Hand on the Shoulder - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

xballetxbeautyx · 18th Apr 2008, 06:53 PM

So my friend told me today that 75% of homosexual relationships start by one person putting their hand on the other person's shoulder. I haven't checked the figure yet, but has anyone heard of or experienced this? ~megan~

PS: She keeps putting her hand on my shoulder now.

Zak · 18th Apr 2008, 06:59 PM

Thats how my relationship started!! I guess it might be a correct statistic....might have to see a couple of websites though

justbeingme · 18th Apr 2008, 08:33 PM

omg there is this really hot (straight w/ gf) guy in my seminar and he did that the other day!!

that would be a dream come true if he came out (score one for moi)

xballetxbeautyx · 22nd Apr 2008, 06:25 PM

The girl (the one that kept putting her hand on my shoulder) likes me! (and I like her back... a lot.) So now we're... well, going to a mostly conservative school full of homophobes and what not, plus with us being best friends, it's not really going anywhere... but we're working on that part.

I'm happy, though!

~megan~

ccdd · 23rd Apr 2008, 12:37 AM

I don't know about any statistics (or how you'd find out!), but I'd suspect that something like that is probably true - ie that breaking the physical contact barrier in a non-sexual way usually comes first. I mean, I'd probably do something like that, or an "accidental" non-sexual touch...

Although I'd say eye contact maybe comes before this even.

Trumpetplyer23 · 23rd Apr 2008, 11:45 AM

My straight guy friend does that all the time to other guys. He goes to the well-known homophobes, puts his hand on their shoulder, then tells them the statistic. It's hilarious.

If it's true or not, I don't know. I do agree with ccdd about breaking the physical contact barrier and eye contact.

23rd Apr 2008, 11:51 AM

HaHa I actually do this quite a lot...

Defraction · 23rd Apr 2008, 01:53 PM

Hmm... I'm gonna have to use this.

Orion · 23rd Apr 2008, 02:10 PM

Well it's an intresting fact, I'd never actually thought of that. But I guess a simple toch brakes the physical barrier and the sexual tension (if any) just starts flowing afterwards.

I do believe, however, that way before that eye-contact plays a major part in creating that sexual tension and the physical barrier is creates. So it's still in doubt when and if you can actually define a 'point' in which the relationship starts.

23rd Apr 2008, 02:28 PM

how the hell do you find something like that out

I think its just an urban myth to be honest.

23rd Apr 2008, 02:33 PM

It probably is, but hey, there's nothing wrong with dreaming.

panda · 23rd Apr 2008, 03:28 PM

Casually puts hand on Psych's shoulder and agrees that there's nothing wrong with dreaming.

**Lexington** · 23rd Apr 2008, 04:19 PM

Did you know 94% of people who quote statistics can't back them up?

Mine didn't. The first time we touched, we hugged. I guess a hand might have been on the shoulder as we went in for the hug, but I don't think that counts.

And even if that statistic is accurate, make sure you notice what it says. It says 75% of homosexual relationships start with a hand on the shoulder. It doesn't say that 75% of hands on the shoulder develop into homosexual relationships.

Lex

23rd Apr 2008, 04:30 PM

Wow. You sure know how to play with the words. I would have never noticed that.

xballetxbeautyx · 23rd Apr 2008, 07:42 PM

Ugh. She's being weird and fickle. Now she likes some idiotic guy and I don't know if she likes me anymore... =/ I'm gonna put my hand on her shoulder again and see what she does. ~megan~

**Lexington** · 23rd Apr 2008, 07:53 PM

So she liked you alot yesterday, but not today? Huh?

Don't rush things. Stay close, stay friends. And don't count on shoulders being your "in".

Lex

Trumpetplyer23 · 24th Apr 2008, 11:47 AM

Ironically enough, in my last period class today, I decided to do that to a straight girl I know and she freaked, it was priceless, lol. I told everyone the statistic, and there's this girl that sits behind me in this class. I have a suspiscion that she likes me and she's a lesbian. Anyways, she kept putting her hand on my shoulder after that.

ccdd · 24th Apr 2008, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Trumpetplyer23

Ironically enough, in my last period class today, I decided to do that to a straight girl I know and she freaked, it was priceless, lol. I told everyone the statistic, and there's this girl that sits behind me in this class. I have a suspiscion that she likes me and she's a lesbian. Anyways, she kept putting her hand on my shoulder after that.

Ha! Go for it

Any repeated physical (and eye) contact can be a sign of interest I think. Whoops, I've already said that...

24th Apr 2008, 05:46 PM

What happens if someone doens't have a hand... or a shoulder... or both?!
It is unfair.

heatqueen · 25th Apr 2008, 04:20 AM

Hmm me thinks there's someone me has to try that on... *daydreams*

18th Apr 2008, 06:53 PM	#1
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Hand on the Shoulder So my friend told me today that 75% of homosexual relationships start by one person putting their hand on the other person's shoulder. I haven't checked the figure yet, but has anyone heard of or experienced this? ~megan~ PS: She keeps putting her hand on my shoulder now. __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

18th Apr 2008, 06:59 PM	#2
Zak Formerly Ticky02neo Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: ...Tis a work in progress... Location: Rhode Island Age: 17 Posts: 1,628 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Thats how my relationship started!! I guess it might be a correct statistic....might have to see a couple of websites though __________________ I'd like to give a shoutout to all the people that have ended their EC career. Like me, but I came back... after a while.

18th Apr 2008, 08:33 PM	#3
justbeingme Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Nearish Wichita, Kansas Age: 19 Posts: 66 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Hand on the Shoulder omg there is this really hot (straight w/ gf) guy in my seminar and he did that the other day!! that would be a dream come true if he came out (score one for moi) __________________

22nd Apr 2008, 06:25 PM	#4
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Hand on the Shoulder The girl (the one that kept putting her hand on my shoulder) likes me! (and I like her back... a lot.) So now we're... well, going to a mostly conservative school full of homophobes and what not, plus with us being best friends, it's not really going anywhere... but we're working on that part. I'm happy, though! ~megan~ __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

23rd Apr 2008, 12:37 AM	#5
ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Hand on the Shoulder I don't know about any statistics (or how you'd find out!), but I'd suspect that something like that is probably true - ie that breaking the physical contact barrier in a non-sexual way usually comes first. I mean, I'd probably do something like that, or an "accidental" non-sexual touch... Although I'd say eye contact maybe comes before this even.

23rd Apr 2008, 11:51 AM	#7
Starlight Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Hand on the Shoulder HaHa I actually do this quite a lot...

23rd Apr 2008, 01:53 PM	#8
Defraction Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone :) Location: England Age: 19 Posts: 203 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Hmm... I'm gonna have to use this.
$Defraction is offline$

23rd Apr 2008, 02:10 PM	#9
Orion The Sparkling Constellation Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: One. Who remembers it after all :p Location: Argentina Age: 22 Posts: 272 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Well it's an intresting fact, I'd never actually thought of that. But I guess a simple toch brakes the physical barrier and the sexual tension (if any) just starts flowing afterwards. I do believe, however, that way before that eye-contact plays a major part in creating that sexual tension and the physical barrier is creates. So it's still in doubt when and if you can actually define a 'point' in which the relationship starts. __________________ "It's like all of my life, everyone has always told me: You're a shoe!. You're a shoe! You're a shoe! You're a shoe! And actually I've just stopped and I said: What If I don't wanna be shoe? What if I want to be a purse? Or a hat?" Rachel Greene - Friends 1x01 (The First One)

23rd Apr 2008, 02:28 PM	#10
Ty Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Hand on the Shoulder how the hell do you find something like that out I think its just an urban myth to be honest.

23rd Apr 2008, 02:33 PM	#11
Psych! Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Hand on the Shoulder It probably is, but hey, there's nothing wrong with dreaming.

23rd Apr 2008, 03:28 PM	#12
panda EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Toronto,Canada Age: 67 Posts: 4,653 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Casually puts hand on Psych's shoulder and agrees that there's nothing wrong with dreaming.

23rd Apr 2008, 04:19 PM	#13
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Did you know 94% of people who quote statistics can't back them up? Mine didn't. The first time we touched, we hugged. I guess a hand might have been on the shoulder as we went in for the hug, but I don't think that counts. And even if that statistic is accurate, make sure you notice what it says. It says 75% of homosexual relationships start with a hand on the shoulder. It doesn't say that 75% of hands on the shoulder develop into homosexual relationships. Lex

23rd Apr 2008, 04:30 PM	#14
Psych! Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Wow. You sure know how to play with the words. I would have never noticed that.

23rd Apr 2008, 07:42 PM	#15
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Ugh. She's being weird and fickle. Now she likes some idiotic guy and I don't know if she likes me anymore... =/ I'm gonna put my hand on her shoulder again and see what she does. ~megan~ __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

23rd Apr 2008, 07:53 PM	#16
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Hand on the Shoulder So she liked you alot yesterday, but not today? Huh? Don't rush things. Stay close, stay friends. And don't count on shoulders being your "in". Lex

24th Apr 2008, 05:46 PM	#19
Quitex Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Hand on the Shoulder What happens if someone doens't have a hand... or a shoulder... or both?! It is unfair.

25th Apr 2008, 04:20 AM	#20
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,707 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Hand on the Shoulder Hmm me thinks there's someone me has to try that on... daydreams __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.