Passive Agressive/Pseudo Supportive responses to coming out

Hi,

I don't quite know how to label it but some of the people I have been telling have been sort of passive aggressive/pseudo supportive. I tell them I am gay or queer and then go into this thing about how sexuality is fluid, no one is totally one or the other etc. ( which is true (for many people), but sort of a lame response to someone telling you they are gay). This is coming from straight people who have no idea what it really means to be gay and the level of discrimination that still exists. It is really irritating me. Perhaps I should not be so picky, but I feel like it is sort of disguised homophobia. These are the same people that tell me that it is a private thing (which is so easy for straight people to say when they don't have to be private about their lives) It reminds me of 'don't ask, don't tell' It is hard because I say they are not being supportive but are they?

Am I being overly sensitive?

Emily

 

Thanks Split Arrows, you did make sense I get the sense that they are trying to make me feel less 'different' so have to appreciate that.

Emily