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We "choose" our Orientation?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by clarkec1, Jun 26, 2013.

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Do we choose our orientation, or is it natural?

  1. We choose our orientation

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  2. Our orientation is natural

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  1. clarkec1

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    What's your stance on that???
     
  2. King

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    Seriously?
     
  3. Owen

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    Anyone who think our sexual orientation is a choice is seriously undereducated on the topic. Choosing to be gay would be like choosing to be left handed.
     
  4. jargon

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    I don't think its that black-and-white. Some social influences, and maybe even a little "choice," definitely play roles. But mostly its biology.
     
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    In the vast majority of people, its innate.
     
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    ...fairly sure that I didn't choose anything.
     
  7. john1b1

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    I'm of the opinion that most of the people who argue it's a choice are bisexual. I can't imagine how else someone would come to that conclusion; I mean, straight people can't choose their orientation either.
     
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    We were all born to be who we are and none of us chose it. If people think we did then they're ignorant buttfaces to say the least.
     
  9. King

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    Wait what
     
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    I've heard that sometimes people "go gay" for someone, but only that one person. That is quite confusing but fascinating also.
     
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    One of my friends put it to one of my "friends" like this: If you choose to be gay then well heh you're a lot more gay-er then you might think" :icon_lol:
     
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    leave bisexuals people alone!
     
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    The only choice in orientation is whether or not to accept it.
     
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    Exactly. If it were a choice, I wouldn't have freaked out at the first sign of things being obvious. I would have had much better grades in High school because I wouldn't have been so distracted by my denial and gender dysphoria for my latter 2 years.

    Everything would have been peachy keen.
     
  15. Pain

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    This. ^ I chose only to realize that I am gay, and have since evolved to realize that I am gay, and that's good.
     
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    My orientation just happened. I'm 100% OK with that. I really wanted to like girls, but that just wasn't happening.
     
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    It's natural, but I wouldn't say it's simple as born v. choice as studies shows that we have yet to answer the cause of sexuality.
     
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    Exactly, I totally agree with this. Sexual and romantic orientations, as well as gender identity, are innately assigned on a biological level. It is what it is - the only choice is whether you accept yourself for who you are or reject yourself and remain unfulfilled.
     
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    The question (and the way this subject is usually discussed) is an oversimplification of the issue.
     
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    For the record, the only people I've ever heard arguing it's a choice are either in a serious denial stage or super straight and narrow minded. Believe me, as a bisexual I fully realize I had no choice in this matter. I don't know if you followed the multiple threads last week about biphobia, but if you did, I'd think you'd have a good idea what a lot of us have to go through, even within the LGBT community. Who in their right mind would choose that!

    I'm hoping you didn't mean your post in the manner that it came off, but I have to admit that the implication is incredibly insulting to me, and I'm sure other bisexuals as well.

    Now, to turn it around. I have had many people in my life (both gay and straight) tell me that bisexuality is a choice and I need to "just make up my mind". So, orientation being a choice f:***: NO!!