Do you have any 'non-negotiables'?

They have to be as outgoing as me.

Edit: I mean that as in they want to go out on the town, see friends, etc. Like I do. It's not really a deal breaker, but it matters to me.

 

Monogamy. If you want to date other people and sleep around while we're together, don't let the door hit you on your way out.

 

Must be taller or about same height
Not Religious

Thats pretty much it. lol

 

My kids have to like them...oh and non smoker.

And there has to be some physical attraction. And, this sounds mean, but if they are not smart enough to carry on a conversation with me, it just ain't happening.

 

Well, I've suggested before that "having non-negotiables" would be my one non-negotiable. But,

Damn. ^.^


I tend to draw the line at sexual psychopathy. Being gutted for pleasure just doesn't sound like a fun time, y'know?

 

Must be a cuddler. Non-negotiable.

 

- No drugs.
- Must not want or have children.
- Must not be too political, too religious, too anti-religious, anti-science, or too activist-y. People going to those extremes on those fronts stress me out a lot.
- Responsible drinker. Knows when it's time to stop, and no getting drunk.
- No smoking (of anything)
- Must be a kind person with a mild temper
- Monogamous

 

- Any form of mental/physical/emotional coercion is a Hell No. :eusa_eh:
- No Heavy/Belligerent drinkers. (Falling all over the place, fighting with everyone.)
- They can't be trans*phobic, biphobic, homophobic, racist etc.
- Passive aggressiveness is a definite no.

Non-negotiable. :dry:

 

Must not be the type of person I can't stand to be around. Anything else, I can deal with.

 

I'm not saying that anyone is less of a person based on my list. In relationships, compatibility is important and if there isn't enough compatibility the relationship has a large chance of failing. That would just be a waste of everyone's time. These are things that a long term bf/gf must be:

• Compassionate – I can’t be with someone that doesn’t care about other people. This is a big one for me. I would love it if the person I was dating did something to give back to the community.
• Ethical – They need to have a strong sense of ethics that is pretty similar to mine
• Open minded – They don't have to agree with everything other people do but I’m not interested in being with someone that finds the need to judge other people for every little thing they do. I find that incredibly unattractive.
• At least some level of ambition – I’m very ambitious and I think the other person must have at least a little ambition for a relationship to work
• Competent (overall) – I’m not looking for a member of MENSA or anything. I just want to be able to have an intelligent conversation with the person I’m dating.
• Abstains from drugs - I'm substance free and I'd prefer the same in my partner. I may be able to get past drinking alcohol on special occasions but I think that is about it.

Honestly, I think a person like this would be ridiculously sexy.

 

Like Paradox15, willing to go out
Clean
TV is an occasional thing.
No drugs (alcohol okay)
Monogamy

 

Don't let the door hit you where?

Mind altering stuff, and that would include anything beyond social drinking that can't be controlled, too.

Spendthrift.

Can't think of others right now.

 

• Clean (as in, bathes regularly)
• Not an alcoholic
• Not a gamer
• Likes to cuddle
• Intelligent but not arrogant
• compassionate
• Not an extremist (atheist, Christian, whatever)
• Prefers monogamy
• Must not mind children, since I have them

I'd also prefer someone who likes doing stuff outdoors in warm weather.

With all my requirements I'm sure I'll be alone the rest of my life. Oh well.

 

Monogamy
Not prejudiced in any way (no racism, homophobia, transphobia, ect)
Romantic
Not be an asshole. Yeah.

 

All those apply for me, as well.

In addition, I think him being chubby is non-negotiable too. I've given it a lot of thought, and the thing is that I have NEVER been attracted to skinny guys or buff guys. Ever. For me to go out with a skinny/buff guy because I'm not having much luck finding a plus-size boyfriend would be like going out with a woman because I'm not having much luck finding a boyfriend. If there's no chance of attraction, what's the point?

 

I'm pretty easy to get along with. My only things are:

- Cuddler
- Kind and Caring.
- Clean
- No Drugs or Alchohol
- Intelligent

And finally the most important rule of being in a relationship with me, they MUST be HONEST and FAITHFUL. The reason this is so important is because if I EVER found out that said person was cheating on me I would be devestated, do my crying bit for a while, and die on the inside then I would snap and:

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This would be the fate of the person that did so, only much, much, MUCH worse.

So anyone wanna go out? :icon_bigg