Gaydar Switched On

I still have yet to receive a gaydar that isn't broken. :eusa_doh: Well... it's more than possible that you were extra vigilant...maybe he was gay.

 

Omg youre so lucky (*hug*)
Yeah telling your mom,maybe was a good way to boost your inside confidence and gave you a different view of things (*hug*)

 

Haha, I wish my gaydar would work. I think mines broke

 

Absolutely... Before you were probably more worried about people or your mom finding out you're gay. Now that your mom knows you don't have worry about that anymore and you actually can focus your energy in the gaydar.

 

I wish I could borrow you gaydar. I had no idea how to tell who's gay unless they hold hands. But for girls it's a normal thing. And you probably has a gay magnet too considering how the guys are giving you attention/hints

 

Can I be you for a day, DB?
It sounds like you had an interesting time.

 

Hi Dublin Boy

I would like to think of it more like your “Gaydar Jammer” has been switched off. By that I mean that now that you are no-longer worried about revealing your true identity to your mum you are now allowing a visual eye-eye two way handshake between you and the other guy, a bit like a computer or fax modem syncing up if you are old enough to remember the sounds they made.

Once you have made this very fast and probably subconscious connection, less than a few seconds, you know that there is something different about that guy not just that he is cute. This “something different” is what I think of as Gaydar, whereas I think straight people would think Gaydar was purely matching a person to fit the gay stereotype.

If we continue the computer network analogy as we consider a crowd of people with gay folk mixed in with them, I think this “visual handshake” between gay people is like WiFi devices constantly checking who is in range on the network. Once we have made this initial eye contact in a crowd we can see others are target cute guy is also looking at and add them to our network exchanging our visual handshake and periodically checking back to see if they are still around.

Often when I go to a regular fast food restaurant where one of the serving staff is gay he seems to act as the coordinator of these “visual handshakes”, signalling the presence of other gay folk in the restaurant who then pick up on those not initially on their Gaydar. When this happens I get a nice warm feeling, like being a member of a special club.

For those who don’t think they have Gaydar, try sitting is a crowded place and just people watch, but don’t stare, and watch closely who they are looking at. Perhaps you could start with someone who was more stereotypically gay and see who they are looking at, once you have picked up on this you will start to see it everywhere as long as you have switched off your “Gaydar Jammer” and allow yourself to respond to the look.

Word of warning : If you look too long eye-eye at the wrong person you may get thumped, somehow you know instinctively within seconds when you get the right person, but if you get it wrong perhaps have a previously rehearsed excuse like “you look like someone [mention a name] I used to work with /go to school with etc.” Don’t try and make up something on the spot it won’t sound convincing.

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My gaydars off, but all you have to do is check optical reflexes and see who their gawking at to find who their checking out

 

I don't think I have gaydar... I could probably see a hot guy, wearing a rainbow bracelet on each arm, and a shirt that says, "I'm GAY!!!!" And still sigh, and think he's probably straight.

 

Like other people have mentioned it's really a confidence thing when you are out.
but I don't think my gaydar is very good... though I sometimes get a "feeling or connection" while talking to someone (might just be based on stereotypes though).