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My roommate caught me with someone!!!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Lovethemdudes, Aug 29, 2013.

  1. Today I was making out (among other things) with this cute guy in my room and my roommate walked in! He quickly left, and we're going to talk soon! I hope he's not uncomfortable with it! What do I do?
     
  2. myheartincheck

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    I would play it off jokingly. Whatever he asks you about just be light hearted about it. If he says something like "are you gay?" say "well the guy I was making out with is." :slight_smile:

    It relieves a lot of tension that way if you can pull off a poker face LoL
     
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    This would be a good time to explain what a rubber band around the outside door knob means...

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    Im curious... What does it means?
     
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    ... or a condom
     
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    Actually, as far as I know, it doesn't mean anything. BUT it could be used as a symbol for one roommate to tell the other "I'm with my boyfriend, and we don't want to be disturbed."
     
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    Exactly. Anytime you're "in the middle of something" and don't want to be disturbed, place a rubber band around the doorknob. That could be while you're working on some hugely difficult homework assignment, or watching porn...or recreating porn. :slight_smile:

    Well, at that point, you may as well put up a note:

    "DON'T COME IN - WE'RE SCREWING"

    Lex
     
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    My roommate in college and I used a hair tie. :slight_smile:
     
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    One of my friends lived in a dorm room that had one of those slatted metal ventilation grids on the door. He and his roommate rigged a little piece of paper that sat in the grid. You couldn't see it unless you knew it was there, and they didn't tell anyone (well, except me) about it.

    The advantage to that is... nobody else knows what's going on. The problem with the rubber band or hair tie is, others likely know what it means, and if you have particularly obnoxious friends, they'll pound on the door and yell "I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING IN THERE!!" This, of course, being the voice of experience :slight_smile:
     
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    I've never heard of rubber bands or anything on the door. When people wanted privacy at my college, they just put a sign on the door to knock before entering.

    But at least, if you haven't done so already, you have a chance to come out while the school year is just starting, so you can get it over with right away and feel freedom during the rest of your time. It's best to talk about things openly, so in the future you can feel comfortable telling him if you need some time alone.

    Of course sometimes a roommate needs to be in the room, so people would go to the common room on the floor, close the door, and do their business in there. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Of course, if your friends see you go into your room with whomever you're dating, and then shut the door, they may draw the same conclusions.

    The only safe approach is to get a dorm room on the lowest level, and do some excavation to install a secret passage so you can slip in and out with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Plus a secret passage is a good way to avoid the RA when he or she is on the war path.:lol:
     
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    Should have asked. "Why did you leave? Should have joined in :wink:"



    Nah on a serious note should just confront him about it and say I am who I am if you don't agree with it then I'm sorry you feel that way if your cool with it could I have privacy now and again? ^-^
     
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    On that note, my dorm had a vending machine in the lounge that sold candy bars, cookies... and condoms. Everything in the machine was 50 cents except for condoms, which were $1.50 for 3. So the evil people sitting in the lounge (which, I'm sure, included me at one point) learned that they could listen when someone used the vending machine and tell how many quarters were dropped, and then, if it was more than two, they'd wait about 15 or 20 minutes, and then 4 or 5 of them would go beat on the person's door and say "We know you're sinning in there" or some such. But everyone sort of did it to everyone else (except the people smart enough to go to the campus sexual info center and get free condoms), so I guess it worked out :slight_smile:

    To the OP: Sorry to hijack your thread :slight_smile:
     
  14. Thanks for the feedback, y'all. So everything's cool. My roommate obviously felt awkward about it, but said he'd feel the same if he walked in on me with a girl. He wasn't really shocked that I'm gay and doesn't care about it. He just wants me to text him next time. On another note, everyone on my hall's seen my hickey and kind of knows what happens...LOL, college life.
     
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    LOL. Sounds like the classic "we all knew you were gay duh" situation.

    Are they noticeable though? Like I know some people use socks, but rubber bands?
     
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    :lol: If I'm ever in this type of situation, I'm stealing that.
     
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    My roommate used bright yellow caution tape. Not so subtle.
     
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    in the age of cell phones...a simple "hey man I've got someone in the dorm" works well
     
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    same here xD :']
     
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    i might be a litl young but i went t 4-h camp me and i bisided to room with my frendd who is bi and we dident bdo anything but kissed 1 time and evry night we put up a sine that sed nock loudly sleping so if we were sleeping or wen we kissed that 1 time thay wald knoke it warked