How superficial are you?

I like to think I'm not superficial. But in all honesty, I'm probably not.
I do think I'm less superficial than most people, but it could just be the arrogance of the self.
It's really hypocritical of me to do that, of course, because I'm about as good-looking as Chunk from the Goonies.

 

I don't think I'm too superficial with regards to other people's look, but I've been attracted to people who were mildly attractive. On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd put most of them at 6-7 with only two people that I'd rank at 8, but that's because they happened to fit my personal preferences at the time. However, what attracted me to them in the first place wasn't their physical appearance, I was friend with most of them first (only 1 exception) before developing any romantic/sexual attraction towards them. Their physical appearance just made them more attractive.

 

All gay guys are superficial. That's why gay guys often have terrible self esteem and self image, me included.

 

I like average guys. Don't get me wrong, I like to look at hot guys, but in all honesty, I see myself settling down with an average guy. To me, there is something inherently sexy about average guys.

 

I think the physical attraction is an entry point to emotional/romantic attraction.

My attraction to people's personality is almost always manifested in their aesthetic beauty - I heavily rely on intuition to start me on wanting to develop a relationship with someone.

I don't know if physical attraction is actually "superficial" - it's based in biology, I believe.

 

I may be alone in this, but Im not as superficial as I seem (tahts not what I'm alone in i assure you haha!)

People that are insanely super attractive, yeah, are nice to look at and be around, and yes, average guys are sexy to me... but

Average guys, or really really nerdy guys are just... way way sexier than "hot guys" I'd prefer an average guy with great hair or a great smile over a guy with the perfect 6 pack, and my brain is so used to "average" guys that they are WAYY sexier to me. Kind of like the ultimate attraction, average guys just really really turn me on lol, its a bit crazy and disproportionate, in that way id be lucky to have ANYONE !

I dont think i can fall in love with someone who doesnt remotely take care of themselves though (i mean hygienically)

 

There came a point in my life where I had to make a choice. I realized that what I wanted in a relationship and what I was attracted to were two very different things, so I essentially had to choose between them. A guy I used to work with told me, "You've either got to have your fun or settle down." That turned out to ring true with me because even though some people are fun to play with or even date for a little while, most of the time, I couldn't put up with them for very long. I realized that what I wanted was a lasting relationship. Sure, the guys I used to find attractive were fun, but they weren't what I needed. Thankfully, choosing to settle down (unlike the first time I got married) turned out to be much, much better. So, no, I don't consider myself superficial. The outside is not particularly important to me because it can be very deceiving.

 

:icon_winkto put it bluntly, attraction is just an animal instinct. all people, no matter how non-superficial, have some physical preference.

 

Isn't that a bit of an overgeneralization?

Me... I truly don't care about looks. Thats what porn is for

 

I don't know if I'm superficial or not but when I'm attracted to someone, I think they're perfect.:love:

 

I'm superficial to a degree. Personality is a key factor as well. I tend to like a more aggressive personality like my own. A nice face with the right personality can drive me cray cray lol :love:

 

I'm with you. Certain types turn my head. As for friendships, looks don't matter. So, yeah, I can be superficial.

 

With women I'm much less superficial than men. But in both personality is a key factor if I'm going to have a relationship, I couldn't date a person whose personality doesn't fit me.
But yeah, even in relationships with men I'm very much superficial.

 

I'm not very superficial. Attractive guys are nice but I find commonality quite attractive

No.

 

Por que respondiste en espanol? jaja.

The guys I find most attractive are the guys that I think are on the same level as me. Gives me a sense of equity in a relationship. So mildly superficial, yes.

 

I'll translate the above post:
Yeah, definitely personality is a key factor, particularly in a relationship, but, just like you, I couldn't date a person which I don't find attractive in spite of them having an awesome personality. This of course makes things much more complicated when it comes to looking for partner and I fear if I continue being as strict I'll end up alone. Perhaps it would be ideal if I found a person who I find at least a little bit attractive and with an awesome personality, and in time, become more attracted to them.

My response:
No se si podria salir con alguien que no me atrae, capas mas con una chica que con un chico. Me parece que no deberias bajar tu exigencia solo por miedo a quedarte solo, sino capas terminas saliendo con alguien que no te parece atractivo. Ahora capas tenes razon y con el tiempo le agarras el gusto.

I don't know if I could date a guy girl that I don't find attractive, perhaps with a girl rather than a boy. I don't think you should lower your standard for relationships just because you fear ending up alone, cause maybe that way you end up with someone you don't find attractive. Although as you say, perhaps in time, you start to find them attractive.

 

This x1000. I have horrible self esteem, and I am very superficial.