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what you think may be your friends talking behind your back

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by jus9405, May 4, 2008.

  1. jus9405

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    sometimes, i have a friend that when i look at them, they look at me like i have done the worst thing on earth. then i get anxious and worry about what the'yre thinking about:help:
     
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    Hm~ I think you are maybe worrying with no reason. I do not know why any person would think bad thing about you.
     
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    true, unless you know the rumours the go through our school
     
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    There is always some thing all person is saying of some person when you are this age. It is silly and some time mean. But it is not mattering and letting this bothering with you is giving person making troubles more power. Ne?
     
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    net, but the thing is the spreads and everyone believes it.:dry:
     
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    At 14, the rumour mill at school seems to work in overdrive, I remember myself. I think the best thing to do, if it's affecting you, is ignore it and if people ask you about the rumours going around about you, then just deny it. If they're good friends, they'll believe you and not the hysterical masses of teenagers. Just act like normal, and the rumours will go away eventaully.

    As some person once said "Today's newspapers wraps tomoro's fish and chips"...(I don't think that's the exact quote, but anyway). What it means is, that in a few weeks time people aren't going to care and will probably forget about it, because they have other meaningless drivel to rave about.
     
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    thanks mate!
     
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    I assume my friends ARE talking about me behind my back. I have no clue what they're saying, but I hope they have a good time doing it. And whatever it is they're saying, I don't let it change what I do, what I say, what I think, or my opinion of them one bit. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    i know how you feel!!!!!
     
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    It's wise to just ignore it. Whatever the rumor about you is, it'll be forgotten when the next huge gossip shows up. Besides, what they're thinking about might not even be about you. They might just be actually worried or something.
     
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    Oooh I simply LOVE it when rumours go around about me! It makes me feel important!

    But seriously these things pass.

    It may take a couple of weeks but people are always spreading different rumours. You'll be fine my love don't you worry,

    If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me okay?
     
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    Ooo i like the way you think!

    I'm on his side, i LOVE it when people talk about me.

    Whether it's because i can laugh at them because they believe stupid things they get told about me, because they have nothing better then to talk about ME or just because of normally the funny situation that causes it!

    Normally it's me joking with some guy then suddenly it's going round the school im in love with him and that he's gay.

    It's great fun!


    Try and see it like that, it really helps.
    I use to hate rumors about me but then i changed my perspective about it all and now i enjoy it!
     
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    lmao, thanks a lot.
     
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    People spend too much time worrying about what other people are thinking about them, when in fact they are just worrying about what other people are thinking about them.
    (I think there's a quote like this, but I came up with this one)


    Don't worry.