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Coming out to my parents

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by fluteloop, Sep 8, 2013.

  1. fluteloop

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    So, my parents are homophobic, but I really hate keeping a secret from them. Should I tell them or not? if I do, I don't know what to say...
     
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    Tell them the truth dont wait because waiting will just tear you apart they are you parents they live you
     
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    They are your parents they should love u no matter what x
     
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    Hopefully they'll be okay with you xxx
     
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    My sibilings are homophobic too, but its not like your parents are going to wake up every morning and say "hey , our son is gay, better stay away from him". Its only akward for a little while, then things will blow off.
    Good luck.
     
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    What people havent mentioned is you need to make sure you are safe There are a lot of homophobic family members who just dont understand and then get educated and adapt when their kid comes out, but there are also a lot of family members who kick their kids out for being LGBTQ so before you come out, I would make sure you have a safe place to go to if they dont handle it well at first. And maybe some money.

    But you absolutely should tell them as long as you are not going to put yourself in harms way by doing so.
     
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    Like the poster above me, you need to consider various consequences of coming out if your parents are homophobic. First, try to set up somewhere you can go in the case they react badly and/or kick you out of the house.
     
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    Thanks all :slight_smile:
    I'm talking to my friend about staying with her if they don't like it. <3
     
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    I'm having the exact same issue I'm only 13 and it is hard my parents have some hints towards my sexuality but they don't really know but yea it's hard and if they don't except it could be devastating but they are your parents they love you
     
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    I'm right there with ya! I hate keeping this from my parents. But be careful, you are still so very young. You have plenty of time, don't rush things! Best of luck in whatever you decide to do!