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Well I Fucked that up.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by BleachedHair, Aug 3, 2013.

  1. BleachedHair

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    Was going to come out to one of my friends today. He made a homophobic joke.
    Dropped a few hints. Ummm I don't really know what to do now. Any Ideas?:dry:
     
  2. enigmeow

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    Come out.. He probably knows and thought he was being funny
     
  3. Jinkies

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    Lots of kids your age make homophobic jokes, whether they are homophobic or not. Nevertheless, don't react now. If he seems to like people regardless of sexual orientation, you should be fine. Then might be a good time to come out. If he seems to push towards homophobia, then he's probably not your friend.
     
  4. BleachedHair

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    Hmm... I really doubt he knows. I'm not stereotypically "gay" so how could he know.

    But your right I will come out. If he has a problem with it he can go to HELL
     
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    I highly doubt very many of us posting here are stereotypically "gay"

    In fact, I think there's a thread on it in Chit Chat, but I'm too tired and lazy to grab that at the moment. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Come out! If he's your real friend he will accept you no matter what. A good friend shouldn't just drop you like that *snap* just because of what? You like the same sex? Big deal.
     
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    YOU didn't fuck it up, HE fucked it up. Come out anyway.
     
  8. BleachedHair

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    Very true very true.

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    Thanks

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    Just thought I'd share my irrelevant to this conversation favorite quote.


    You are absolutely unique just like everyone else.
     
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    about the homophobic comments I myself made several comments when I was 14-15 am not proud of it but I was scared to come out to others .