Any advice for doing that quickly? I want that to be out as fast as possible so I can avoid heterosexist people when making new friends. (I'm going into high school—lots of new people.) I also just really want people to know that I'm here, I exist, I'm bisexual, and I'm not out to kill everyone, or whatever people think LGBTQIA+ people are trying to do. So... Any ideas?
Every school has a gossip network, and you could try to use it. If you figure out someone who will be interested in telling other people that you're bi, then telling them casually (so that it's not ammo they can use against you) should mean they do all the hard work for you. This is much more convenient than coming out to every person/class individually. The person doesn't have to be someone you know or like, just someone popular and who will tell others. The news can then spread naturally as people socialise, and you can give it a helping hand and answer questions. However, make sure you're very sure before doing that. When I did, it resulted in about three days of being part of the informal school news, and I received questions from everyone ("who do you have a crush on" was the most common, unsurprisingly; if you don't want to reveal who, if anyone, you have a crush on, you will probably have to be very firm with everyone, because that information will spread around the gossip network just as fast if it gets out), even personal ones from people I didn't know. It's not something you can take back, and it will likely result in everyone knowing if it works, as many people who were outed before they were ready can sadly attest.
Well if I remember school correctly (and I do) you could do basically anything people don't consider normal and everyone would know within about half an hour...I think most people would go for clothing with a rainbow on it unless you want to be completely outlandish and go make out with the first girl you see...(PLEASE don't do that xD ) Also make sure you definitely want that to happen...avoiding people who would think bad of you for it when making friends is a great idea, but you don't want to make life hard for yourself in the process!
Does your school have a GSA club? I like them a lot! And I also found out that the friends I naturally formed are pretty open people (and a lot happened to be bi), so make friends with the people you "click" best with and they should be fine with it. But also I live next to a very liberal city, although still in a more conservative part, so it makes for an interesting crowd at school. Also when I went to GSA I saw a bunch of people I knew and had no earthly idea they were gay/bi. XD Also, GSA is gay straight alliance, so clubs like that are fun. Anywho! Form a good bunch of friends and when you come out, they'll accept you. Also are you wanting to come out to the entire school or just the close friends?
Yes, there's a GSA and when I found that out I just about jumped up and down. I'd like to be out to the people I'm going to see daily; I really don't care if random people that I will never even know exist don't know about my sexuality. I thought about drawing a bisexual pride flag on my binder and writing "Bi Pride" or something on it? Then I can tell people without actually telling people.
SAME situation here! So glad you asked, Sharkamander (whew now i don't have to :icon_redf) I'd say join GSA, thats my plan! And, not trying to stereotype, but theater IS a really good way to meet other LGBTQ. Even if drama's not your thing, stage crew is an option. Question: what's GSA like? And how accepting are high schools of, say, two girls in an out relationship @ school?
