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Do you think you'd want kids?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by AwesomGaytheist, Jun 3, 2013.

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Would you ever want kids?

  1. No

    59 vote(s)
    29.6%
  2. Yes with the opposite sex

    29 vote(s)
    14.6%
  3. Yes by a sperm donor

    35 vote(s)
    17.6%
  4. Yes by a surrogate mother

    58 vote(s)
    29.1%
  5. Yes by adoption

    99 vote(s)
    49.7%
  6. Yes by foster parenting/other

    32 vote(s)
    16.1%
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  1. AwesomGaytheist

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    I'm just wondering here, do you think you'd want kids someday, by some means? Personally, even if I was straight I still wouldn't. I'm not father material, and having a brother with serious behavioral issues (he calls my mom the C-word on a regular basis. And he's only 13!! WTF!) That's something I'd rather not have to deal with over the next 18 years.
     
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    Yes. Shouldn't be a problem doing it the old-fashioned way. The only problem I foresee is that a disproportionate number of bi women don't seem to want kids for some reason.
     
  3. King

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    Yes, absolutely, 100%. I'm having my first within the next six years.

    There's not many people (especially on EC I'd imagine) that understand how badly I desire to have children.
     
  4. Bolin

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    Nope, no children for me. Never.
     
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    I voted no, but I'm not entirely closed off to the idea of having a kid. I don't think I'd ever want more than 1 though. Something that would have to be discussed with an eventual partner.
     
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    Yes, I'd like to have kids eventually. A surrogate mother would be okay, but I might also adopt.
     
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    I would definitely! :slight_smile: Kids are really a bundle of joy.
     
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    At this point in my life, I don't feel ready to take care of another life (lucky to be gay, no unwanted pregnancies :icon_bigg), but I may change in the distant future. If my future partner is against having kids, I don't think I'd mind.
     
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    If I were to be 100% honest with myself, I'd say I'm indifferent.

    However I voted yes, I'd use a surrogate. The fact is I am an only child and the future of my family line rests upon me. So I view it almost as a moral obligation, and I think it is an important part of me being completely happy with my orientation. Perhaps a lot of this is based upon the expectations of the rest of my family, but regardless of the reason I think I'd generally be a good dad, and I would like to have at least one child someday.
     
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    I'm not sure I would, I'd prefer animals :slight_smile:
     
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    Yep, via good ole' fashioned sex, adoption or through a surrogate mother. All I can foresee for now is having one child, I would just love them to bits. Also I want to embarrass them with photos and movies, and the age old reason for childen: Grandkids! :lol:

    Seriously though, I'd like to be a father someday in the future.
     
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    At the moment, I say no. Not to say things won't change in the future though.

    Until I am in a loving and committed relationship, it wouldn't be fair to bring a child into this world by surrogacy or by adopting a child that needs stability.

    I'd never rule out the idea of having children though.
     
  13. AwesomGaytheist

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    Personally, yeah, I'm pretty sure I don't and won't ever want kids. I've never liked kids, never been a kid person. I'm 5 years older than my brother, so I do remember and was old enough to at least partially understand the amount of work that a new baby brings. All the screaming and crying. All the sleepless nights. All the shit. 10,000 diapers, and $300,000 per child over the next 18 years. All the behavior problems. All the hormones. I'll pass.

    Right now, my dogs are my kids, and they're a lot like kids. You have to raise them and teach them how to behave, but they don't live as long and they don't grow up and move out of the house. My monsters are 9 and 5 and they still keep me on my toes.
     
  14. Maybe. It really depends on whom I'm with and how much they want kids. I would prefer adoption, but if my partner really wanted to birth her own child, I couldn't deny her that.
     
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    Yes, I would love to have kids someday through adoption. I would like to adopt a boy or two.
     
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    Yes, I do think I want kids. But I want to have a child by a sperm donor of a man I know and am close with. I see myself being with a woman, and I do not think it would be ok to sleep with a man just to have a child. Sex should only be between people who love each other. Maybe have a child with a gay or bisexual man so things wouldn't be awkward? I would love the child to be mine, by blood, and to look like me. But if the woman I am with does not want children, I would definitely hear her out and consider her feelings.

    I have a black Labrador, and she is very much like a child. So I would probably be content with having pets for the rest of my life. <3
     
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    Clicked all the yes options. Doesn't matter how; I eventually want a kid. Two is pushing it though, and three is out of the question. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Yes, adoption and/or fostercare. I (we) want to help kids, I (we) don´t want a baby.
     
  19. drwinchester

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    Still rather undecided. Probably would adopt- lots of kids out there who need a home- should I and whoever I end up decide we do want kids. Certainly not opposed to any other option, my opinion could change.

    I rather like the idea of being the daddy, actually. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Maybe one day