Which is more important to you: Looks or Personaility?

I'd rather go for personality what's the use of having a pretty face, sexy body if the personality is ugly, who doesn't respect you nor keep beatin you emotionally. Personality really counts for me but it would be awesome if it is both I would be the luckiest person alive.

 

I don't think one is more honest than the other, but instead that women seem to take a more holistic view when choosing a partner, with looks, personality, finance, etc all playing more-or-less equal parts in the choice. Perhaps these good looking guys are more confident (something women, but really, most people value) and more likely to approach more women?

With the whole 'men are more visual' argument aside, I'd say the media crams images of the ideal women (or man, for gay men) down mens' throats, until they feel like unsuccessful losers if they don't have the stereotypical 10/10 trophy wife.

Not everyone finds the same traits attractive.

I also don't think there's any trait a partner would 'have' to have for me to consider them, and from experience, there have even been a few less-than-average persons who I originally brushed off but ended up falling head over heels for. This is what I think alienates me from most men, gay and straight, along with my tendency to go for more effeminate and masculine, androgynous men and women. Same with personality: they wouldn't 'need' to be anything, since theoretically I think any relationship could work, though I go for more quirky, intelligent, and open types.

 

Both are important. I honestly think that someone who says that looks have absolutely no importance whatsoever is kidding themselves: they're vital for first impressions which themselves are very influential. I've asked myself what the case would be for blind people, and I suppose other things would take over, like odour and the sound of someone's voice (which still play some part for sighted people).

 

My own opinion is that if you think of a relationship like a bonfire, looks are the spark and ###### that get it going, but personality is the firewood that sustains it. You need the spark and ###### to set it alight, but once the firewood is burning, the spark and ###### don't really matter anymore.

 

From what I've seen people go for looks first. No matter what BS they say, the uglier people among us have a bitch of a time getting a date. I have been friends with lots of plain people over the years and the one thing they all seemed to have in common was they all were single looking perpetuailly. Always dreaming of that supermodel they could never get. I have known a few to settle with someone nice like my friend Jason. Jason was my best friend in high school and he was a big bubba type. He is now like 400#. Well a few years after high school he had moved this toothpick skank (let me apologise for using this word, it is what she was) in with him who was sleeping with the whole trailer park they lived in. One night she did one of his coworkers in front of him. He was so upset and cried on my sholder that night and I told him to find a girl with personallity, not "the look". A few years later after being burned by the toothpick quite a bit more, he met Anna a big sweet friendly woman. They got married and now like 18 years later have 2 kids and are still a happy couple. He fineally took my advise and looked for happiness. I wish all of you out there could have what Jason and Anna, and Mike and I have. June

 

Boom.....nailed it ^

couldn't have put it better myself

 

personality is everything. anyone can be at least a little attractive if they take care of themselves. and the personality trait to take pride in how you look matters to me. so i feel comfortable saying a good personality beats everything else.

 

I'd agree - I look for both, but personality is much more important to me. Why bother being with a guy/girl who's gorgeous only to find they can't have a decent conversation? Unless, you know, you like that sort of thing.

 

I would be lying if I said "a Cute looking Guy, doesn't attract my attention" I am drawn to attractive Men, but they would need a personality to go with it, which can sometimes be rarely the case, a lot of good looking Straight Guys I know, tend to love themselves too much, that's not to say, that a plain looking Guy wouldn't attract my attention, with a cute smile & tons of personality, with the ability to make me laugh, a good sense of humor is a plus for me

 

Best explanation I've heard on the matter.

 

I like both, but personality always comes first for me.

 

Personality is always first.

 

This x1000

 

For me if there's no personality then no deal. I can't go for someone that has no personality.

 

I hear a lot of people say all women want a "bad boy" or whatever, but that sentiment makes me want to barf. I am WAY drawn to personality (as I'm Demisexual).

It's so weird... people all saying they want someone with a good personality have a tendency to be perpetually single... *cough* me *cough*

 

I've dated pretty brick walls and I've dated homely sweethearts, neither of those work out. If you aren't attracted to someone, you aren't attracted to them. If choosing to be attracted to someone was an option most of us wouldn't be here, because we'd choose to be attracted to the opposite sex. Likewise trying to have a meaningful relationship with someone you don't like for who they are on the inside just will not work, it's boring, argumenative and overall just awful everytime you walk out of the bedrooom.

You have to have a balance or it just isn't worth the time.