Hi im 14 and pretty sure im gay. Ever sinse around fifth grade i have had crushes on boys, and most importantly my straight best friend from kindergarten. Well i was pretty sure i was gay bc i was not at all sexually attracted to girls. I love spending time with them, but i could never get aroused by them. Also, i feel guilty about it, but i have watched quite a bit of porn. I never really considered straight porn and always watched gay porn. I also like watching bi porn with two guys. But when i watched straight porn i was drawn to the guy. Also, i have mixed feeling about famous people. I find myself crushing on girl actresses bc of their beauty and acting, but again i would never get aroused or be sextually attracted to them. Whereas with guys i would be getting turned on by anything remotely gay or related to guys. Im a boy btw. Well i came out to my cousin who is also gay, and i felt good, but i dont understand how i feel about girls still. Also if im gay, should i even come out yet. I go to a catholic school of snotty rich kids. The place is really sports oriented and there is hardly any lgbt activity there at all. My family is a different story. They are loving and liberal. They would most likely be totally fine with it, but how do i tell my family without my school finding out? Help:help:
It's up to you if or when you come out. You should be ready and comfortable to do so, though, if or when you do. If you tell your family, I don't see why it'd spread to your school. *shrug
My school might find out cuz my siblings both attend, and if the tell one person, well things spread quickly
coming from catholic schools full of snooty rich kids myself, you would be surprised as to how may of my peers turned out being closeted...If you are unsure of your sexuality then i would say to experiment, if you dont feel the same way kissing a women (at your age girl) as you do a man (at your age boy) then you are most likely not bi (and leaning). However if you have kissed both and fell a mutual spark (e.g: attraction) but favor a man over a woman physically (and/or emotionally) then you could be like me... just a thought... When you are certain about your sexuality and if you are certain that your parents would not kick you out or anything of that nature then i would say go for it... if you are afraid of being openly labeled at this time, tell only your family and ask them to keep it a secret, the school (as well as your current friends) need not know... i dont know if you have a dress code like I did, but if you dont and wish to find accepting friends, a bracelet or shirt with the bi flag or the gay flag colors might me very beneficial (whichever you end up identifying with, although due to what you described you seem to have little to no attraction to women sexually and emotionally indicating that you are most likely a 5 or 6 on the Kinsey scale) Whatever you end up identifying with i wish you the best (*hug*), just know that I will try to help if i can... ---------- Post added 19th Jul 2013 at 12:58 AM ---------- If you are worried about your siblings telling then simply tell your parents after the aforementioned topics (in my previous post) are clear in your mind
Ok i've done some soul searching guys...im gay. Im 100% homo, i just need to accept that and move on. Its hard to do that cuz of my friends and my school, but i'll try.