But since you said this... I'm inclined to ask why it matters? Are you trying to get him as a partner, or just curious about him? Because if it's the former, you might try plainly asking him how he sees you, and if he says "just friends" just go ahead and say you'd be interested in more*. If it's the latter, even easier. "Out of curiosity, do you like guys?" *I doubt a silly thing like romantic interest will break your friendship after so long. If you're okay with it staying that way assuming he doesn't want a relationship, you should be just fine. Your story was very sexy, btw. Even if nothing happens, I'd say you're pretty lucky to have such a great friend/roommate.
I know Im lucky . I actually thought that my story wouldnt make sense online lol. as for the whole deal, would I want to be curious with him...deff! (You people should see him when he comes home from work, he works outside with his muscles lmao) Would I want him as my partner? Well I truly do love the guy so yea id be open to that. I deal with enough of the bad side of him already and I know all (most) of his secrets lol. Ive been doing scenes in my head on how to talk to him about it. The problem is it never happens like it should. I wanted to say something yesterday when things were going down but my heart was pounding out of my chest. He had to move his head cause it was bugging him lol. He is a very difficult creature to understand and I know he wouldnt be the one to say anything. Uggg why cant it be easy. "Hey Jon, we already have seen, touched, and talked about everything. Lets just make it official."............If only.
Just don't push it too much.. don't wanna ruin your friendship. But it seems like he's interested if not just really curious.
Its exactly why I dont know what to do. I mean Im not pushing very much, but its one of those things where I dont want to live my life regreting that I didnt take the chance. Interested and curious are helpful but I still dont know what the next move will be.
When you write he is a virgin. Are you referring to never having gay sex or never having sex at all. If he is a true virgin his reactions are pretty normal for someone straight that is considering trying sex with you just to have sex.
Yea he is a total virgin. You make sense on that point but still, a straight guy having sex with a dude....just to have sex? I dunno, it crossed my mind that it could be something like that. Id still call you bi if you did that though.
I did, and think it is pretty normal to explore. ---------- Post added 8th May 2013 at 11:30 AM ---------- I did. The only lesbian porn is little hard to gauge but it has no men so that accounts for something. I would wondering why still a virgin at that age.
As do I lol On a side note I know why he is still a virgin, bad with humans lol. Good with me though.
Just a minor update: Last night we went to see Iron Man 3. Dinner and a movie n all that. Nothing was said at all and he didn't even have that temperament like he was even thinking about it. So now I really don't know how to approach the situation. I feel that if I push anymore physical contact with him it would be borderline molestation on his part and mine, and yet the hugs keep on coming. Side note, Iron Man 3 was pretty good.
