How to tell if a guy is gay

you can't Try to become his friend. Umm, you would like him to be your friend if he was straight, wouldn't you? Because if not...there is no point in asking if he is gay.

 

I don't think you should ask him - just because of the reason you mentioned. If you become friends and he will trust you, he will tell you eventually.

I don't know. What about starting with little everyday talk about the class, about lunch at school, about a new teacher, about yesterday's TV program, about sport events?

 

Firstly, try checking his facebook and looking at his "Interested in" status. Like you said, he may be in the closet, but he may be like me and have that secretly saying he's interested in men.

In any case, I'd try to become his friend first or come out first or mention somethin lgbt activist related and discretely gauge his reaction.

 

There's really no way to tell. There's no cookie-cutter gay man. The Facebook "Interested In" is a terrible way to see if someone is gay or straight. Just whatever happens, happens. Just let it be.

 

I was like you, in the closet and a bit homophobic (your not the only one, its kinda a way of denying what your not ready to accept).

But with him, try complimenting him occasionally. Oh, I think 'insert males name here' is cute. See what his reaction is. He might be stunned ans say, 'I know', or anything could happen, just make hints. But be careful, if your too forward he might think your trying to get close to him, and if he is closet gay/bi, he might throw loads of walls up, and things could be worse between you.
So, caution is key

 

Right. And when the ones that are really off the radar turn out to be interested in guys, it's sort of a WTF. On the subway, I'd regularly see this guy who was kind of a stocky, sandy haired type who was into his paper and his music, and in his mid to late 30s. He didn't have a wedding band, but I just assumed he was straight. Also riding the train, I would see a guy who was thin, slightly nerdy, wore a suit, carried a leather work bag, had a wedding band, and who was in his late 30s or early 40s. It was a good nerdiness, as opposed to a bad nerdiness, which is subjective. One day, these two ended up near each other, with the big guy sitting down and the thin guy standing near a door, and holding one of the overhead handles. The big corn-fed ex football player type would NOT take his eyes off this guy, and even kept looking at him out the window as he was walking off into the platform. I was stunned.

Sometimes, people determine sexuality by omission. That is, not having a significant other or passing certain age benchmarks and remaining single. That's not a foolproof method, but sometimes I've seen it be correlated.

 

Thing is, you can't. If you really want to know, ask him.

 

All you can do is ask him.

 

Are you out to him? If so he might trust you more because you trusted him.

 

Give him the secret handshake that all gay people know!

But more likely friends first, it'll just take a while

 

Its impossible... Some people just make it more obvious then others but you can never really tell otherwise.

 

The eyes... Who do they look at more? Well, gaze not look

 

You'll NEVER know if he's gay if you don't talk to him. It's almost impossible. No joke, people that had known me ALL THROUGH HS were shocked when I came out. I never had a girlfriend, but nobody ever speculated because I'm not a gay stereotype. Even if you talked to me, you'd never know unless I said "I'm gay."

You must befriend him. Then you get to know each other. Maybe once you're friends and have trust, a coming out from you will prompt one from him.

 

It's a chance you'll have to take to find the answer.