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Coming out/ hurting friends

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by likeapanda101, Sep 4, 2013.

  1. likeapanda101

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    i have an issue. Well first off, i'm 14 in my first year of highschool. 7th grade i came out to my best friend and she told everyone. i was bullied. But even worse, everyone decided the people i hung out with were with me and we did bad things in class. eventually the rumors went away from me and were 100% about my friends. They were physically bullied because i came out to 1 friend. That was in a school of 500. Now im in a highschool of 200 (its only freshman and sophemore.) I dont want to hide anymore. i want people to know who i am. But im so scared that my friends will get hurt again. And what would happen if i lost my newer friends? Im just so scared of hurting people but at the same time i hate lying and pretending im all about guys. please help me:tears:
     
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    Well, your "best friend" was the one who told everyone...

    Are your other friends supportive of you though?
     
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    Yes they are. But that friend I told turned on me. I know my friend now wouldn't, I just don't want the rumors to spread to them
     
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    Try experimenting with smaller secrets with you new friends, like what you're most afraid of. This way you also develop stronger friendships AND can see if they can keep a secret. Best of luck to ya!
     
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    if they're real friends theyd still rather you not live a lie.. as long as u are still their friend if they stand by you.

    Its unlikely that will happen again though really... I dont think its a common reaction, and even if it did, it will get old as soon as they find someone else to pick on about something