coming out to my sister

The best way is to just kind of drop hints, like, when you and her are alone talk about a cute guy. Although if you want to be formal about it you can, just make sure you have a nice private setting and clue her in on the fact you have something important to tell her.

 

agreed, subtle hints, although if she already suspects that you are gay or hardly ever talk to her about important issues then "we need to talk" is probably not the best as it might make it blatantly obvious... i learned that the hard way...

 

I have the same issue... Give it time, and it should be ok.

 

Although dropping hints might work, you need to put yourself in her shoes (sandals?). If you prevaricate, or beat around the bush, she might think all kinds of things, and this will increase her anxiety.

Just say it in the first or second sentence the moment you have some time alone with her. I would recommend doing as follows: "Do you have a minute? It's a bit hard for me to say this [look at her] but you need to know that I'm gay."

You may stumble, and feel embarrassed a little, but saying it first gets it out of the way. Watch for her reaction, then you can start explaining.

When I quit my job of 5 years (and my boss very much wanted to keep me) I said that I had to leave the company before I even fully sat down in front of her. It gave her no time to let her imagination run wild, it's a fact...to be discussed after the fact is established.

 

If you REALLY want to do it, then force yourself into the situation. Tell your sister that you want to talk about something personal in private this weekend. Tell her there's no real rush, but just something important you want to talk about before you leave. She of course will be interested and then she can then take the lead about talking in another room, the car, or wherever - doesn't have to be public.

 

Agree with olides84. If you mention that you want to talk to her about something, you kind of force your own hand. Then she will probably ask you about it when she's in the right mood to have a serious conversation. It has never gone as badly for me as I made it out to be in my mind.

 

That's what I did. I immediately regretted it because I knew it would be awkward and uncomfortable. But then I had to say it, and I'm glad I did. Forcing yourself into a situation where you have to say it makes it easier than just trying to say it, or at least it did for me.