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My Friend Told All the school

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by RawringTiger, Sep 11, 2013.

  1. RawringTiger

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    Im on my last year of high school and my best friend told the whole school that im gay and now they keep making fun of me and make homophobic comments
     
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    Sorry this happened. Did your "best friend" apologize to you?
     
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    Your "friend" made a huge blunder. If he is still your friend, he should make amends by speaking to everyone he told that it was not cool what he did...odds are he won't, but I'm and idealist...
     
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    Was this friend actively working against you, or just prone to bouts of stupidity?
     
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    If it's like what happened to me, he could just tell 1 person, who tells others and so on. In a small school it can be especially awful. But OP you are nearing the end, so you just gotta keep your head up and hopefully someone will wake up and come to your defense.
     
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    Was this friend secretly a d-bag? Do they at least feel bad for what they did? Have you told them what their actions have caused?
     
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    Sorry this happend, some friend he was, just get though it and its your last year, if I was you I would tell my "friend" to tell him its not cool and to buzz off. But I don't know how it feels but I'm sure you can get though this
     
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    Wow, I hope you are not friends with that guy anymore. No friend would ever do that kind of thing. I'm sorry that happened, stay strong!!
     
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    I'm so sorry this happened to you. That's not fair at all.
     
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    tell your 'best friend' that they're a horrible person and never want anything to do with them again.

    Then find a new friend amongst the people that aren't being mean :slight_smile: there will be some
     
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    Friend? Who needs enemies...
     
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    Bless you, that sounds like a really difficult situation to be in when you're stuck with all the people at school every day. It will get better for you. Once you've left school/sixth form it is a lot easier to just stay away from people you don't like and you won't have to see most of those homophobic morons every again. Just remember, these people are arseholes, it's not really anything to do with you, it's just they need to validate themselves by putting others down. Personally I've always liked, "Yeah, so?" as an I-don't-give-a-shit comeback too. If you act like you don't care, they might get bored.

    Also, don't know if you've heard of the Equality Act, but your school has a legal obligation to try to put a stop to homophobia - maybe you could tell a teacher who you think will be supportive? You could also find an LGBT group to join so you've got support outside of school and someone to vent to.