How do you come out to someone who already knows?

You could probably just tell her through text... if you wish. This would be very easy, in the grand scheme of things. Of course, it falls down to what you're comfortable with and when you feel ready.

 

I think you need to make it clear that you want this topic approached with the utmost seriousness. If when you come out she starts making comments about how she knew all along, just explain to her that this is very hard for you. She will understand and calm down if you make it clear that you're having problems with it.

I know that sometimes it isn't always comforting for them to already know, and it can make the whole thing feel somewhat saddening. However, just remember that if they already love you, then they will support you through everything. Just talk to her. Talking is always the key.

 

JUST TELL,you wil just get plenty of support '-'

 

She is clearly fine with it, maybe next time she says something like "Are you finally going to come out" do it in a back-handed way? Perhaps reply with something like "I'm never going to come out if you keep pushing me!" or "I keep trying to come out to you but I can't get a word in edge-ways!"

And I only came out to most people last month (And my best friend 5 days ago!) but so far, honestly, I haven't felt comfortable talking about it around them. With my parents it's like they don't believe I'm bi and are expecting me to come out as gay at some point so they're ignoring it until that point (They were fine when I told them but haven't mentioned it since) And when I came out to my best friend I sort of panicked and said "But it's not like I'll talk about it at all, I wont change at all" and despite his insistence that it'd be ok for me to talk about guys I liked, I kept insisting that I wouldn't so now I don't want to look like a liar (That second one is entirely my fault though)

It has just hit me that edge-ways might be a local colloquialism. But still, you can probably from the context what it means.

 

To clarify: I mean to say that no matter what you do, it'd be easier coming out to her than it would be to someone else... generally speaking, whether that's through texting or if you do it in person. Texting isn't necessarily the easy way out, either. It's about what's best for you and your situation (And I say 'you' in the general sense here).

I understand what you mean about wanting to talk about it more rather than just telling her and the conversation shifting. You can't control what she'll say, but you could always just try to shift the conversation the way you want it to. Just that one time, I doubt she'd mind, especially since coming out is about you, and not her... not to be self-centered, of course, but that is kind of just the way it is.

Ex. After telling her, you could say that it was a big step for you and that you're glad you got it off your chest. Then you could say something like now you can both point out guys to each other, etc.

Obviously, that's just an example. This should be natural and not forced and scripted, you know? I wish you the best =)

 

Here's another advice, you don't necessarily have to say it to her "I'm gay." Just start talking about a guy that you like (if you do) or a random guy you see on the street, that he's hot, or cute, or whatever. It will confuse her at first, and then see her reaction, and you can tell her honestly. Those comments that she drops, they are there probably as a hint, that she's ok with that and you can tell her. You don't have to put the pressure of a serious conversation with her, you will have those plenty with other people. This way you can somehow ease into it, and after that (if you'd like) you can actually talk about guys you like with her.
Honestly I'd like to have a friend that is constantly dropping comments like that, for me it would take all the pressure away.

 

I would ask of her to not make a big deal out of it, because when people make jokes like that it drops my courage alot and I become really really nervous around them. And that doesn't fare well.

 

Hey there,

When I came out after a good long run of self denial, the first person I told was my absolute best friend Sarah. She is a bit (quite a bit) older than I am, and we are both gamers--that's how we met. When I told her she's like "I'm happy for you that you finally figured this out!" and then after some more conversation she told me that she knew I was gay/bi "the day that I met you." At first it felt really awkward because I was worried that it was that obvious.

However, I quickly remembered that my friend is a stellar judge of character (her hunches about people are almost always right). And what I found comforting is that she stuck around for three years while I was in denial and in a horrible mental place because she thought I was important/worth it enough to stick around for. At the end of the day, I am happy she knew because it tells me that she had always accepted me... and that means the world to me.