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Recently came out to my family, now what?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by TizianoBae, Sep 7, 2013.

  1. TizianoBae

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    Hi everyone, I'm new here, so I recently came out as gay to my family, they were so supportive, my mum and sister all suspected for a while now, :newcolor:, so what do I do now?
    Should I tell my extended family or what? :confused:
     
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    Hi! Well I'm in that exact same situation (only out to my family), actually my sister said "I had a feeling..." when I told her :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: that's what I am planning to do next, but not for a while (you are older so it makes more sense that you should do it now, i think?) However my older extended family is pretty traditional catholic so I wasn't planning on coming out to them at all, is your rest of your family pretty accepting? If they are then I think it would be a good start, because there is a good chance that they'll love you unconditionally, as supposed to some other people, unfortunately. Especially if you are going to start dating soon I think they would like to know! good luck! :slight_smile:
     
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    Hi there, and welcome to Empty Closets! :slight_smile:

    Congratulations on coming out to your family. How you want to continue to come out, is really up to you. If you feel that your extended family is supportive as well, maybe try coming out to them when you have an opportunity to do so.

    You could also try gauging if you would be ready to come out to some of your friends, and be yourself around them as well. Would you feel ready to come out to a friend or two?
     
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    Who do you want to tell next? Do you feel comfortable and ready to come out to other people? Its all up to you
     
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    Come out to your friends and hit the bars :wink:
     
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    I'd love to come out to my extended family soon, although the one person I don't want to come out to is my grandmother, because I'm scared that she'll reject me, what should I do? :confused: I'm glad I came out to my family, I'm gay and proud of it! :newcolor:
     
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    Well, do you really have to? I mean, I'd personally let it be, since, if you can tell/told the rest of your family, there's not a lack of support, if it really bothers you, you can of course just go for it and hope for the best.
    Good luck!
     
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    I also came out quite recently to my family,
    But I feel that the popularized culture of "You must come out completely" is quite overrated,
    In the end you must come out to those you feel should know,
    And to those who you feel comfortable coming out to!

    If you think their reactions may be unfavorable It might be best to let this one go,
    Or if even with that type of reaction,
    You still feel the need to get it off your chest,
    Then do so!
    It's such a personal thing that in the end it's all up to you and what you yourself can handle!

    No one knows your personal situation better than yourself,
    But I am glad to hear how good your families initial reaction was,
    Best of luck!
     
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    I think I'm gonna leave it until 2014, cause there's too much going on in my life at the moment with college and all, so I'm gonna leave it, P.S. Anyone excited for Britney Jean? :icon_bigg
     
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