I think I'm gay but not really sure. I've felt an attraction towards men for the last 7 years. I can look at an attractive women yet feel nothing. The thing is that I look at a good looking guy and want to be with him yet I don't feel anything sexual. I've looked at porn of both type and it seems that only the one with men excite me. If I am gay that is ok with me but I would like to know definitely.
Well the reason I'm unsure is that I feel a physical/emotional attraction towards men but I don't feel a sexual one.
Why rush into labeling yourself? That just complicates things. So, you have an emotional/physical attraction to men, and a sexual attraction to women, or no attraction at all to women?
Well I think just your introduction alone... brings up many more questions than answers. CLEARLY the diagnoses is yes.. those are all very giving signs of being homosexual... but there is the clear underlying fact that you feel you need to be told. So, leads me to two immediate thoughts, 1.) You've pretty much dealt and have begun accepting it, and just need some reassurance or 2.) You don't have support around you and are still honestly questioning if it will be "okay" to allow yourself to accept you might be gay Any more information? How's your family/friend situation? Do you think you have some accepting people around? Do you feel there will be negative consequences to accepting being gay?
To answer your question, I have no sexual attraction towards woman. My family is very very judging of everything. My dad hates gays with a passion. He feels that it's wrong and gross. My mom and sisters say they accept everyone for who they are but they are always judging others and each other constantly. They are always putting people down who don't live up to their expectations. I am fine with being gay, but I'm scared of what my family might think of me.
Kk, I try to avoid saying labels to new members, but it does in fact sound as if you are gay. Even if you don't have a sexual attraction to men, the only attractions you have sound as if they are towards men. (Sorry for phrasing odd ) The family thing is natural. My mom is a minister, telling her was not easy, but she's *somewhat* accepted it now, (I have like 3 threads about it here >_<). All I can really say is that your family will love you no matter what, there's a chance they'll act disgusted or such, but that will pass in time, as they get used to it. Your mom and sisters are normal lol. A LOT of people say they accept everyone for who they are, then go about being hypocrits and then start judging them. However, it seems like they'd accept their son/brother at least, that's the one common thing I've seen with people like that. (My sisters, as well as my friends mom are all like that, and when we came out, they all accepted it).
Aha we get to the root of it!!! Sexual Orientation and Attraction are kinda two different beast.... while you might be Oriented to men, making you Homosexual... Sexual Attraction can usually only occur afterwards. Personally, I've never been a "hypersexual" person so Sexual Attraction to men is definately not "oooh hot guy *boing" it's kinda different in my situation because I get more Sexually attracted to a person's personality - now when my idea of physical attraction AND sexual attraction meet!! SPARKS!! But enough on this tangent You seem to be in a very good situation, I have a feeling you kinda need a bit of reassurance because you're not "fighting" being gay.. but instead like many, are worried or troubled with the idea of what people will think of you/reactions. While that is a different thing all together (coming out) one of the best times in my life was the months when I'd finally accepted "living as a gay boy" and then slowly thought about coming out. It's like a switch inside you that you have to be okay to flip.
You seem to have said that you do not have sexual attraction to either men or women? Did you mean that? Because that would indicate neither homo or hetero or bisexuality, for the moment. It would indicate a degree of asexuality.
You seem to have said that you do not have sexual attraction to either men or women? Did you mean that? Because that would indicate neither homo or hetero or bisexuality, for the moment. It would indicate a degree of asexuality. [oops, very sorry for double post]
As boy0boy said, being gay doesn't mean you have to do the "oooh hot guy *boing" thing. Sometimes it doesn't work like that, you crave an emotional connection rather than a sexual one. To be honest, it's confusing how it works, but just follow your heart. You want to be with a guy, so look to be with a guy, and the sexual attraction will kick in when you get involved, when you find that emotional connection or whatever you're looking for. As for your family situation, I can't offer much help. Perhaps because it's an issue they haven't given much thought to, they seem closed-minded or judgemental. That doesn't mean they won't love you if you come out, because they will, it just means it might be difficult for them. Is there any way for you to test the waters, see what your mother and sister think. If you maybe came out to one or both of them, they could help you approach your dad
