So it has been nearly a year since I came out and being a Unitarian I have been thinking back on what has been a up and down year. I moved to a new city had a new start which has helped, but one thing is that I though coming out would put to bed any doubts worries about my sexuality that I had, however some got worse and resulted in my self harming again, and another admission into therapy. Also I have kinda "femmed" slightly, I used to hide myself so much and now I don't. I wear brighter clothes and more daring stuff. People comment at how I have a "gay mannerism" going around the place. More positive, I have a boyfriend now, I go to pride, I have a rainbow flag tattoo, flags in my flag and I am very out and proud now. Although I have been drifiting towards becoming a LGBT rights activist, I have developed this militant streak in a way, I really stand up for my rights now, something I never did. Best of all I am happy for the first time in my 23 years, I remember a few months ago I was holding my boyfriends hands on this bridge over the Liffy looking out to sea, and I just looked up at my boyfriend and just felt so happy and perfect like this I am finally not hiding and being who I am now. I then had the best kiss ever with him (!) and ended up at my place where we :***:
Congrats on it being a year since coming out! It has been a little over a year for me (came out in April 2012). Things definitely change a lot over the course of a year.
Congrats! I, too, often reflect back on my coming out anniversary and while it has been all easy, I can say I am much more content. I don't worry about hiding my "gay mannerism" either--I am who I am and I am not going to experience any oppression regarding the way my voice sounds, the way I express myself or anything else. I am also a Unitarian Universalist. While there can be ups and downs, I have found, that especially given my age, I am not as worried about what others may think...that is one good thing about age, I suppose! Namaste!
Maybe I laughed a little at how quickly that escalated :lol: Good for you, though! It's not always easy but in the end, life is much better when you're out
Well we have slept together before, but he said he loved me this time, and well it was the best sex ever lol, so I guess its an expression of it. I may have exaggerated we got home, watched movie, drank a few beers kissed alot and then :***:ed Also noticed a typo, I don't have a flag in a flag, I have a huge LGBT flag on my wall in my flat
It's wonderful how far you have come within the last year. Congratulations, and I hope that things will continue to go so well for you.
Well you seem to be in a nice mood today Congrats. It's only been 4 months since I've been out, but I've also realized that I've "femmed" a little as well. Not that I see anything wrong with that, it's something that I find pretty interesting instead and it makes me feel a bit more "free" as well. I'm jealous that you have a boyfriend...I want one too.
