Hey guys! I was wondering from other transmen or transwomen...did you have a new name by the time you came out to your close friends or family? Part of me wants to have a name before I come out to anyone else (I've told two people) so that I can immediately say "I am trans, this is my name and these are my pronouns, respect them" but the other part of me thinks letting my mom help in picking a new name might be a way to comfort her. Any stories or advice? Thanks!
I'll be honest. When I first began coming to terms with my gender, my name was one of the first things that came to me. Partly because I'd kept a mental list for years of what I'd name myself if I were a boy. But anyway. Perhaps coming up with a nickname (gender neutral, male, etc) might be a good placeholder for people to address you as before you settle on a name, with or without your mother's help? I myself was going to let my mother help figure out a middle name since obviously "Ann" isn't among the most masculine of middle names. Therefore giving her some say in the name and because I'm having a bear of a time coming up with anything.
I also am going to let my mom help with my middle name. My first name is androgynous so I don't think I'll change it, except maybe the spelling.
Honestly I have had a name in mind for ages for "if I would have been a boy". It wasn't until really, really accepting myself that I started to doubt that name. I feel that it is a very neutral name and might still cause me to get misgendered. :dry:
I have no idea, but then mum sort of forced it out of me so I never really had a chance. I figure she'll let me know what her name is when she's ready to come out for real...
Awwh Ellia. *hug* I've had my name for a long while now. I just feel better telling it to someone when I explain who I am.. Almost like the name helps them to understand better. I always hated my given name anyway so I'd prefer to be called what I'd like than what icky name that was. xD
I've came out to most of the people that matter in my life, but I don't have a name yet. For me, it's a very picky thing. I have to seek meaning in names, what they mean, where they come from, how they apply to me, and ultimately how they sound and look when written down. I have a few names picked out as considerations, but I haven't picked one yet. I don't think it's necessary to have one picked out before you come out, but I can see why some people would think differently.
I didn't exactly have a set name the moment I came out. I do know within a few weeks of starting the coming out process I had a semi-solid name for myself.
It's my fancy fabulous name Bahaha I'd have it exactly as my username is if I had the choice honestly. what's your ellia so I can call ya that from now on
Mine showed up a few weeks after realizing that there was a word for what I was always feeling. I use a r.e.e.s. Rees, sounds like Reese each letter is the beginning of a name. I have four names. It's who I was always meant to be
