dream partner checklist

This is what I liked about my partner:

We're best friends
common interests
he's a twink
He's blonde
He's gay
He loves to travel and so do I
He's Canadian (which makes him even more awesome)
And above all, he loves me.

 

Hm, let's see...

Personality:
-Fairly laid back, but passionate about his interests
-Not impressed with material things
-As passionate about music as I am
-Reflective, doesn't shy away from deep, intellectual discussion
-Cares about social justice
-Open-minded
-Been through some kind of emotional difficulties, so he can understand where I'm coming from when I talk about mine.
-Likes cuddling.
-Willing to take control in the bedroom. (I mean, what?)

Looks:
-Chubby! Bonus points if it's centered around his midsection. (I like bellies, is what I'm saying here.) Extra bonus points if he's comfortable with his size and comfortable with the fact that I like him for it.
-Has a beard.
-Longish or long hair.
-Wears glasses.
-I go gaga for blond hair/beards or red hair/beards (especially red).
-As tall as me or taller (which is pretty unlikely, but hey, it's called a dream checklist for a reason )

 

As far as personality goes: independent, straightforward, slightly dominant, and curious. Beyond that, I'm not too difficult.

I've wondered if I really wanted my "dream partner" to have the same interest as me. I actually like trying out new things once in a while, and if I share too many interest with my partner, I worry that we wouldn't be able to really try out new things because it's not something we would typically think about, whereas with a partner with whom I have less in common with, there would be more to discover.

As far as physical aspect goes, about my height or taller, has to be thin and not too hairy. Beyond that, I don't really have any preferences with regards to skin/hair color, etc.

 

I forgot to add, he has to like sports. Me and him are watching the Bruins and Blackhawks right now. Nobody better to watch hockey with than a Canadian.

 

Personality:
Intelligent
Enjoys deep conversations
Has good values and lives them
Loves to cuddle

Looks:
Brown or blonde medium length hair
Average height
Thin to average weight
Not too much body hair

 

Nope, I'm American. His parents moved from Saskatchewan to my hometown in Michigan when my BF was 12. And yes, he still says, "eh" every now and then.

 

Personality:
Intelligent, as in slightly above average over most areas or specialised knowledge in a few (This is surprisingly important to me. Am I shallow for it?)
Hilarious, laughter is my life.
Musical(ly gifted or just interested in), someone who will call me a bunch of stupid insults for saying his/her favourite band sucks and then mock mine with an impression of me but only with a silly voice and call me a hipster.
Passionate, they need to be able to argue with me all night about politics, literature, cinema or even something as mundane as whether scone is pronounced "Sk-on" or "Sk-own" (It's the latter by the way. Fact)
Loving, someone who likes to cuddle, hold hands and just enjoy each others company.
Spontaneous would be nice as I really am not in any way a spontaneous person but I'd like to be more and if he/she was I think I'd become more so too.
Patient. I cannot stress this enough, I have a temper that is easy to go off and hard to rein in and I'll say/do things in this time I will regret. This person needs to know I love them and if I call them nasty names or barge past them it's just me being my usual stupid self and I'll come back in 20 minutes with my best attempt at puppy eyes. Also I have a few issues with things like self-image/confidence problems and some depression, they'd have to be patient enough to put up with it.
They can't be too vain. If someone spent ages obsessing over their clothes for a date I'd leave without them.
A Chubby chaser. But you wont have to chase for long as I'll get tired and have a snack.

Looks: (Male)
Skinny, as a fat person I know just how bad we look naked and have been put off that forever.
I would prefer the hair to be less than shoulder length, little to no facial hair.
Preferably no older than 25/26 but there are plenty of hot 40+ out there.
Any hair/eye/skin colour, roughly my height would be best.

Looks: (Female)
Basically the same as above but I care even less about how long their hair is but they should definitely not have facial hair this time.

Woops, went on for quite a bit there. And here I was when I started typing just expecting to put Matthew Gray Gubler/Scarlett Johannson.

 

Personality/other:
-Open minded, tolerant of differences
-Patient
-Kind, considerate of others feelings
-Honest
-Someone who I can have conversations with for hours at a time (so far/right now, I found out I can only do this with my younger sister)
-Intelligent (as in, someone who can think deeply, be analytical)
- Preferably college educated (I would accept non-college education, if they're a reader for example, and/or learn things on their own)
- Different religious/non-religious beliefs (than me)
- A bit sarcastic, occasionally funny
- Darker personality
- Doesn't want children
- Likes to read books
- Likes to cuddle
- Healthy eating habits
- No smoking
- No recreational use of drugs (caffeine and alcohol being the exception. I don't drink, but I wouldn't mind if she occasionally drank)

Physical:
- Taller than me (5'5 at least)
- Long hair (darker hair preferable)
- Different ethnicity (than me), Bi/multi-racial a plus. Pure Native American would be another preference of mine.
- Any eye color is fine.
- Long eye-lashes
- No larger than a C-cup
- Average weight
- Possibly a unique tattoo or two (a plus if it's meaningful to person/cultural origins)

If someone like this magically appeared in front of me, I can't imagine not being sexually and romantically attracted to her. Yeah, I know, all these qualities/preferences found together in one person is pretty much impossible. But, it's still nice to imagine.

 

Does anybody else read some of these and see people are into things that you find are a turn-off, and you're like, "WHAT!? How can you like THAT!?"

 

Personality
1) has to be funny
2) Laid back and calm
3) optimistic
4) playful
5) romantic
6) outdoorsy/adventurous (a love of travel falls in here)
7) a little nerdy or artsy
8) kind of person who stands up for himself and me
9) has goals/ aspirations or is successful and has a vehicle

things that help but don't matter us much
10) I like guys who have been or are in the military for some reason
11) masculine is another attribute which helps but is not required
12) Older than me

Looks
1) taller than me (5'10'')
2) in as good or better shape than me (some level of abs and pecs)

the rest are more preference but don't matter that much
3) darker hair
4) Tattoos maybe light piercings but mostly tattoos
5) full stubble
6) light colored eyes the more colorful the better
7) tan
8) slightly buffer muscle rather than lean muscle
9) different ethnicity or bi-racial is also something I really like

As for behavioral stuff I prefer non smokers who don't use any form of drugs. Light or social drinker. Also They have to be the big spoon, like to cuddle, be big on making out and be able to be really soft, loving, and sweet, or kind of rough and kinky lol. I don't like caddy and I don't like meat heads or guys who are all about how manly and awesome they are. Over-confidence is a turn off.

I think I am a little particular...

 

Personality:
-Have most or all of my values. I will not tolerate sexism or racism or homophobia or transphobia or, well, anything like that
-Must be veg*n
-Must be intelligent and a philosophical thinker
-Must be compassionate and understanding
-Must be willing to fight for what she/he/ze believes in
-Must be somewhat compatible with my interests, but also not have identical ones, so as to broaden my life
-Maybe poly. Not sure about that one.

 

I should probably add to that.
-Passionate
-Interesting
-Open to new things
-Not materialistic
-Does not watch sports. I have nothing against sports or those who watch them, but I just can't stand it personally, and my ideal mate wouldn't partake in activities for extended periods of time that I can't stand.
-Will be atheist, pagan, buddhist or agnostic