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I have a thing for black men. Is that bad? How can I get a black boyfriend

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Mozzarella, Jun 24, 2013.

  1. Mozzarella

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    I'm 16. I've never seen another gay guy, but I've never heard of any gay black guys.
    That sucks for me because, I think they're just so cute:wink: I really want a black boyfriend, but I've don't know where to find one.
     
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    There are plenty of black gay guys.
     
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    Not bad at all! I have a thing for black girls.
     
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    There are many black gay men, are nope it's not bad :thumbsup: everyone is attracted to different people, the ideal. I'm sure you can find him. Good luck. Keep searching :slight_smile:
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    There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating someone of another race. It's a shame this could even be a question these days. There are definitely plenty of gay black men out there. I don't think you would have too much of a problem finding someone you are interested in.
     
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    Not at all bad, I think black guys are hot too :grin: lol, I hope I find one who likes a skinny white boy :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    My boyfriend is black (and 65% of my LGBTQ alliance at school is black). Where do you live to not have gay black people? Just wondering.

    Do what you regularly would do. Be honest, funny, witty, have fun, and talk to people.
     
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    I think it's fine to have a "thing" for black men as long as you're not tokenizing them. I suggest just making sure you understand a little about the history of racism so that you have something serious to bring to the table.

    I'm sure black folks would love to be desired more, since they, Asian Americans, and Pacific Islanders are the objects of sexual racist rejection all the time.
     
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    Lol, this is a weird topic. Everyone has their preferences, if you like black men, then date black men. I'm sure there is a guy out there who happens to be black who will be attracted to you, whatever your own race might be.

    The LGBT center I go to is mostly black, so it's interesting to hear different experiences from black gay people. Although, as I found out during last week's group discussion, dating people outside of their race is still just as contentious for some black people as for some white people. Embarrassingly I was the only one at the table during the last group who didn't have a profile on (and in fact, had never heard of before) a certain gay dating site/app specifically for black people. One of the guys in my group had met a porn star on there. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

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    Well you're in Atlanta, Georgia, which is one of the most heavily black metro areas in the United States. There are plenty of places in the U.S., Canada, Europe, Asia, the Middle East, where there isn't going to be much diversity if you happen to be attracted to people outside of your race. Diversity is an advantage of living in a city in a country like the U.S.
     
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    says the person from NYC (which also has a lot of blacks, I'm from there too)

    France,the U.K., and Germany have a lot of black people too, surprisingly (as I am told).
     
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    ...why would you ask if it's bad? :lol:

    This thread >>>
     
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    UK: more indians than afro-caribbean people
    France: lots of west africans
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  13. How is that bad? And trust me there are plenty of black gay guys. You meet them, the same places you meet non-black gay guys.
     
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    The racial/ethnic background of the people you will be able to meet will depend heavily upon your location. Where do you live?

    In any case, when I was on online dating sites, I believe four or five black men emailed me. There are plenty out there.
     
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    i think he is questioning whether this is bad or not since he has a "thing" for black guys in particular. assuming OP is white, and had said he had a "thing" for white guys, everyone would be on his case. somehow, having a "thing" for one racial other is better than having a "thing" for just your own race.

    me, personally, i'm open to every race (just in case i get hit with a barrage of hate :slight_smile:).
     
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    No one has said that having a "thing" for any specific race is a negative thing. Blatantly and, in some cases, offensively singling out a racial sector is. This world doesn't not need to know of those who you find less desirable. We should all be able to mature enough not to feel the need to voice our distastes in others.

    Its no different then how it is appropriate to compliment someone on their beauty, yet inappropriate to call someone ugly.

    Those that think they are simply voicing an opinion should review their linguistics skills. Its not a matter of opinion, its a matter of definitive fact. Liking something is a "preference". Disliking something is not.
     
  17. I'm a little confused by this. Would you say it's okay to not be attracted to a certain race as long as you don't voice it?
     
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    the way i see it, liking one thing over another essentially means you like the rest less, it's just a more politically correct way of putting things.

    a parent who prefers one child over the other is not something i'm particularly fond of. having said that (and given quite an awkward analogy), we can't be accepted to like everyone. for that reason, i couldn't care less about other people's preferences, it's up to them.

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    yes they do. look it up.
     
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    It's so true oh my god.
     
  20. Gen

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    If I thought that Jane was abhorrently overweight, do you think it is my right to tell her?

    Of course not. There is no doubt that many people have racial preference. Body size and image preferences. Masculine-Feminine preference. It is something that for some of them simply cannot be helped.

    Though we are all in full control of the way we use our words. It does no good to inform someone or a social group that you find them less attractive than others. There is no logical excuse. Black people, and members of the various other races, are not going to come running for you if you don't inform them you find them unattractive.

    In what way would you assume my claim of "no one has said" to include the history of the human race. My statement was clearly directed to the confines of this thread. Lets not start being unreasonable.
     
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