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Won't stop sending me pictures where I look feminine UGHH

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by transqueer, Sep 6, 2013.

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  1. transqueer

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    I decided to come out to a cousin who I felt was a really close friend. I had come out to the boyfriend, I came out to the handful of close friends who I felt deserved to hear it from me instead of from gossip or facebook or seeing my name change. Then I decided not only did I want help figuring out how to tell my mom, but I wanted to tell my first family member.

    So I messaged him.
    His response? "Your therapist probably convinced you" "But youre such a pretty girl" and now today he has sent me numerous pictures where I am wearing a skirt or look extra "girly"

    HOW do other trans people handle this? I KNOW more family members are going to do this. It hurts and it makes me feel sick and horrible.
     
    #1 transqueer, Sep 6, 2013
  2. Argentwing

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    If the person sending them to you is a guy: "How would you like it if somebody sent YOU a picture of yourself in a skirt looking girly?"
     
    #2 Argentwing, Sep 6, 2013
  3. Nick07

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    Give them time. I guess it's very difficult to cope and understand that.
     
    #3 Nick07, Sep 6, 2013
  4. Lexington

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    "Just because I can look feminine, and can rock a skirt well, doesn't mean I'm not genderqueer."

    Lex
     
    #4 Lexington, Sep 6, 2013
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    Just tell him to stop being a dick and what you wear means nothing
     
    #5 Ohhai, Sep 6, 2013
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    im a girl and i look better in mens clothes than womens cuz skirts and dresses look weird on me and i think mens clothes are more comfy :slight_smile:
     
    #6 Macabremelody, Sep 6, 2013
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    Men's clothes are definitely comfy.
     
    #7 Ohhai, Sep 6, 2013
  8. shea429

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    its interesting.... the closer the person is to us, the more the negative reactions hurt. I have yet to come out to very many people and those that i have i was fairly sure either had to know such as my fiancee or where going to be ok with it.

    As for what you should do transqueer i agree that giving it time and letting him come to terms with this is what is needed. and it will get better with time.
     
    #8 shea429, Sep 6, 2013
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    i think you should to him explain that this is what you really want, not what the therapist "convinced" you to do like he said, and you should also tell him that when he sends these pics it hurts you, if you dont do this, i think him and other family members will keep doing this for a long time
     
    #9 SilverGirl, Sep 6, 2013
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