I don't know if there is a thread for this already (actually I'd be surprised if there weren't any), but I'm wondering anyhow, who knew? For those of you who are out (at least somewhat), was there anyone who guessed before you told them? I had varying responses. My mom has always been very open about not knowing which way I would swing, so she was unsurprised. I did have some friends who were pretty surprised, and a couple who told me that they had guessed. It crossed the minds of several, but most people started to guess by the way I was acting just before I came out. My Oma (grandmother) says that she had always known and was just patiently waiting for me to accept myself. So my reactions were pretty varying. What about yours?
Apparently, my entire school, my mom, my brother, and the internet. From numerous friends on the internet, I give off a 'gay vibe'. I'm not sure what I think of that, but whatever. My mom, when I was thirteen, caught me cross dressing a couple times. Or just finding girl clothes in my room. My friends say that they guessed I liked guys.. >_< They were still surprised when I came out, though. My brother caught gay porn on my phone like three times. The truth was inevitable. Still, the only people who really accept me are a couple friends and the internet.
All of the friends I've told have said it crossed their minds at least once so I guess you could say they knew...
I know my gender identity has crossed people's minds before, but they usually just don't understand. My sister will not accept it. My husband is really happy about it. He just tells me it's just another way to be normal. My ex-husband kept trying to change me, so I had to get out of that relationship. My coworkers are pretty OK with it. One of my friends just completely freaked out on me and tried to tell me I was wrong, but he's pretty OK with it now. The internet doesn't seem to mind. My car fucking hates it. My uncle was just straight-up confused. Most of my friends that I've told are good with it. So yeah, that's all I got right now. Most people have seen me subtly cross-dressing in public, so yeah, they kind of figured it out.
My mom found gay porn, and thus "suspected it". One of my friends figured out and could sorta tell. Otherwise, everyone else was kinda shocked hahaha
Some friends jokes that I was gay because I never had had a girlfriend. But when I told them, they were shocked because they didn't really suspect it. Uncle just thought I was a somewhat shy/nerdy kid and it never crossed his mind. Ex-marine and ex-army college buddies suspected it, but only because they said I never stared at the hot girls on campus. Mom never suspected it. I've never told my dad, but in 2005, he found some semi-gay videos on YouTube and questioned me about them. I told him it must have been a computer virus :eusa_liar. I think he has an inkling.
My Mum suspected something `Once caught me moisturizing in front of a big mirror in her room' thought she had gone out:icon_redf. Also a work college guessed I was gay.
2 friends both said that they "knew it" when I came out to them. To my other friends, it was a huge shock and at first they thought I was lying! My Biology teacher honestly didn't care but I'm not sure if he knew already. I'll ask him the next time I see him. I wouldn't have been able to tell his reaction because I came out via a letter.
Curiously, despite having attempted to transition once before (very obviously for about a year), my parents had no idea. As for my sexuality, I never really hid that.
I came out in Dec 2011. Both my sisters knew, one of them being lesbian. The one that is said she suspected it, and my other sister knew since I was very little but didn't think it was a big deal. My parents had no clue though. My college roommates/suitemates somehow knew since freshman year (2008). I've also had friends in my younger years ask if I was, but I had said no. Since 2011, I figure most people know now. My extended family no longer ask me if I have a girlfriend whenever I come home to visit. Since I've came out, I've been more myself, as in I don't try to hide it anymore. Some people are shocked when they find out I am gay, and some people know right away. Most of my work friends at my new job figured it out within a week or two!
I'm only out to two people. My friend, who is also gay, asked me multiple times throughout high school and the first year of college, but I denied it each time. After years of telling her I was asexual, she finally believed me. Then I told the truth. I'm just glad she didn't say "I told you so," because I would have punched her. Another friend asked if I was gay in high school, and I told her maybe, but I think she's forgotten. We also don't talk anymore. The other person I've told is my mom, who didn't seem surprised at all. She didn't say she knew, but I think she at least suspected. I've been wanting to ask her about it, but I'm nervous to bring it up. I think other people probably suspected, but I told them all I was asexual to shut them up. It was a neat little cover story that explained my lack of interest in boys, but hid my interest in girls. Although one girl (who I wasn't really friends with) asked about my sexuality and told me "and don't try to tell me you're asexual, because I know you aren't." I didn't really know what to say to that.
