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Exception(s) to your sexual orientation or identity

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Reptillian, May 12, 2013.

  1. Reptillian

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    I been thinking about my own past fluid sexuality and now I think of my past fluid sexuality as changes of degree of sexuality as in from asexuality to hypersexuality. I wasn't really sexually attracted to any guy. But there was this guy I took emotional interest into and I don't mind the idea of sex with him. It's not like I'm turned on and want him immediately into the bed, but it doesn't repulse me either. You guys are getting me? This one friend was a exception. Still doesn't change the fact that I'm straight. Not gonna say heterosexual or asexual as that depends on how you define sexuality.

    Do any of you have a exception to your sexual orientation or identity?
     
  2. 4ever Hearth

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    Girls that are their own person. Who aren't scared to be a "Nerd", "Leader", "Tomboy", etc. Empowered women are one of a few "Out of the Box" turn-ons for me. :lol:
     
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    My orientation is toward people based on personality, etc. Not gender.

    And my identity is so screwed up half the time I don't even know.
     
  4. Ettina

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    Nope. I have never felt any kind of sexual feeling ever.
     
  5. Reptillian

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    That's fine. At least you have some desire for personality which I really wish I had for the least, but meh.
     
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    I’m not attracted to people sexually. I’m attracted to someone’s good nature, kindness – their soft side. I was married to a guy who had that side, but also had a darker side I didn’t know about till after we were married.

    I have never felt sexually attracted to someone just for sex. There is always a deeper element to my interest -- & those qualities have usually been in females, but sometimes I see it in men. I haven’t been with a guy since my divorce, but then again I haven’t been with many people at all on a personal level since then. College classes & work are the only interactions I have had (& wanted) for a long time.

    Getting personal (in person) takes a painfully long time with me – time most people don’t seem to have. I’m only willing to talk about my life & interests on forums like this where a) I’m unknown, & b) I might help someone. Otherwise, I just prefer to stay as a silent shadow, admiring people’s good nature from afar. No one is wholly good anyway – I’m too afraid to take that risk again.
     
  7. Oddish

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    Same case for me as well.

    In the past, I used to trick myself into believing that I felt some sort of sexual connection with any given person I found attractive, since I was conditioned to the belief that it was the "normal" reaction regarding a crush or interest. I tried "conversion therapy" or an experiment on myself with watching porn but it did nothing. It was like watching a vulgar film.

    I can see myself relating to some aromantic qualities as well, so an exception to my heteroromantic orientation would be lacking romantic feelings towards those I do find attractive. I wonder if all of my actions pertaining to my supposed "orientation" are subconsciously forced. Perhaps I really am some sort of aromantic, asexual kind of person.
     
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    Difficult to find exceptions to pansexuality.
     
  9. kem

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    Well, no not really. I've had a few crushes on girls but it was never sexual.
     
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    I still get aroused by men with stimulation, but I don't really feel attracted to them. Also, the only aesthetically attracted to girls thing, I have been attracted to a small number of guys. But, it is so rare for me (Also, can't really tell if it was pretending to find them attractive or not)
     
  11. Bobbybobby99

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    I have had but a single girlfriend that I found aesthetically pleasing. I just can't bring myself, by any means or hypnosis, to have the faintest physical attraction to girls.