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Overwhelmed by support

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by sidewinderSCOOT, Jul 12, 2013.

  1. sidewinderSCOOT

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    Well about a week or so ago I came out to 3 of my closest friends. One was very accepting and hasn't changed his attitude towards me really...but he hasn't brought up my gayness once since I came out. One was very VERY excited! She couldn't stop hugging me and telling me how proud she is of me and excited for me. It was really nice, but I feel like she doesn't quite get how much internalized homophobia I am trying to work through...she seems more excited than I am. But my best guy friend, he has given me the best support I can honestly ask for. He's been an open ear to everything I had to say and and has been giving me really good advice. He seems so accepting of it it's crazy, I couldn't have imagined anything going better. But I still was feeling down about myself, still felt awkward and uncomfortable . I was texting him (my best guy friend) and gave him a huge rant of how angry I was about being gay and how I was worried to come out to anyone else. He gave me some great advice and said at one point "Just take a deep breath...relax...and remember being gay is NOT WRONG its different...but not wrong in any way shape or form! So just be yourself! And if anybody judges you for that I will kick there homophobic asses! Promise!"
    I have been re reading that over and over everytime I start having a mini panic attack or feeling down. I think he is really gunna help me through this. I am already feeling way better. I urge anyone who's having a hard time and wants to come out to a close friend, do it. Just say it. Get them alone and just say I need to talk to u about something important. And just say it. It's scary, but I feel so much better and it's so nice to hear from another person that your loved. :grin:
     
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    That's fantastic, congratulations for coming out and well done for making friends with such wonderfully supportive people! :grin:
     
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    I am so proud of you. Such an awesome story!
     
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    Thx u guys :slight_smile:
    I woke up this morning and read that text again and feel like I could take on the world! Slowly but surely, I can tell I'm getting better at accepting myself, can't wait till I come out to everyone! :grin:
    But seriously, u never know the support u can receive from a friend till u put ur trust in them. I'm so glad I did, I hope this helps others to as well
     
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    Congratulations, it is always good to hear a positive coming out story, it gives others hope, it won't take away the fear, but it gives people a bench mark to strive towards :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
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    Congratulations, glad it all worked out and you got the support you needed.
     
  7. gavguy

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    A big pat on the back for you, congratulations to have the courage to come out and I bet you feel so much better in doing so ?
    It sounds like you have some amazing friends which is fantastic and it's friends like yours which really make it much easier and are there for you to give support.